May 18, 2024
you’re still important and you still deserve to live if you can’t contribute to society btw. I don’t care if that’s temporary or permanent. you don’t have to be contributing to be allowed to exist.
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you’re still important and you still deserve to live if you can’t contribute to society btw. I don’t care if that’s temporary or permanent. you don’t have to be contributing to be allowed to exist.
hey cripplepunk tumblr!! how do I make shopping on my own easier?? trollies/carts are at an awkward height for me and hurt my shoulders to push. pull along baskets are good with my cane, but obviously not with my rollator. I put a normal basket on top of my rollator seat today, and that worked but was a little awkward. I think I could get used to that though?
then there’s the whole manoeuvring around people with trollies who don’t wanna get out of the way of a disabled person, which shopping at quieter times dosent help because people still act the same way no matter how many of them there are.
and then just to add on to it there’s people who want to move me or my rollator out of their way, and think that me wearing headphones means they can just do that without any warning, which is really frustrating. (and as a side note I’m really touch averse, can people please learn to not touch random strangers if they can avoid it???)
right now it’s the kind of thing I can manage but it’s hard, I don’t do the big weekly shops alone but I do get sent out to do small shops and it’s getting harder and harder to cope with, idk if anyone knows how to make it less of a pain in the ass but if you do please tell me your secrets.
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YAY outfit from today!! My boyfriend called this dad-cora, because it’s kinda like if you combine dad fashion and decora fashion. I really love clashing patterns and bright colours so feeling masc is hard, but I was really happy in this and I didn’t feel dysphoric at all!! I also had people confused about how to gender me today, which made me feel even more good about myself and how I was dressed!
Gender is stupid, there is only colourful clown thing /hj
I care a lot about the treatment of disabled people who can’t help being loud because I AM one. I have tics from FND which are noisy, annoying, and involve words and noises made by my body. and I can’t help them. When you stare at me because I’m saying ‘slap the fatui’ and hitting myself in the head on the train it makes me feel so bad about something I can’t help, and I wish society could be more normal about people with complex and ‘obnoxious’ tics like mine.
I’m a disabled person and I wish people would stop seeing some of the things my partner does for me as abusive or bad, because if he doesn’t do them I would probably harm myself or put myself in bad situations. He has to do these things for me because of my disabilities, so it’s not as black and white as ‘abuse’ and ‘not abuse’.
He has to check my outfits for me. It’s not because he doesn’t want me dressing a certain way or wearing certain things, it’s so I don’t wear clothes that’ll end up putting me in danger because of the weather. I have no ability to judge temperature until I’m out and doing what I’m doing, so I rely on him, especially to make sure I don’t overheat in the summer because that’d mean I’d faint. In cold weather he finds me tights, hoodies or jackets that match the style of outfit I’ve decided to wear but will keep me at a good temperature, and in the heat he helps me with knowing what layers to not wear, or suggests things like same-colour shorts instead of jeans or trousers, for example.
He has to help me with money a lot, and I don’t get access to money I need to save. This is because I have very poor impulse control and is actually something I suggested, which is mostly to make sure that when things have to be saved for over a few months that I don’t accidentally spend it. I can’t keep in my head that ‘X amount of money needs to be saved for Y date’, I see ‘I have X amount of money, and the thing I want costs Y amount, so I can buy the thing’. He also keeps food and travel money on him when we go out, as he can categorise what his money is for in his brain, and I can’t.
He usually has a lot of control over what and when I eat, because I can’t read my body cues very well. He knows when I’d typically eat at university because then I eat when other people do, and he makes sure I have food on that schedule. He gives me choices, but my food is what he makes for me as I can’t usually use knives and cook because of my disabilities. I tic, and have poor impulse control, so cooking can be dangerous for me.
He also has to keep my medications for me, and give me what I need when I need it. I often forget to take my medication on my own, and I also have accidentally taken double doses a few times. I also am at risk of harming myself because of my mental illness, so someone else minding my meds gets rid of that.
Anyway, these are just the things my partner does for me. A lot of disabled people need a carer, partner or family member to do things for them that if done out of malice would be seen as abuse, but they’re done to look after us. You shouldn’t make assumptions about these things, if you’re unsure then ask if the person is in a safe situation, but don’t push the idea that they’re being abused onto them.
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celebrated the first of pride month yesterday by going to a cosplay meet and freaking out cishet guys
someone told me i looked creepy while we were having drinks afterwards so yesterday was very successful XD
okay so, poll for other systems / collectives / people who have alters / whatever the hell y’all call yourselves Which of these is most accurate to how you refer to yourself when you don’t have to mask? (I’ve put examples under the poll)
Always in plural language
Always in singular language
Mostly plural, but singular when grouped with external people
Mostly plural, but sometimes singular
Mostly singular, but sometimes plural
About a 50/50 split
Singular for individual alters, plural when referring to you all as a whole
I’m not a system but I want to press something anyway
Singular language: things like I, me, my. You’d say ‘I went to the shops’
Plural language: we, us, our. It’d be ‘We went to the shops’
When talking about external people, singular language for yourself would sound like ‘I went out to meet her, then we went to the shops’, and plural would be ‘We went out to meet her, then we went to the shops’.
For the one that’s different between individual alters and a collective, it’d be like ‘We went to the shops, Sally got a new dress and I got some fun hair clips’. Basically, things that you consider referring to the whole system in plural language but talking about yourself personally with singular terms.
Please don’t include masking for this poll, it’s about how you’d refer to yourself as a collective / when you have the option to be fully unmasked. I’m just curious honestly.
i’m always so surprised when i have really fucking extreme emotions. it’s almost like i have BPD and i’m going to feel things harder than most people, i don’t know why it’s still so shocking to me.