The youngest child and only son, Felix was a [happy] surprise pregnancy for Annie and Armin, who were both in their early 40s when he was born.
A gentle, quiet, and highly sensitive boy, Felix is the only other “Intuitive-Feeler” in the family [INFP] aside from his father, Armin [INFJ]. While he does struggle with feeling “weak” for being a boy with a “Feeler” personality, and despite being bullied by the other boys [and sometimes girls] because of it, he also has a special bond with his father due to their shared emotional sensitivity, experiences, and ways of interacting with the world.
Highly idealistic and driven by strong personal values, Felix rarely expresses his thoughts or emotions outwardly, preferring to observe from a distance and keep his rich inner world private. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to share or express himself outwardly, just that he needs to feel a sense of emotional safety, support, and connection with others before opening up.
Although Felix has a peaceful, seemingly unbothered demeanor, he also is incredibly passionate and motivated – a side that few rarely see, as he often struggles to act or advocate for himself when needed, defaulting to passivity to “keep the peace”. It normally takes someone crossing his deeply held values or beliefs for him to unleash his inner fury, though he doesn’t always express his anger in ways that are healthy or productive.
While Felix has an incredibly close relationship with his father, Armin [INFJ], he struggles to feel close with and emotionally connected to his mother, Annie [ISTP].
Being an INFP while his mother is an ISTP, Felix has the inverse opposite cognitive functions that Annie has, making it incredibly difficult for them to bond initially:
As a Sensor-Thinker, Annie doesn’t openly express or articulate her emotions readily or easily; however, as an Intuitive-Feeler child, Felix not only needs his basic emotional needs as a child met, but he also needs additional emotional vulnerability and emotional depth as an INFP to feel safe, connected to, and understood by his parents.
Annie’s struggle to read and meet Felix’s additional emotional needs as his personality develops causes her a lot of stress and anxiety, reinforcing her greatest fear that her children will grow up feeling unloved, unwanted, and abandoned by their mother.
Thankfully, having an Intuitive-Feeler husband to help her, as well as being dedicated to both her personal growth and meeting all her children’s needs, Annie is more than up for the challenge.
"If you upset me and I have to blow up at you, and then you are upset later, that sounds like a 'you' problem, since I said my piece and am now done with it."
Rigidity in Fi / you're not the boss of me, I don't have to listen to you, your ideas and opinions won't change how I feel, and you pushing me will just make me mad; but a general "I don't care how other people are living / let them do their own thing, as long as it doesn't violate my own boundaries" approach to life. Lots of anger and angry responses to being bossed around, controlled, forced to do things they don't want to do, people not respecting their views or opinions, but a reluctance to get into fights unless they need to establish a strong boundary and/or make the harassment stop.
Auggie is very sensitive, but also private in his emotions. Rather than talk about his first day at school and being bullied, he simply sits at the dinner table inside of his astronaut helmet so nobody can see his face or ask him any questions.
Sorry for bugging you, but I was just wondering if there is anything you would expect from an INFP 9w8? Like traits??
I think they are more likely to use Te in the classic INFP way than other INFPs. They ignore issues to avoid conflict, but after a while they can’t take it anymore and they explode, they yell or argue, they use their Te.
