#self judgement

[thepinkscope]

Pick a card: In what ways can you release judgement over your vulnerabilities? 

I just saw Doja Cat live and what rocked me is her ability to be earnest and vulnerable in some of her slower songs: 

Acts of Service 

Agora Hills

Make it Up 

- thepinkscope 

Pick a card: In what ways can you release judgement over your vulnerabilities? 

One

MØ - Gone and Found

This is such a special energy. It's wistful and full of longing. Kind of nostalgic yet haunting if that makes sense.

To release judgement over your vulnerabilities is to understand that you carry ghosts with you. Not actual ghosts but either past ghosts, like past memories, family, friends, lovers, etc., or the ghosts of your vulnerabilities.

No matter the type of ghost, acknowledging it would be beneficial. To say hi, to say "Thank you for teaching me this" or "I accept that things didn't go the way I expected", and then finding the courage to look forward.

The strongest keyword that came to me was 'forgiveness'. The moment you tap into that forgiveness of yourself or of someone else or of a past moment, that judgement will naturally dissolve and your vulnerabilities will no longer be things to ignore but things to embrace.

Two

Kent Jamz - BLOWING Up Your Phone

Before I could think any further, I immediately felt like sending love to you guys because I sensed a large amount of anxiety.

You might be an anxious bunch, and this easily draws in judgements of the things you find vulnerable about yourself.

It could be that a pattern you have noticed in your own life, where people or circumstances are never consistent. Things just can't be good, or people can't just be at peace - they go back and forth, causing you to grapple with anxiety.

You know who you are deep down. You imagine scenarios of how you'd act in real life, the way you'd dress or speak. You know that's the real you, but it's suppressed because of this lack of consistency that once happened in your life. Your vulnerabilities lie beneath a mountain of anxiety.

There is no deep answer to it. It's really about embracing a "fuck it!" kind of energy. To start letting the real you seep through. If people can't take it - if they switch up on you - then why don't you sit somewhere and interrogate compatibility?

Don't try to fit into circumstances or people that you might not even be compatible with. You deserve to feel good.

Three

Doja Cat - Paint The Town Red

Oh, I'm obsessed that your pile drew in a Doja Cat song. Trust me, that is a coincidence; I have lots of music.

I think that the vulnerability you have that you might judge is that you are actually very expressive.

I'm seeing that you stop yourself a lot. You stop yourself from trying a new look or dancing at the club or jumping up with excitement when your favourite sports team wins.

You have learnt to contain and that is not natural to you. I'm seeing those little kids during sports day at school, trying all the activities planned for them with all the excitement that they have! This is you - this was you, but over time, because of comparison or the way others have reacted, you've decided to contain it all.

The energy is sitting inside of you. Let it release. If people call you a "rebel" for it, so what?

To embrace your vulnerabilities in expression, you need to march to the beat of your own drum.

[charnel-grounds]

Self-Judgement

© Sara Argiolas

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Don't let others opinion of you or how you think they may see you distract you from acknowledging you've done your best also to protect yourself. Do not be too harsh on yourself, forgive yourself anytime you can. And when you cannot, give yourself time to make it. Being at war within because of something so mutable as someone else's mind is not worth it. And your worth doesn't depend on one single action of yours, nor on anyone else's thought of you. Sure, get hurt or angry about it as much as you need; check if you could do better or why you got triggered if necessary, but don't harass yourself because of that or of any possible "mistake" you did. You don't deserve it. Trust me. And that's not even you speaking: you probably simply internalized someone else's voice and behaviour against you/others... please try to let it go or at least, do not listen to it that much. It's not acting for your best, ever.

[infopathfinder]

[crystalsenergy]

We are unique, but why do we focus so much on the outside?

We are singular,

but despite that, we spend a lot of time living various roles that change as the person in front of us changes.

The name for this is conditioning ourselves to others or, in other words, being a chameleon that changes colors according to the environment or situation.

However, in this process of sometimes being what others want, sometimes being more yourself but still holding back, sometimes being less, sometimes muuuch less, you lose yourself in these roles!

Before long, you can no longer discern who you are and who you aren't

The solution is to seek out who yourself, your personality.

And self-discovery begins when you direct more energy inward than outward…

[lets-talk-spirituality]

Let’s Talk About: Healing your intuition

Years spent in western societal conditioning makes it almost natural to repress your natural impulses and instincts, which messes up your ability to clearly work with your intuition. If you are looking for some ways to heal your intuition, below are a list of examples you could do, but ultimately it’s your life and your impulses to follow!

whatever you’re craving for dinner? Let yourself have it instead of eating what you “should” eat.

stop eating when you feel full, or don’t be afraid to waste food you don’t like. Coming to terms with your privilege to be able to do that can be intense if you’re sensitive, but the reality is you can afford to be choosy about food and quantity. Stop eating when you’re full, not when the plate is done.

get rid of internal editing or judgement! Do you notice yourself adjusting as you create? Get rid of it. Say no, I’m just gonna let it come through me before I change it.

don’t judge yourself for what you like or don’t like, if you love cheesy romance novels, embrace it! Watch them without self judgement.

stop looking at your impulses or actions as flawed. Some things we perceive as flaws are actually what makes us unique, and different. Calling them flaws is believing these things need changes. Why? Are there legitimate reasons to change or are you doing it out of a previous wound, such as are you doing it to be more lovable?

when you get the impulse to run, run, if you want to sing, sing. Run through the sprinkler! Dance in the rain! Play hopscotch. I know sometimes in life we can’t just say yes to ourselves, like when we are at work, but as much as you can incorporate saying yes to your impulses the better.

you may prefer to act in different ways than you do or have but that doesn’t mean the choices or actions you’ve made are mistakes. There are no mistakes because that implies it shouldn’t have happened and everything happens as it’s meant to. Judging it as a mistake negatively connotes something that is just part of the human experience and is an egoic assessment of yourself, holding yourself to standards that may be rooted in societal expectations.

All these type of actions align you back with your internal navigation and intuition. Unfortunately many of us have been taught to repress things because they may bother other people or they may make others look at you strangely. You no longer need to fear this, be weird! Who cares? If you do care, then that’s something to examine. Why do you think you need to improve or aren’t good enough as you are? Why do you care if people think you’re weird? Start getting to the root of the reasons why you suppressed your inner voice to begin with. That is where you start the healing and recalling back all the power you have been freely giving away. As you say yes more, your connection to your own higher self and inner child will begin healing as well, allowing you to become more integrated as a whole individual instead of compartmentalized pieces of yourself.

[conscious-love]

5 Obstacles to Loving Ourselves

By: Sara Kuburic

Not putting in the effort to get to know ourselves

Striving for perfection

Comparing ourselves to others

Judging and criticizing ourselves

Evaluating our worth based on our outputs

millennial.therapist ~ Instagram

[angelaeleni]

We fear what we don’t understand. Our judgements come from our fear of not understanding what we haven’t yet personally experienced.

Next time you find yourself judging yourself or someone else, ask yourself what you can learn from them and how you can better understand that perspective of them/you.