#ex transmed

[redacted-coiner]

Dysphoric, EX-Transmed, Non-Dysphoric

Also wanna note: I have never been a transmed the flag is included for those who may have and now have recovered(/recovering)

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[transalligator]

I used to have a really black and white view of gender affirming surgeries because I thought any cis person who got them would develop dysphoria like many trans people have. Seeing cis women who got top surgery and are happy as fuck about not having boobs anymore helped change that.

You don't want to have boobs? You go girl. Do what makes you happy. Do what improves your life. If I was a cis lady and not FTM I'd probably still want top surgery or at least a super aggressive reduction to like a tiny A cup because they flopped around and made laying on my stomach annoying and were just a hindrance in general.

[non-dysphoric-positivity]

I love you non-dysphorics who are ashamed to be non-dysphoric

I love you non-dysphorics who wish they were “normal” (whatever that means for you)

I love you non-dysphorics that are ex-truscums/ex-transmeds

I love you non-dysphorics that have internalized transphobia

I love you non-dysphorics that struggle to feel comfortable in the trans community

I love you non-dysphorics who are going through shit right now

It gets better, and you will find people that support you and love you

[discyours]

As an ex-transmed, what’s your stance on transgender people not having surgeries? As in top and bottom surgeries.

IMO one of the most toxic parts of the transmed community is that it leaves people feeling the need to "prove" how sincere their feelings (dysphoria) are. They're happy to openly question whether any given trans person is "really" trans because they haven't expressed severe dysphoria/haven't undergone certain medical procedures/don't pass well enough, while also believing that there IS a way to sincerely be/become [insert opposite of "AGAB" here].

It almost turns into a competition. "I'm such a real man, I wear my binder 18 hours a day because the dysphoria of taking it off is so unbearable." "TERFs have nothing on me because no cis man would ever willingly cut his penis off." "I'm 2 years on T and still happy with all the changes, the deep voice, the body hair, etc. No cis girl would feel that way." Etc etc. It's not constructive.

As a former trans person I would never doubt the sincerity of someone's trans feelings because I know from personal experience how ridiculously strong they can be. I know what it's like to take a knife to my female bodyparts. I know what it's like to tie a noose because I felt life was not worth living if I could never be a "real man". And I know the "gender euphoria" of binding, of packing, of passing, of feeling so strongly and so sincerely that this was how I was supposed to be.

And as a person who holds gender critical beliefs I would never doubt the sincerity of someone's trans feelings because I don't think it matters. I don't think there is any point at which gender dysphoria or medical procedures or social changes become strong enough that an adult human female becomes a man or vice versa. That's not a dismissal of how sincere their feelings are or how real their experiences are (again speaking as someone who spent several years passing as male), it's a neutral statement on my personal beliefs on gender (and lack thereof).

On both sides, there is absolutely no reason for me to treat trans people who have had or intend to have bottom surgery different from those who haven't or don't. My personal perspective on dealing with dysphoria through body neutrality would generally lead me to say that the less surgical intervention the better, but that doesn't mean I'm going to have a better view of people who deal with dysphoria the same way I do.

[que-onda-guero]

god i can’t believe we all got duped into thinking that transmedicalism was some saving grace for the trans community and that without it we’d all lose our rights and die. like wtf was that???? looking back on it, it was just a bunch of teens calling each other trenders on the internet for doing things that some of them didn’t like and claiming that they were doing some great service to trans people everywhere by misgendering and harassing gnc and nonbinary trans people. like the dysphoria debate literally does not even matter and our energy should’ve been focused on real issues years ago

[oliverashton95]

I have learned from my past mistakes. And I fully recognize that I’m still responsible for being trans Med in the past but I don’t want anyone to feel excluded in this world. Everyone is deserving of love, all the time. You are not hurting anyone by choosing not to identify in a convoluted binary. Trans joy is resistance. Drink water and be kind.

Love

Oliver

[dynamopsychism]

A reminder!

Dysphoric nonbinary people

Nondysphoric nonbinary people

Nondysphoric binary trans people

Genderfluid people

Agender people

Nonbinary lesbians

Nonbinary gay men

And anyone not cis, regardless whether or not they experience dysphoria

Have just the same amount of right to call themselves transgender as someone like me, a binary trans man who experiences severe dysphoria.

[nat20vibecheck]

I was gonna dye my hair red but I have grown to associate dyed hair with cis women due to transmed bs. Transmeds harm the trans community. That’s a fact.