#physical discipline

[curucurumeguru]

禊ぎ

Misogi — ritual purification in a river

[compassionmattersmost]

Introduction to Hatha Yoga: The Path of Physical Mastery and Inner Balance

Hatha Yoga is the yoga of physical discipline, focusing on the practice of asanas (postures) and pranayama (breath control) to create a strong, flexible body and a calm, focused mind. Often seen as the foundation for other forms of yoga, Hatha Yoga serves as a preparatory practice that balances the physical and energetic systems, making the body a fit vehicle for spiritual awakening. The term…

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[ayyy-imma-ninja]

Has SK Sun ever dealt with a child who was hit by their parents for discipline? If so then did Sun ever do anything about it?

Sun has certainly seen a few parents discipline their children in public. It doesn't really sit well with him.

He doesn't believe children should be physically disciplined in order to learn. He will often give the parent advice and pointers on how to handle certain situations, going based off of his past experience as a daycare attendant.

He can't force the parent to take the advice, though.

[yoga-onion]

-My Notes, words of gurus (11)-

The Ultimate Freedom means complete freedom in body, mind & in the self itself. In order to experience that self, yoga has various steps called the physical discipline, moral discipline, intellectual discipline, and the spiritual discipline. As long as ethical is not maintain, the freedom is not all experienced.

B.K.S Iyengar

From ‘the Ultimate Freedom’ in 1976

-マイノート・グルの言葉(11)-

空極の自由とは、体と心、そして自己が完全に自由になることだ。その状態を経験するために、ヨガには様々なステップがある。それは肉体的な訓練、道徳的な訓練、知的な訓練、そしてスピリチュアル的な訓練である。倫理を維持できないうちは、自由を体感する事はあり得ない。

B.K.S アイアンガー

1976年「空極の自由」より

[veritablydumb]

I live in a country where physically disciplining your child is not only allowed but also encouraged. Beating your kids when they do something wrong is the norm. My cousins were beaten, my friends were beaten and now they hide things from their parents.

I am the only one out of all my friends and cousins whose never been hit. Ever. I'm the anomaly. But I have a very good relationship with my mother. We talk about everything and I never have to hide something from her.

Earlier my aunts used to tell my mother to beat me so I would remain in control and now they whine to her about how their kids don't talk to them and share their problems. Yeah auntie, that's what happens when you beat your kids infront of everyone for every single mistake.

[katnissisbrown]

This is a personal post that I originally wrote in response to the discussion question of whether physical discipline (i.e. Spanking) is child abuse and I just wanted to share it here and expand on it a little. TW for child abuse.

I was hit by trusted adult figures as a child for things I didn’t even do… It didn’t teach me “respect,” it didn’t teach me that there are consequences for misbehavior (because I didn’t do the things I was being accused of), it only taught me that adults expected me to blindly submit to them and never stand up for myself or tell the truth because they really don’t care what the truth is or whether I was innocent. It taught me that authority figures who don’t care about what you say or feel or even treat you like an actual human being instead of a misbehaving inferior animal will never respect you whether you follow all of the rules or not because they have already made up their minds about you. It taught me that speaking up for what is right doesn’t matter to them and that you should always shut up and take it and let injustice continue. It taught me that I deserved pain for my mistakes as well as for mistakes that weren’t my own. It taught me to internalize anger on myself and it taught me that hurting myself is not only acceptable, but it’s what I deserve. It taught me that when I face a conflict with a loved one, standing up for myself will get me hit and humiliated. It taught me that I was not equal to the other children, it taught me that it is my fault that adult loved ones showed me less affection. It taught me that resenting the others (my siblings, cousins, classmates) for not getting hit and not getting blamed or reprimanded for their wrongs will only get me hit more. This manifests differently for every child, but for me it taught me that the only person I am allowed to harm is myself. It taught me that love and approval are conditional and it taught me that doing what is right means risking losing the support of your “loved ones”

And that is why I have a hard time respecting authority figures who say things like “because I said so!” Or demand things of you with no explanation or purpose other than getting themselves off by proving they are the boss.

The adults who hit me were not doing it out of discipline, they were doing it to exercise power and subconsciously engage in fear conditioning. I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but that’s how it was for me. It’s incredibly damaging when the adults in your life for years are telling you that you deserve this pain. But this also wasn’t just “spanking” with me, so maybe it’s entirely different, idk. But I can tell you it only taught me resentment towards myself and authority and not to trust what people say about you.

I first began self-harming when I was 8 years old. It was my way of letting out anger, frustration, shame, etc. I believed I deserved it. On the occasions when some adults in my life noticed, they told me to stop feeling sorry for myself. That only made it worse. This “discipline” mixed with my personality (nature and nurture) had the effect of making me hate myself from a young age. I would have anxiety attacks at school when I made a small mistake (for example, forgetting to do homework) because the conditioning taught me that none of my shortcomings were acceptable. When I was older and started to question this treatment, I was hit and guilt tripped for not “respecting my elders.” I was regularly told I was a “brat” for panicking and crying so easily when I made the smallest mistake by the same people who had conditioned me that way in the first place.

I just want to add that these adults I’m vaguely referring to are not my parents; when I was a child my parents were constantly working to try to provide for me and save up for my college fund. These were other respected family members, babysitters, teachers, etc. For a long time I resented my parents for not believing me when I told them what these adults did to me, but in the past several years they have done a lot to try and mend all of this with me. I just want to be clear that my parents are not bad parents; they weren’t very present in my life because they were working so hard for me and my sister, not because they didn’t want to be around me.

[mentalillnessmouse]

Hi. I just fought with my mom over a note that had words like "stupid" and "die" written all over it.I wanted to let out all of my anger and other emotions so I chose to write it on paper. My mother discovered it and questioned me whether it was about her. I said that it wasn't and then explained to her why I had written those words. She then pressed me about it saying something(I tried to ignore her so I don't remember what she was saying) and somehow it escalated into a fight. She tried (1)

(2) to hit me my face, but missed. We were both screaming and she was throwing small things at me and I three those things back at her. She came close to me, and because I was scared, my leg swung out and kicked her right in the stomach. She then started crying, and I was crying. I then went to my room. I feel horrible and awful, because I know she loves me and Iove her, but I just had kicked her minutes ago.She used to discipline me about hitting me, and I still remember those moments. I

(3) I still flinch when she comes close to me during an argument and put me arms between myself and her incase she tries to hit me. I didn’t want to hit or kick her.I did’t want her to hurt me. I know it’s not an excuse at all for doing something so horrible. I don’t know what to do or how to apologize. Please help me. Thank you for reading.

Violence TW 

hey anon, 

i’m writing to you as someone who i don’t want to say “regularly” but often enough has gotten into very physical fights with my mother. they’re scary, for sure, and it really sucks and it’s hard to know how to deal and react afterwards. but they must be dealt with because otherwise you can’t move onward. 

i want to start by saying that none of this was your fault. 

i’m not sure how old you are, but if you’re reacting like this, i think you and your mom need to talk about how you’re not of an age anymore where she can physically discipline you just because she’s upset or angry. no parent should EVER discipline their child in the heat of the moment when they’re upset because that goes over discipline and into abuse in my opinion. 

i will also say this; it sounds like you were both scared and angry, and emotions and reactions are difficult to control in situations like that. i’m not trying to excuse her behaviors or yours, but i will say that yours seem like a reaction to hers. you are not at fault here. 

i think the best place to start is to apologize for kicking her, and to ask that she not attempt to hit or throw things at you when she’s upset because it’s not helpful for either of you. you need to reestablish how she can discipline you now that you’re older because it frankly sounds like you’re scared of her, and that’s not healthy for any parent-child relationship. she, more than you, needs to figure out an effective method of getting her point across without harming you be that verbally, mentally, or physically. 

i’m not trying to say that i support her hitting you, because i honestly think that needs to stop. i’m not trying to call your mother an abusive person, either. i’m just saying that there’s some things that she needs to work on now on how to discipline you. you deserve to feel safe and live without fear. 

if she continues to be physically aggressive towards you even after you two talk, it would be wise to seek advice and help from another trusted adult in your life. 

i hope this helps. 

stay safe, 

kei