#pluraltalk

[thefairytaler]

we spend a lot of time posting about how complex Canon Griffith is and how Griffith Did Nothing Wrong [citations needed] but ours is the most sopping wet pathetic trembling anxious self conscious needy little dumbfuck whore to ever exist so what is the truth.

[thefairytaler]

Pluraltalk/Kintalk but not putting it on my fictotheism blog because it's too droll for me to want to.

Griffith's constant need for attention is truly insane I don't think he has ever been as happy at something that did not involve Guts or Casca as that day he managed to cause The Discourse and he wasn't even involved in answering that shit, just watching like some kind of terrible self absorbed harpy.

We love him to death.

[osdd-1bitch]

I do worry that the urgency I see people put on source separation is not wanting to make a better life for themselves as of now, deal with their source better or better themselves or the variety of other reasons, but because of sanism and ‘thinking you’re something else is Bad because it’s Not Normal.’ Source separation can be an achievable and helpful goal but I don’t think it should be considered the only option for introjects ‘because it’s how to be normal’.

[osdd-1bitch]

(UIL, UYL)

I see a lot of arguing about the differences between persecutors and malicitors, which for the purposes of this post are different in that persecutors harm the system out of a sense of lashing out, confusion, or other situation and malicitors are genuinely malicious. The knee jerk reaction is often against the term malicitor—persecutors are often already unfairly judged and mistreated in many systems in the first place and persecutors seem far more common than malicitors (if they are an existing role in more than one system). However, malicitors, after much research, do seem to exist a non-miniscule number of times. Perhaps this is a little broad but I’ve read multiple cases of medically defined systems having persecutors who are rejected wholesale, etc etc.

It’s another case, as it happens many times, of terms and advice that don’t apply to everyone. The unfortunate truth exists that you or I may see other experiences that don’t necessarily line up to our own and make assumptions that could hurt ourselves or others. It’s not a fault of the term. The solution I propose is to not rail against malicitor as a term and demand all plurals to get in touch with their persecutors immediately and cut them some slack—through experience I know urging too eagerly can cause belligerence and reluctant attitudes—but try and encourage more accepting attitudes for every member in the system. I did also want to note somewhere that some plurals are incapable of rejecting any member.

And I don’t believe malicitors are inherently incapable of change either. Most, or at least I, associate malicitors with members who are rejected or fall dormant instead of joining the system, is that oftentimes they refuse to choose to change. That isn’t a factor in some systems at all, and they very well can change. I know a lot of hurt people will be reactive to this idea, but it’s not an impossibility. Perhaps this association itself is part of the reason for the terms bad reputation. It’s usage as a description of motivation might be more useful than its association with the varied solutions.

Ultimately, like most things, YMM. Be patient with yourselves and others.

[osdd-1bitch]

I’ve been reading a lot of older plural blogs and seeing the empowered multiple community and those fighting for acceptance of endogenic and other forms of plurality has been nice. I’ll collect some of these writings sometime and post them here.

[dragonwithdid]

I hate how if a team makes a huge mistake no one gets the blame but if one did member does a mistake the whole system is expected to apologise and get a punishment

[dragonwithdid]

So dragon like chocolate pudding so much that I got yanked from the front when I pulled it out of the fridge... interesting - Adrian

[oleandercollective]

Sometimes systemhood is holding your own hand bc one person is adjusting to healthy conflict resolution, and someone else is already through that process and can help with that