#boyfriend tips

[sanri0girly]

Omg I can't believe my man was over and we didn't kiss we wanted to so bad!!! I could feel the tension TT!!! PLS HOW DO U EVEN KISS??? I've never has a bf💔

[dont-get-axe-murdered]

Husband Tips #1

No one tell my husband, but his Spotify is linked to his discord so when he's listening to sad music, I text him saying my boyf instincts are telling me somethings up and ask if he wants to talk. He doesn't know how I do it.

[positivegabby]

Space

When someone is asking for space it does not mean that they want time away from you. It means they want time with themselves. I feel so selfish when I look back at how toxic my relationship became because I was not allowing my boyfriend time to himself to recharge, fill his love tank, release endorphins, meditate and be with friends. I was taking him away from what made him feel alive. And who am I to tell him what makes him feel alive or good about himself. This ultimately led to our downfall and breakup. We were so unhappy but I did not understand why.

Through my research I learned that women need oxytocin, the love endorphin, that makes them feel good and confident. Men have the same thing but this is testosterone. I also learned that when you cry tears release chemicals that others can pick up on causing them to feel empathetic, this is why some people cry when they see others cry and they dont understand why. But women tears specifically release a chemical that reduces testosterone in men. Makes them feel un-masculine. This makes so much sense to me because I couldn't understand why my boyfriend felt aggressive or why I wasn't feeling love from him specifically when i was crying. I prevented my boyfriend at all times from re-filling his love tank and from building testosterone because i was so dependent on him. Being dependent on someone is so so so bad for your relationship. I lost my boyfriend because of this. I did not want to give him space when he asked for it so it caused our break up. I wish i knew then what i know now. I would give him all the space he needed. I let my relationship get toxic and did not realize it was my own fault. I blamed him when it was me who subconsciously did everything. 

So my relationship or break up tip to you is :

if he/she wants space give them space

allow them to find what recharges them and encourage them to do that

meditate with your significant other

if you need space explain to them what space is, time to yourself, and that you will return recharged and better than ever.

tap into your subconscious and recognize your needs and meet them yourself

[positivegabby]

Really nice talk on the law of attractive and the 6 week love detox

[positivegabby]

My first true love. I owe so much to him. Ultimately we ended things because my self-hate and lack of care was manifesting into him and our relationship. I was co-dependant and not authentic to myself. I kept many things private and hid them from him because I knew it would trigger him or bother him. I was not being true to myself because I wanted his love and would do anything to keep it. Growing up I always experienced anxious attachment styles. He always saw the inner me that I couldn’t see. He tried so hard for me to see it but my ego was so big I told him there was nothing wrong with me. I am fine I don’t need therapy. I don’t need to go to yoga, the gym, on a run, talk to friends, get a manicure. All the things he wanted me to do I said no and found an excuse. While in the relationship I never understood now I see why I rejected all those things. I did not think I was worthy. I did not see myself worthy of self love. So why go to therapy or yoga or experience things the inner me would enjoy.  

I owe so much to him for seeing that in me. I have forgiven myself for the pain I caused him and how I reacted to his anger. We are all human and react differently. I felt alive and cried for the first time in about 2 years. Feeling alive was not all about happiness but also about sadness. He allowed me to feel all those feelings alone and I needed that. The inner me loves the person he is and respect the space he has placed between us. I would love to have him in my life but understand that I cannot be selfish. I do not need his love anymore. I have enough love for myself to fill my love tank every day. I want to share this new me with him but understand that might not happen. If I end up with him it will be because its been written in the stars this way and if not I will always remember him and the kindest and biggest fan of my inner me. I will always love him. And thank him for exposing me to pain and a such a deep feeling of grief that allowed me to grow. 

[beautybeneaththemakeup]

New Post has been published on http://www.chelseacrockett.com/wp/teentalk/what-to-ask-yourself-before-a-breakup/

What to Ask Yourself Before a Breakup

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us will dump or be dumped multiple times before we find Mr. Right. When you are the one doing the breaking up, things can get awkward. Really awkward. No breakup is easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. The feelings and realizations that the relationship isn’t working happen over time. Before you decide to break up with someone, there are a few things you should ask yourself in order to make the process as painless, for both of you, as possible.

What is the reason I want to break up with them?: This is something you will get asked a lot. “Why did you break up?” To prepare yourself for this, write down your feelings. Make a list of pros and cons of breaking up, or write down the reasons you think you should, just so that you can go back later and be confident in your decision and not feel regret.

“What will things be like after we break up?”: Most people who are dating see one another a lot. They hang out a lot, see each other’s families a lot, and are pretty invested in one another’s lives. Once you break up, all of that changes. This is one of the toughest parts of a breakup, the “not being with each other all the time” part. But this also means that now, since you are single, you can focus on yourself more and hang out with friends or do things you want to do when you want to do them. Alone time is healthy!

“How do I break up with them?”: Now that you are 100% confident that you want to break up with them, you should do the act in person. You need to be face to face so that there is no misunderstandings or unnecessary hurt feelings. Be confident, and be clear about why you are ending things.

Reflect on the relationship: Everyone learns something from each relationship that they have been in, whether it is finding out that you love sushi or that you really don’t like it when the person you are dating chews with his mouth open. You learn more about yourself and about what you want in a life partner. Ask yourself what are some positive things you can take away from the relationship and focus on them when you feel down.

Breakups are tough, but they aren’t the end of the world. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! It gets better.

XOXO, Chels

[musical-theatree]

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