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💬 While I’m not dating personally, I hear it’s been tough out there these past few years. Whether you’re on the apps, speed dating, joining clubs, or getting matched by friends and family, let’s see how you can improve your dating life. Even if you don’t get the relationship you want yet, you can still have fun 😉
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Pile 1 ♥︎ Pile 2 ♥︎ Pile 3
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Pile 1 🦢🍷
♡‧₊˚ High Priestess reversed ⋆ ˚。⋆୨୧˚
This is some inner work you’re gonna need to do. Which is a blessing because it will welcome in a better life for you beyond just romance. Yay! Baby girl, you have major trust issues. You don’t feel safe telling people how you feel about damn near anything (including mundane stuff like hot takes on a movie). These trust issues even extend into how much you trust yourself. When we’ve been abused and traumatized, or even just treated unfairly, it’s easy to start to lose trust in ourselves along with everybody else. And if you’re one of those people who believes “I can’t trust anyone except myself”, in my opinion, that is also a lack of self trust. Why? Because you aren’t trusting yourself to learn about what trustworthy behavior is, and how to observe someone else for signs and examples of trustworthiness. You’re not trusting yourself to be able to handle someone switching up on you and protect your own well being. I know all of this very well… I’m also on a self-trust-repair journey. One reason we betray our own self trust is because we want to stay with the person we love who is also hurting us, and we’re confused on what the right thing to do is (a “good girlfriend” / “good wife” doesn’t leave, worried about supporting the other person, would I a bad person for leaving?) and start to justify in our heads that there’s something wrong with us and we deserve this unfair treatment or abuse. It’s a total mindfuck! This often happens because of childhood conditioning due to abusive, neglectful, absent, or immature caregivers, it’s “normal” to us. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself. Also, here’s a video on healing your sense of safety with lots of great exercises and practices to do, especially little things, to heal you (it’s focused on women in heterosexual relationships but I believe the advice is applicable to everyone!). Also I love Dr. Kim Sage, she’s a great resource.
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Pile 2 🦢🍷
♡‧₊˚ Emporer reversed ⋆ ˚。⋆୨୧˚
I see you’re currently recovering from being disempowered in life. This feeling of disempowerment has built up a lot of resentment and anger in you, and your feelings are valid. It’s time to learn how to express and process them in a healthy way though, and learn how to get your power back. This isn’t a destructive power. This is a healing, generative, and creative power. A power that has the strength to lift you up and everyone around your up as well. It’s an equalizing and ascending power. Hell yeah! In the past (and recently too probably), you’ve been very, very controlling of other people and telling them what they “should” do or be doing, and get angry if they don’t do everything you tell them to do. There’s also a belief here that things need to escalate to a fight in order for your point to truly come across. And low key, you like fighting because it feels empowering in a fucked up way. Like you’ve been bottling things up for so long and believed you had to, and in the tipping point you get to show the person who you really are, how mighty and powerful you really are. You have nothing to prove though, and the fighting just hurts the relationship (even if you think the other person deserves it). There’s also been a tendency for people in this group to force others to do loyalty tests. Yes, even if that other person never knew it was a test, you were still forcing them into the test. The only way you’re going to learn how to use your power for “goodliness” (as Chili from Bluey would say) is by first truly taking stock of the impacts of your toxic behavior. You’re going to have to accept the fact that:
what you’ve been doing is harmful for others
what you’ve been doing is harmful for yourself
you’re going to have to learn why you believed you needed to do that
you’re to have to examine what events throughout your life, and in your day-to-day life in your relationship, lead you up to these boiling points
you’re going to have to learn how to observe yourself for warning signs and how to gain tools to help redirect or prevent escalation
how to accept your emotions as valid and speak up for your needs in a productive and healthy way, instead of ignoring yourself and bottling them up
learn new ways to handle being treated unfairly
accept that you’ll have to forgive yourself, and forgiving yourself means never enabling your harmful behaviors again, AND not punishing yourself - focusing on healing and restorative justice. and having a plan in place to do repair for when you catch yourself doing that shit again. accepting you will probably do it again makes it less likely you ever will, because if you say you never ever will, you’re more likely to go into denial when you do (because it’d be horrifying to learn you’ve broken this sacred promise to yourself). instead, promise yourself you’ll catch yourself and redirect yourself.
you might have hurt someone else bad enough that apologizing to them will cause them distress, and that you’ll have to leave them be in peace
How do you do all of this monumental work? With a therapist!! Do NOT do this work alone. Sure, there’s great resources to do homework with, but this isn’t work you can truly do alone. Honestly, group therapy might be best for you. Some YouTube channels for education and personal exercises, and a comment section of people who’ve been there, I suggest are: Crappy Childhood Fairy (but ignore her suggestion to go to Alcoholics Anonymous because it’s actually a cult and bc it’s helped her a lot I think it’s hard for her to see the truth of that, but other wise her channel is an amazing resource), Therapy in a Nutshell, and Dr. Kim Sage.
Learning to be kind to yourself in this process will teach you how to be kind to others you love when they fuck up too. This isn’t self flagellation, this is opening the door to love. ♥︎
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Pile 3 🦢🍷
♡‧₊˚ 7 of Swords ⋆ ˚。⋆୨୧˚
It’s always funny to me when the 7 of Swords pops up in an advice position, or as something positive lol. You need people who are intellectual, curious cats, open to learning, very calculated, even mischievous. And of course, silly. I think you’d love a prankster. Of course, learn what healthy pranks are, since it’s very easy to hide abuse as “just a prank”. If the person being pranked doesn’t love it and find it hilarious, there needs to be a repairing conversation. Anyway, learn chess and attend chess clubs. Maybe paint ball too. Start hobbies that require strategy and planning, you’ll meet these people there. Sneak around together, do stuff in secret (I’m only encouraging legal activity!). The more wholesome version of this is planning surprise parties together. Have fun and show this playful side of yourself!
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