Hi I totally forgot about accusations on Graham Coxon since May.I was new fan, and I only followed bpa, so I simply thought this accusation ended up. But I’ve found your page and just read all you uploaded since last November. In shortly, I think there is two problems: 1. Graham has continuously talked to fans privately via social media, met up fans and ghosting them since 2012-Recorded by the Mexican fan 2. His ex-partner thingsIs this right? Or Is there anything else I should know?
Hey! Thanks for asking ❤️ and also reading everything. You probably read this but unfortunately bpa was, in my opinion, pushed to a mental break because of pro GC fans which is really unfortunate because it's created some misinformation that the allegations are not true. We've tried to get correct info out there but we've been dealing with harassment also so it's been difficult but I'm glad you found this page. I will try to mark which things are facts and what is conjecture.
1. (Fact) Yes, he has a history of DMing his fans, sending selfies - a lot of the selfies you see posted he sent to girls in the late 2000's. That allegation is confirmed by a lot of people/relatively well known in the fandom.
2. (Fact) His wife Essy has alluded to having PTSD, being a survivor, and abuse. She's also posted multiple things alluding to the allegations, and bpa, and everything that was happening (some of which she deleted - I've tried to record the important ones here).
3. (Fact) Graham has been liking a lot of narcissist support tweets on Twitter because he knows people check his likes. (Conjecture) It seems like this is his way of smearing Essy and convincing pro GC fans he is the victim and Essy is an abusive narcissist.
4. (Fact) Some alleged victims deactivated once BPA had a paranoid break. I tried to do damage control but unfortunately they are too scared to deal with the harassment of pro GC fans. A lot of them have spent years reconciling that this happened to them. I can't blame them, the toxic GC fans have pushed me out of Blur fandom.
5. (Fact) His new partner Rose is pregnant, she also followed the alt insta account he had so it's confirmed he makes alt accounts. He also suspiciously unfollowed a lot of people once BPA posted that alt account.
6. (Fact) There's some bad actors in fandom right now trying to fabricate lies about Essy, the allegations, and trying to undermine any account that holds GC accountable. One of them has been friends with Graham since ~2009 and is trying to protect him by creating lots of alt accounts and pushing false narratives to pro-GC or questioning fans - so watch out for that. This person is known to be a pathological liar (pre-allegations) and I have proof that they are close friends with Graham. They are friends with the girl you see Graham at a hotel with in the videos (posted below). They've been feeding young fans and pro GC fans misinformation also to cover for Graham. He did ghost these fans for a few years, but as soon as he and Essy split he began talking to them again. He ghosts a lot.
6a. (Conjecture) Both of them think that GC fans are really stupid and keep posting proof like the video below to a) get attention and b) see how GC fans cover for him even with it's blatantly obvious he's on irl terms with these fans and giving one a stuffed animal is arguably a romantic gesture.
7. (Conjecture) Graham is aware of all of this and lurking and trying to reframe the narrative. It's very narcissistic behavior (gaslighting). There's a saying that narcissists become loudest just before they're about to be caught. He's very careful with what he DMs fans and it seems like most of the time it's manipulating young fans. He's very smart about the trails he leaves.
8. Our only goal with this is to make the fandom aware - particularly the younger fans who are most parasocial - that this is not a safe fandom and that tweeting or posting overtly sexual things @ him can lead to becoming a victim if these allegations are true (I have to say allegations for legal reasons). A few of us can attest to the parasocial feeling and how strong it is when you're young. Now we're older we can see how wrong it is, how sm has made this power dynamic really abusive and it pains me to see it happening still 10 years later, and the girls younger. We don't want anything to do with the Blur fandom anymore, though I'm happy to help with info. I've been here 13/14 years and seen a lot and invested a lot. I covered for Graham a lot as a fan and when bpa came around I decided I needed to say something to make up for not saying anything for years. It is easier to stay silent, and many older fans have. The older fans who defend him were the fans invited to his house, etc. He has zero healthy boundaries with fans. One of the older fans behind a huge Blur fan acct who was close to Graham left the fandom years ago because they saw what he was doing and it really upset them. The GC fan toxicity now is on a D*pp stan level and no one person can shoulder all of this. Bpa did and it drove them crazy. I just ask that anyone with questions please be linked to this blog so hopefully there's less misinfo about the allegations. While we talked with bpa we also did our own fact-checking of information because you can't always trust what someone tells you. Sorry for the long post!
