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[taclesa]

the yearning phenomenon - are modern stories becoming too thin?

yearning / noun / ˈyɜːr-nɪŋ — the narrative tension created when a story allows space for anticipation, ache, and unsaid emotion — producing a slow, tender build of meaning — psychological state defined by longing, distance, and delayed fulfillment, often intensified by silence, imagination, and emotional restraint

Modern Storytelling is Becoming Thinner

older films, books, and movies were built on:| - slow pacing - character development - world building - emotional tension - subtext - slow burn or normal-paced chemistry - silence layered with meanings

and if you’re like me, who grew up in the storytelling golden age of Studio Ghibli, Pixar, classic Disney animations, blockbusters written by the GOATs of Hollywood industry, you’d know the difference.

we didn’t fall in love with characters when they kissed. we fell in love with them because they hesitated or they longed or they pined or they yearned.

think about Mr. Darcy’s quiet, repressed, and painfully dignified devotion.

or Crowley’s 6000 years devotion but make it I would burn for you but I’ll be sarcastic and pretend I don’t fucking care.

and then, Sam and Josie falling in love despite the impending loss.

now, stories got shorter, quicker, flatter. at least most everything.

modern media have turned to: - resolving conflict too quickly - character development being shallow - stating emotions instead of showing them (golden rule in storytelling is show don’t tell, remember?) - relationships skipping tension - explaining everything instead of leaving something to be implied

and when modern stories rush towards the ending, the yearning dies.

for example: “I like you.” “I like you too.” Kiss.

classic storytelling gave us: ”I heard your voice across the room and had to pretend I didn’t.” ”I would die for you but I can’t say it.” ”I want you but it scares me.” ”That look… that look ruined my life.”

yearning is the psychological oxygen of romance. take it away and the story falls flat.

[xiloveoldwomen99]

[gray-ace-space]

Apparently sapiosexuality comes under the ace umbrella, specifically the demi umbrella. It turns out it's about a mental connection (feeling on the same wavelength cognitively before you feel attraction), not an competence kink. I am not attracted to exclusively smart people but I need to feel on the same 'wavelength' before I'm attracted to someone, so I think this might fit me. I will probably still use the demi label, but I don't necessarily need an emotional connection even though I need some kind of non-physical connection.

sapiosexuality has a complicated history, and i pretty much had only ever heard about it in the context of criticism. but it seems there's been an effort to reclaim it, so like, if you vibe with it that's cool

[lovepassionheart]

[forgottenbones]

[butch-enjoyer]

Sapiosexual are mean to me, a simple himbo, with all those long words and compound phrases! Why you bully me?

[riverjaneway]

Sapioromantic Athena happy Pride Month

[rainbowradness]

So much is going on in my life and yet it doesn’t feel like much. Like I’m not doing much with my life except work,the time I had off of work I didn’t do what I thought I could accomplish like a new skill,going to school,maybe even gaining some muscle mass. All I know if I definitely spend much more quality time with my senior dog and it was nice to just know what it feels like to relax. I feel like even when I’m not doing anything,it doesn’t feel like I’m relaxing.

Constantly during this year and even more so these last 4 months,my mindset and perspective has been challenged. For the better to I think,all though I feel I haven’t accomplished what I could have,I have grown in a different but still very important way. Being Challenge the screen has put in perspective what are you feel strongly about and what I still need to understand more about.

I never thought I’d be where I’m at right now but here is where I need to be.

I’m thankful for those who care enough to have deep conversation with me,instead of doing what I feel I do in social situations;not really speaking unless spoken too,agreeing to keep the peace,or maybe even just becoming a fall flower untill it’s all over with

I sometimes wonder if I fall asleep when we have company over because they bore me so much. There are times where I can’t help to doze and fall asleep

When I was first hanging out with my current boyfriend ,sometimes we’d stay up till 1-2 am texting,or having conversations in person and I wonder where the time went.

I miss those nights..I miss being mentally stimulated