#done explaining

[mindinthevoid]

[howifeltabouthim]

. . . a story I've already lived and really don't need to retell here.

Mark Z. Danielewski, from House of Leaves

[sicilyjoy]

I told you so.

I am working hard on no longer explaining myself or my people to White people.  I want to use my voice to stop injustices but I don’t want to waste my time. Today, I spoke once. Then, no more. I know white people are going to do whatever they want. I just let them know they are wrong and when they fuck up everything, I will be there to shake my head and judge their asses.

[aerintheafter]

A Letter to the Version of Me Who Kept Trying to Explain

You tried so hard to make them understand. Every word you chose was careful. Measured. Polite. Even when your chest was burning.

You gave them the benefit of the doubt. You assumed that if you just found the right way to say it, they would finally see you clearly.

But they didn’t. Not because you failed— but because they weren’t listening. They never were.

You weren’t in a conversation. You were in a performance— one they had already decided to walk out on.

And still, you kept trying. Because you believed that if you were kind enough, calm enough, rational enough, they might soften.

But kindness doesn’t work on people who see it as weakness. Calmness doesn’t matter to those who only want to win. And no amount of clarity can open a mind that’s already closed.

So I want you to stop now. Not because your voice doesn’t matter— but because it does.

You do not have to shrink yourself into someone’s comprehension. You do not have to translate your pain into a language they will never learn.

You are allowed to walk away. You are allowed to keep your words for people who will meet them with care.

You are allowed to be done explaining.

And no— that doesn’t make you bitter. That makes you free.

[galacticguava]

PSA

I'm learning to love myself for the first time in my LIFE. (TwentySeven YEARS) Not for anyone, or any THING. I cannot give more of me to anyone (friends, family, interests) than I can give to myself. I go the extra mile for almost everyone. But once that becomes an expectation especially due to situations, OR gets taken advantage of, then it's time for me to re-evaluate what IM doing. And if my journey is not meshing well with yours, you should re-evaluate what YOU'RE doing.

[imjasminetaylor]

how does it feel, roman /your man with another woman/davina who turns out to be one of your best friends and then looking so hot around him?

Well first of all, i didn’t know you could own a person. Second of all i don’t owe @romanraynesx for sure, he’s not my man either and he can hangout with whoever he want to so i don’t see why he wouldn’t hangout with her?And, how can my beautiful friend @davina-onyx not look hot? I mean she could probably even make a trash bag on look hot. Anyways i really wonder how your brain works in this situation nonny..

[pheepupper]

except that it does, because we relate fiction to reality all the time. we can tell the line but every time we normalize it, it blurs the line the tiniest bit more. for people who are very easily swayed and who don't have a firm grasp on right from wrong, it tells them that yes, it doesn't harm people, and it should be okay! and it isn't, it shouldn't, and will never be okay.

Yeah, it isnt ok when it happens to someone

but again, majority of people who ship these things understand fiction=/=reality, and for the most part, tend to rp or discuss it in private with friends.

Shaming someone for what they do privately in a fictional contexts doesn’t exactly make ya’ll holy saints either so how about ya’ll stop acting like you’re perfect for not shipping a certain type of fictional ship

Also before I can any anon haters going ‘WELL YOU ARENT A VICTIM/NEVER DEALT WITH SO SHUT UP AND-’

You shut up, though I personally havent been a victim, my sister is. I’ve been there to comfort her after the bullshit thats happened to her and witnessed it first hand. I understand what it does to people in the moment, how it can affect someone in the long run. She knows I ship incestual ships and guess what, doesnt give a fuck cause understands FICTION=/=REALITY

Just because someone ships or does something privately online doesnt mean they are a-okay with it in reality, yes, there will be people who take it too far but guess what

It isnt the SHIPPERS fault, its the PERSON who DECIDES to bring that fiction to a reality, so quit shaming shippers

[corazon-sagrado]

You know what's sad? All these violent anti-drugs kids will probably never think Pineapple Express is a funny ass movie. Doesn't that blow.... Now I'm not saying all straight edge kids are asshole's. No, that's blind, ignorant stereotyping. But like those specific douche bags that with even the slightest mention of drugs or alcohol (even if implied in a joke) will gets so butt hurt and start insulting you and just going off like.wtf.. Yup