#nonhierarchical

[kimchicuddles]

THROWBACK TUESDAY or something. A fan recently reminded me about this oldie but goodie! Thanks, Dave! And thanks to everyone this may (or may not be) about lol. V A G U E

[dizexplainstheuniverse]

The ABC of Loving Without Possession.

A - Autonomy – Thou shalt not dictate how or with whom thy beloved spends thine own time.

B - Boundaries – Thou shalt not share with others confidential information, details about thy sex life or push any hard limits without prior consent from thy beloved.

C - Consent – Thou shalt always ask for consent from thy beloved and never act on assumptions. Thou shalt communicate to thy beloved any information concerning ones actions which may directly impact thy beloved’s health or boundaries.

D - Dick – Thou shalt not be one.

E - Expression – Thou shalt fully express thine authentic self and be whoever or whatever thy desires without need for permission. (Except in the case of ‘D’)

F - Fun – Thou shalt only stay in a relationship with thy beloved so long as it brings joy to each of them.

G - Grounded – Thou shalt stay grounded, centred and not lose ones individual identity in the relationship with thy beloved.

H - Honesty – Thou shalt always offer the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth to thy beloved. Even the ugly truths.

I - Intimacy – Thou shalt always relate to thy beloved with warmth, compassion and affection, even in disagreements.

J - Judgement – Thou shalt not judge nor criticise thyself or thy beloved.

K - Kindness - Thou shalt be kind, patient and hold space for both thyself and thy beloved at all times.

L - Learning – Thou shalt not ever stop learning, growing and flowing with life and love.

M - Metamours – Thou shalt make an effort to develop healthy relationships with all significant others in thy beloved’s life.

N - New Relationship Energy (NRE) – Thou shalt not make any important or life changing decisions whilst experiencing NRE with thy beloved. (N.B. this energy will usually last around the first 3-6 months)

O - Owning Your Feelings – Thou shalt accept responsibility for ones own feelings and not seek to blame or dump thy feelings onto thy beloved.

P - Projection – Thou shalt not project thy hopes, fears or expectations onto thy beloved but instead thou shalt endeavour to always see thy beloved and thy relationship with clarity, without judgement and without placing thy beloved on a pedestal.

Q - Questions – Thou shalt always ask for what one needs from thy beloved, but thou shalt not expect thy beloved to always fulfil thy needs.

R - Respect – Thou shalt have respect for thyself, thy beloved and every letter of the ABC at all times.

S - Security – Thou shalt give and openly receive reassurance, support and comfort in times of need.

T - Triggers – Thou shalt be aware of and communicate to thy beloved ones emotional triggers, attachment styles and love languages.

U - Uncertainty – Thou shalt not doubt or seek to undermine the integrity of thy beloved.

V - Validation – Thou shalt not seek external validation from thy beloved but instead depend on an internal unconditional love for a sense of belonging.

W - Worthiness – Thou shalt love, forgive, accept and celebrate thyself unconditionally.

X - X-rated – Thou shalt always practice safer-sex protocols to protect the mind, body and soul of thyself and thy beloved.

Y - Yourself – Thou shalt always make a conscious effort to maintain self-awareness and self-development.

Z - Zeitgeist – Thou shalt maintain an awareness that the ABC is not definitive and reflective only of the time that it is written. Thou shalt remember that as one learns, grows and flows with life and love, as does the ABC.

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[quotecollector14]

'Shapers' are independent thinkers: curious, non-conforming, and rebellious. They practice brutal, nonhierarchical honesty. And they act in the face of risk, because their fear of not succeeding exceeds their fear of failing…The greatest shapers don’t stop at introducing originality into the world. They create cultures that unleash originality in others.

Adam Grant, Originals, How Non-Conformists Move the World

[duo-series]

#duoseries #day267

[kimchicuddles]

"Love, Retold" is going out of print and I decided to let it go out with ONE LAST BANG. So I'm making little love packages with signed copies of the book, a comic booklet with "5 years later" reflections on the original (excerpt here), a handful of stickers and original artwork, and other random stuff so each package will be a little bit different. I wrote the original during a special time of transition, and I feel like I'm in another one now. I deeply appreciate all of you for being on this adventure with me, and this is more a gift of love than a "sale". Email me at [email protected] or check out TikvaWolf.com/books for details ❤️

[observationsandreflections]

Observation: 110 rooms 22 dwellings, Barcelona, 2013-2016; Maio architects . Quaderns n.270: Europa Europa; Published 6/18/2019, edited by Moisés Puente . #architecture #quaderns #EuropaEuropa #maioarchitects #110rooms #residential #rooms #flexiblespace #nonhierarchical #plan #spatialsequence #marble #stonevolumes #barcelona #enfilade #catalogue #visualreference #observations_and_reflections https://www.instagram.com/p/BzPdPuLpAym/?igshid=3rd2jzlf275t

[observationsandreflections]

Reflection: 110 rooms 22 dwellings, Barcelona, 2013-2016; Maio architects . Quaderns n.270: Europa Europa; Published 6/18/2019, edited by Moisés Puente . #architecture #quaderns #EuropaEuropa #maioarchitects #110rooms #residential #rooms #flexiblespace #nonhierarchical #plan #spatialsequence #marble #stonevolumes #barcelona #enfilade #catalogue #visualreference #observations_and_reflections https://www.instagram.com/p/BzPc5YQpuJE/?igshid=11g9keicummfk

[duo-series]

#duoseries #day268