#just ace things

[shanehollandered]

no, dude, the asexuals don’t want to fuck that guy. no. no, they want to eat him.

[ow-my-zock-and-zalls]

Yeah sex is cool I guess but have you ever had someone compliment your headcanons?

[endlessnightskyshoutsback]

saw a post abt how Mabel is aroace coded and how it is an aroace experience "choosing" who to have a crush on and thinking everybody was joking about feeling attraction to others fpr the majority of ur life. this and many other things have led me to almost think of a label. too bad i dont have enough brainpower to think hard enough to come to the obvious conclusion about myself. lmao time to go look at a bug

[starchilddante]

As an ace person, Like We'll Never Have Sex is one of the most comforting songs I have ever heard. In a world where sex is viewed as integral to any relationship, I hope to find someone who loves me "like we'll never have sex"

Oh you kissed me/ just to kiss me/ not to take me home/ it was simple/ it was sweetness/ it was good to know

Depollute me/ gentle angel/ and I'll feel the sickness less and less/ come and kiss me/ pretty baby/ like we'll never have sex

Even though I'm not sex-repulsed, I still sometimes fear that I will always be alone because I don't experience sexual attraction. But this song soothes my soul. No matter where you are on the ace spectrum, (or even if you're allo) I think this song can be very precious and comforting.

[the-greater-grief]

Glad for all my pals out in the world enjoying having sex with other people, while simultaneously being so fucking glad I don’t have to participate in it at all.

The concept of having sex is about as appealing to me as shovelling the driveway during a blizzard, re-registering for the master’s course I’ve dropped three times now, or getting stung by a bee between my toes. Cool if other people want to do it, I guess (?), but I personally will pass.

[thissparklingspace]

Accidentally Pulling Friends Out of the Closet?

At the beginning of the book Ace by Angela Chen, she asks her allo friend to describe what sexual attraction felt like. And so as an exercise, I decided to ask my allo friends the same question. Mostly inner circle, mostly queer for context. And their answers were surprisingly close to how it was described in the book by the author's friend. But then I went to a couple other friends of mine and asked them the same question. One recently got married. She seemed like a good person to ask.

But when I asked her, she got really quiet.

As an aside, this friend received her autism diagnosis last year and as she described her journey, I said that a lot of it sounded familiar. She playfully nudged me often about it like "Maybe you too? Eh??"

A playful back-and-forth between us about autism and the spectrum. I learned a lot from her. I asked, "So... What does sexual attraction feel like for you?" And with a look on her face that said I broke her brain, she slowly answered, "I... don't know?"

"What do you MEAN you don't know??"

"I don't know! It's kind of... uh.... well... what does it feel like for you??" "I don't feel it! That's why I'm asking you!"

The best way to describe our proceeding conversation was almost like two aliens that had been told about human sexual attraction who were trying their very best to cobble together some kind of paper to report to their fellow aliens. It was my turn to nudge my friend in a "You too???" Kind of way.

But what's funny is that this conversation happened not once, but twice, with a completely different friend. I asked him what sexual desire felt like for him. And again, I was met with an alien-like conversation about sexual attraction.

We know of the attraction. We have tried human dating. We have had human sex.

Yet, we cannot tell each other what sexual attraction feels like. It invokes a mental 404.

For my allo friends, the answer came quite easy and there was a similarity to what the book said. For me and my (alleged) ace friends, a theory.

[cuckoo-on-a-string]

Procrasti-Thoughts

As an asexual, I have to say, sometimes, upon reflection, I find it somewhat concerning that TERFs care more about my vagina than I do.

[sketchyface]

Recently found out allosexuals watch porn to imagine having sex with the people in the porn and I wish I could unfind it