Soo... I'm rewatching the MCU for the umpteenth time (as one does) and I'm absolutely dreading Captain America: Civil War and Spider-Man: Homecoming. Why? The canon interactions between Tony and Peter, and maybe just canon Tony in general. I love the character, but holy cow he goes through a rough patch at these times and I (lovingly) hate him because what do you mean he brings a 14-15-ish year old to Germany to fight for something he doesn't understand?! Peter was not subjugated to the Accords, and yet he's fighting for them? I don't understand Tony's hypocrisy there. (Then again, it wasn't fully about the Accords, so...)
I can sympathize with all of the things that were going on at the time and all of the emotions Tony felt, but he's learned to keep people (a teenage stranger no less!) out of his battles! That happened in Iron Man 3, no? Harley nearly got killed because Tony was merely camping in his garage! Pepper nearly died, got kidnapped, and got mixed up with the Extremis stuff because Tony revealed his address, endangering himself and dragging everyone who lives with him (AKA: Pepper) along into the danger! He knows this by now, so why drag (and pretty much blackmail) a teenager into a fight—that did not have to get physical, mind you—between him and Steve? Ugghhh, it's almost a miscommunication trope without the romantic involvement (or with it if you ship Steve and Tony: who am I to rain on that parade?)
And in Homecoming, Tony just seems so dismissive! He gives Peter a taste of running with the big leagues (not a very apt experience since it was a petty squabble and not an actual fight for the good of the world) and then tells him to go on stopping purse snatchers and stuff? Like, Peter's young, I get that, but he never was just Spider-Man to stop purse snatchers, the video of him catching that car proves that! And Tony saw that video, so he knows. The whole airport fight, Peter was so enthusiastic to be there, how could Tony not see that? How could he expect him to not go after someone who's actively making lives more dangerous by selling alien-tech-juiced up weapons like Adrian Toomes? (Pardon if that's not his name in the MCU) It wouldn't have been an issue if Tony listened to Peter and actually handled it instead of saying he'll handle it and then do absolute jack to deal with it! So, when Peter steps up since Tony isn't, he gets in trouble and stripped of the suit that's saved his life and Karen, who was a massive help for him!
I wonder what was Tony's thought process there because Peter was going out in sweats to be Spider-Man before he got the suit, why wouldn't he just go back to that? Because Tony said so? Because the suit that he no longer has is the only way to go about as Spider-Man? Naturally, Peter threw himself into danger because with or without the suit, he'd feel responsible if things went wrong and he did nothing to help! He told Tony that he'd feel responsible for the bad things that happen if he didn't do anything. And no, the "and if something happened to you, I feel like that's on me" does not make it better because Tony apparently cares. Those are vastly different things. Tony feels responsible for Peter's safety, Peter feels responsible for his neighborhood's safety. One has many, many more lives attached to it, and Peter, with his massive guilt complex and gods know what else, knows his death would hurt people, but so many other people could die and their families would feel that same pain, so, of course, he isn't going to stand by!
Anyway, that's my piece. I just don't want to watch Civil War or Homecoming because Tony makes me so frustrated in them. But I'll still eat up fanon Irondad and Spiderson every time, excluding certain circumstances, but that's for another time.














