Nightcrawler never gets to pick his girlfriend
They are always written as coming on to him.
Amanda pretended to be someone else and when she revealed the truth of who she was, he went along with it.
Cerise is the closest to him choosing; she admitted she loved him and he said he loved her too
Mara Keller was an obsessed fangirl
Christine Palmer, the night nurse from the 2004 solo, came onto him and was constantly confused about why he wouldn't go out with her; he eventually kissed her after she said she was leaving town
Rachel kissed him and said she had seen his thoughts and knew he was into her
Weaponless Zsen met him and almost immediately said they should have sex
Silver Sable met him and almost immediately started having sex with him
MacKenzie met him and immediately became obsessed with him
The only woman Kurt ever had any agency over his feelings for was Meggan, and only until Age of X-Man when they were manipulated into a relationship by an author who was annoyed they hadn't gotten together during Excalibur, ignored the fact Meggan was married and had a daughter with the man she loved, and wrote the characters into a non-consensual affair to appease her own wishes instead of writing fanfiction like the rest of us do. I have feelings about that series. and none of them are good ones.
Kurt literally never gets to choose his own girlfriends. They ALL come on to him, and he just goes along with it.
More of my opinions under the cut
TW: assault mentioned briefly under the cut
