How do you tell someone that you don’t wish to rp with them? I don’t want to seem like a jerk.
Ah, this all comes down to simply wording things that are true, but not particularly pointed. Here are a couple of my favorite ways to turn someone away without hurting their feelings. You can borrow them, or adapt them to your use-case! I know it can be kinda goofy to use a script, but hearing how other people approach it can help you develop your own voice for this kind of thing, so I’m happy to provide examples.
“I don’t think we’d really have chemistry, but good luck anyways!”
“I’m sorry, I’m not a big fan of your portrayal, but I’m sure you’ll find someone else!”
“I’m afraid you’re not quite what I’m looking for right now. Thanks for the offer!”
“I’m not really feeling this roleplay, but thank you anyways.”
“Your character isn’t really what I had in mind for my next RP, but I’m glad you took the time to ask!”
“I’m glad you offered, but I’m afraid this isn’t something I see working out.”
“We’re really different RPers, so I don’t want to lead you on with an RP I don’t think I’d be really involved in. Thank you though!”
“We seem to have very different goals in mind for RP, so I think we’d be better off playing with other people. Good luck!”
“I appreciate the thought, but I think I’m looking for something else right now. Thanks though!”
“I’m not sure I can see this working out, good luck elsewhere!”
“Sorry, it’s a good idea, just not for me! Hope you find someone else to take you up on it!”
“All the best, but this ain’t it chief. Good luck elsewhere.”
... look, okay, I’m very ‘nice’ but sometimes you just gotta whack ‘em with the, “Nah, not my kinda thing. You do you.”
Good luck with dealing with this! I know how hard it can be. If they push back on you saying no, be firm. “Hey sorry! I know you’re excited, but I already said no. I’d appreciate it if you’d respect that!” kinda vibe. Or “I’m not comfortable explaining further, but again, thank you for asking.”
