#bisexual advice

[mcgriddle-meal]

GUYSSSS

Ok so my friend js realized she bi and realized she has a FAT crush on her friend and doesn’t know if her friend is straight or queer and she doesn’t know if she should tell her friend she likes them or not

What should she do???

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[knoxviiies]

does anyone else feel like women hate them? like on dating apps i never get matches with women even when i have my settings set to women only. I’ve probably had about 3 matches with women. It makes me feel insecure because i match with men and men are so shallow i feel like they’ll go for anyone, but women actually care abt who they match with so they dont want someone ugly u know…. so im like, am i ugly??? i know im not horrendously ugly but i am on the bigger side and i know everyone has preferences but do i really not appeal to any woman?? idk it just makes me feel insecure more than i already am

[unambiguouslybi]

hi, i thought i was a lesbian for the majority of my teenage years. i recently realized that i actually do like men, and that i was suppressing my attraction to them because i lived in a very homophobic environment and i felt like i had to be "fully gay" to justify an escape. i felt like if i liked men i could just settle down with one and live a safe life instead of leaving everything behind. i felt like it was "selfish" to want women if i had a safer option. how do i get over this shame?

This is the sort of heart breaking question that doesn't have an easy answer, and I get the sense that many m-spec folks have to grapple with it-including myself.

I think you realize this, but it is not selfish to want to live as your most authentic self. I would hope that this decision is made based on who you genuinely want to be with [regardless of if they're a man or woman] rather than external pressures one way or another. Unfortunately I recognize that real life is messy, and things like this are often much more complicated.

Honestly, I'm not sure how to get over the shame of your situation. It sucks to make these kinds of decision. If anyone else has any advice for this anon, please share, I'm sure they would appreciate it

[softnala]

So…my friend is kind of questioning her sexuality…and I don’t what spectrum(?) she’s siding with. If anyone can help her it would be so great. What she basically said that I had to send her back just to see if I understood correctly was…

“So basically. You are into guys, you like…seeing lesbian and gay couples because it feels genuine to you(?)..and you love lesbian porn but you’re not into women but you also want to try kissing girls…you also wish to have sex with girls but not want a serious relationship with them…you like to have sex with a man but feel disgusted by the male reproductive organ…”

This is the text I sent her to recheck because I was so confused I had to double check. So please if someone could help her out she would be so grateful. I feel like she’s straight but idk.

[thedelusionreaderbitch]

How the fuck do I come out to my aunt?!

Guys so not many you may know this, but I'm bi. Yup, and most of my family knows but my extended family (how are not homophobic, or biphobic) don't know! My aunt who I know would be super supportive saw something on my instagram that apparently made her have a question! I need help! I have no idea how to come out to her, I don't know I how I did it with my parents but please help! And she's coming over (social distanced) tomorrow! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I need some advice!

[what-garden-are-you-from]

HELP

Can I have some lesbians and bisexuals or former lesbians who are now bisexual or bisexuals who are now lesbians comment below.

So for a long time I indentified as bisexual, because I found men attractive but I wasn't sexually attracted to them. The few men I've been sexually attracted to, I've had very strong romantic feelings for...it was these few men who have stopped me from calling myself a lesbian.

Recently I discovered that I'm no longer attracted physically to one of those men on my list, and that he works better as my friend. So there's literally one guy keeping me from calling myself a lesbian. But, I think that if maybe I found a guy who was liberal, and either in the LGBT community or an excellent ally, and open with his feelings and compassionate, that maybe I could like him too? But I feel like they are far and few to come by.

I know that labels aren't important, but I feel very lost in my identity at the moment. I know I prefer women, but I can also be emotionally and sexually attracted to certain men as well. I'm just super confused and I'm sure someone else has gone through this. Please help😭😭

[daydreamerwithapen]

Talking to all my bisexual folks

Guys I promise you don't need to hide or give up on your bisexuality in order to be in a loving and fulfilling relationship. Let me tell you:

I am in a ten months relationship with a guy who has never had any contact with anything related to the lgbt community before dating me. Also, he was raised in that kind of family that, like, acknowledges the existence of gay people, but doesn't really care about what happens to them... they are pretty neutral about it.

I admit that, when we got together, he didn't know I was bisexual yet, but I was willing to say it to him one day, hoping that he would accept it, but still knowing that if he didn't I had to leave him.

So, a few days after we got together, I found out that somebody outed me to my bf, without my permission to do so. I started panicking. I felt like a liar and I was very ashamed and sorry for not being able to tell the truth to a person I really cared about.

Then, when we finally discussed it, he said: "I don't understand bisexuality, but I believe you. It's okay for me, I just hope to be enough for you even when I can't physically give you what you need", which is something that impressed me a lot, and made me love him even more. Then he asked a lot of questions about my sexuality, out of curiosity (and of course I found out he used to believe in every single stereotype about bisexuality lol).

But the thing is, even if my bisexuality was a surprise for him, he didn't make a big deal about it, he just... accepted me for who I am. And he asked questions to comprehend my world a little bit more. This is what love is all about.

So, if somebody isn't willing to accept you for who you are, or if they ask you to hide something important about yourself, then let them go. You deserve to be with someone that loves you and cares about the real you. If they love you, they won't care about your sexuality, they will trust you and they will believe you. Don't settle for less than that.

[woclovingwoc]

I think I might be bi??? How do I know for sure???? 😳😔 I'm pretty confused rn so if any of you're followers could help me out that would be great thank youu

For me, confirming I was the sexuality I believed I was was just a matter of time, research, and experiences. Try researching and listening to other people’s stories, join some clubs or experiment in your dating life, talk with your friends and family that you trust, and know that you have time to figure it out.

Anyone else with advice feel free to voice it!