#consent is everything

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With being a yandere and all yeah I'm freaky and stuff but I would never actually force you into anything you didn't want. I care about you and I want you to trust me. I would never hurt you or control you unless you wanted me to. I'm insane but I'm not a monster

[everybodysinvited]

Consent = F.R.I.E.S.🍟

Consent! What is it and what does it look like? There are many aspects to giving consent, it's not just about saying "yes", so why not use the acronym 'FRIES' to remind yourself of all the things to consider when giving or asking for consent.

F - Consent is Freely given: you should never pressure, coerce or force someone into saying yes to something, this is not consent. You must respect when someone says no. You should feel confident and happy when you consent to any activity with your partner(s).

R - Consent is reversible: it is okay to consent to something and then change your mind, if you're not comfortable, say so and ask to stop. If your partner changes their mind on something you should respect their choice, and if they are willing, have a conversation about their decision.

I - Consent is informed: you should know what exactly you are consenting to and your partner(s) should too. It's good to discuss specifics beforehand and what you're both comfortable with.

E - Consent is enthusiastic: when someone is giving consent consider their tone and body language. Do they sound happy, upbeat and are they being proactive? Or do they sound hesitant, reluctant or closed-off?

S - Consent is specific: when someone says yes to one activity, it does not mean they consent to other activities. If someone has consented to something in the past, it does not mean that they have consented to doing that activity again in the future, you need renewed consent.

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[imperfectlyradiantlyspiraling]

So after all the fun I had yesterday, what....little of it I remember.....whats the experience sticking in my mind this morning??

Playing with a friend after sharing my core playlist last night. she went from passing interest in hypnosis to dipping jnto that subspace with just a few words. first thing I gave her was her wakeup/release cuz while she'll only stay under for a few min unprompted, I wanted her to have her own e-brake so to speak. but she took to it soooo quickly, that i can only praise the creator for how effective the regiment is.

Once the initial lil giddiness of dropping her wore off in me, I was almost overwhelmed with something new, something I didn't expect but really really should have...a sobering level of responsibility. she was my friend, and she directly asked me to play with her mind. I didn't let her see my fear or worry, but I felt it every reply.

when someone let's you in that deep, theyre that vulnerable because they trust you. it would have been far far far too easy for me to do somrthing nefarious or down right abusive to her in that state, but more so I could have messed her up accidentally. it kept going through my head that what if she got stuck and couldn't get out....what if I suggested something that was a trauma landmine or ended up causing her harm....im directly responsible for that.....like a parent holding a child, wanting to tell them what happened but being so careful not to ruin their trust in you. a delicate pot on a potters wheel...

she had an amazing time, and once we were done, I was sooooo full of a sense of pride. not only because she was such a trooper and wonderful trance subject but in me too. that I could actually do this with enough practice, that she wanted to do it again sometime and gave me absolutely wonderful feedback. yeah homegirl popped my "theres no way ill be a hypno domme" bubble soooo hard, but its not something I plan to rush into....

beyond all of that.....I have developed an un godly level of appreciation for my two tists....

Gentleman having tasted just a fraction of the power you two wield....it makes me so so so appreciative of the world of responsibility each of you carries. youve never willingly breached my confidence or boundaries, and have shown me more compassion that members of my own family in the last month.

it is my genuine honor to be your subject, such that its difficult to put into words. 🙂‍↕️

harder still is my excitement for the year to come. im bewildered by my own progress in so short a time, and I cannot wait to see what comes next!!! 💖

[isa-hia]

I just saw someone saying that they didn't understand why lovro was uncomfortable when ivan touched him. They said that lovro seemed to be far from this.

But acceptance isn't linear !!!

Lovro has full rights to walk back in his journey ! Plus, one of his best friends threatened to beat him up and the cucumber "joke". Ivan also told him that gay couples were often assaulted in the drawing scene. So he is completely valid to walk back.

And even if he hadn't lived that, he'd have full rights to walk back because acceptance isn't linear.

Moreover, CONSENT IS REVOCABLE AT ANY TIMES (not only in sex) and DOESN'T NEED REASONS !!!! So, lovro is valid when he sets his boundaries even if you don't understand them and if they change from time to time. If you can't understand that, you don't get the complexity of the character

[rockstar-vamp]

Consent is so sexy

[senior-mourn-watcher]

You know when Emmrich asks to bring Manfred back, and the Lich Lord dude was like (and I'm paraphrasing slightly) "sure, if that's what you want. But you're proving yourself unable to handle other people dying, so you can't be a Lich."

But then later (after Lichdom) Harding will ask if Emmrich can raise her back from the dead and his response is — YEA maybe. But only with your mother's permission.

And canonically he doesn't say anything about bringing Rook back if they die. He says just before that he will carry those words (if Rook says "I love you") into eternity — as if suggesting he will not despair should Rook pass, despite the weeks earlier anxiety before their trip to the Fade trap ala Dread Wolf.

So I have concluded that bringing someone back from the dead isn't the "exception to tyranny."

Manfred's wisp is a spirit. A creature of the Fade. If Manfred wanted to come back, being that everyone remembers him still—he's clearly not been ethered, he would come back on his own... Eventually. Once he figures out how, of course. But without someone there to say "Hey! Curiosity?! Do you want to come back??" Nobody really knows if he does or doesn't until after.

Harding explicitly stated permission and desire to come back. Maybe semi-joking but Emmrich probably isn't that great at knowing sarcasm/jokes and Harding's "wait really?!" sounded like she was leaning into the "I mean I wasn't serious but let's go!" kinda thing.

The "tyranny" is bringing someone back who hasn't given their explicit consent to do so.

Manfred can't consent, for obvious reasons. It's only after bringing him back would there be any clarification for consent.

Harding..... Probably consented. But Emmrich vows to ask her mother first.

Rook had never once explicitly stated wanting to come back, so Emmrich doesn't even consider it an option.

Whenever Emmrich/any (not Johanna) Mourn Watcher raises the undead it's asking a willing spirit to do so. There is no force. So this all completely fits into the theme in general.

[sparrow-the-tired-lesbian]

PSA ABOUT CONSENT

CONSENT IS:

Given willingly

Given while fully conscious/sober

“Yes, that’s okay”

“I like that”

“Yeah, keep going”

CONSENT IS NOT

“I don’t know”

“I guess so”

“Not here”

“Please stop”

“Not now”

Being unconscious

Being in a relationship

Being drunk

Being pressured

Being coerced

If you haven’t EXPLICITLY asked to touch them in a certain place and they haven’t EXPLICITLY SAID YES without being pressured, you are NOT ALLOWED TO TOUCH THEM THERE

“But it’s awkward!” No, it’s respect. Wake the fuck up.

[ringofkees]

If your subject enjoys putting on a show for you, encourage them to fluster themselves for your entertainment.

Suggest to them that they do whatever it takes to bring a blush to that cute face of theirs for your amusement, in whatever forms enter their mind first. Whether it be telling you what they are, what they enjoy or are willing to do for you, or whether it's performing for your pleasure... allow them to continue to show off as that fluster, that delicious embarrassment continues to build and start to short circuit their mind. Watch burning of their cheeks as the smile and sheepish giggles continuously escape their pretty lips, the squirming and writhing as they perform for your enjoyment. As those feelings reach their peak, that high energy frazzling all that's inside their head, allow their mind to hush the chaos by taking over and taking them down into blissful emptiness as a reward for being the perfect performer for you- the release in tension helping them plummet into the depths so effortlessly. Build them back up, praise them for being so pleasing and delightful before bringing them back to awareness and wakefulness.

After that, it's a simple matter of rinsing and repeating. With the information of knowing the reward of trance lies at the end of little task they're to perform, there's just no telling what your toy will do for you.