Meltdown/shutdown resource.
I wrote this years ago, and thought I'd repost it as a standalone post instead of an answer to a question. I've included a few updates.
This can be used to create your own 'pick 'n' mix' of instructions, to help you notice or to help others to notice signs that you are beginning to get overwhelmed, the reasons why you might be becoming overwhelmed, or that you are in a state of shutdown/meltdown, and to know what to do and what not to do. Some suggestions might be repeated and seem contradictory (because one person might need to be left alone when becoming overwhelmed and someone else might need reassurance). You can also add in anything else you think of if creating your own resource, as this isn't an exhaustive list.
I might struggle with:
- being too hot/cold.
- noisy environments.
- sudden noises.
- bright lights.
- too much visual input or movement (busy/chaotic environments).
- too much social interaction.
- unexpected events.
- changes to plans.
- Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.
Signs to look out for:
- I may become irritable.
- I may become withdrawn/quieter than usual.
- I may stim more or less than usual, or differently [you could be specific about this, explainng the exact stims to look out for if any].
- I may become (more) aversive to touch (than usual).
- I may seem ‘sulky’ or ‘whiney’.
- I may act more ‘childish’ (than usual).
- I may become restless or more fidgety (than usual).
- I may ‘huff’ and sigh a lot.
- I may become uncooperative.
- I may cover my ears/close my eyes/turn away.
- I might become physically aggressive.
- I might become verbally aggressive.
- I might scream/shout/cry.
- I might become nonspeaking (or less able to speak).
- I might not be able to move independently.
- I may seem anxious/panicked.
- I may exhibit a flat effect.
- I might bolt.
- I might keep going to the toilet.
Don’t:
- Panic, or get angry or upset.
- Touch me.
- Leave me by myself.
- Talk too loudly.
- Talk to me.
- Ask open questions.
- Stop me from stimming or stop my sensory seeking behaviours.
- Prevent me from avoiding sensory stimulus.
- Involve other people.
- Box me in/block exits.
Do:
- Keep me safe.
- Talk to me.
- Reassure me.
- Leave me alone.
- Offer a quiet and private space.
- Give me something to drink and a snack (without asking).
- Explain where we are going (or what you are going to do).
- Ask closed questions (questions requiring yes or no answers, or give me limited options to choose from).
- Gently guide me away from crowded or noisy areas.
- Remind me to use/Give me my headphones/earplugs/sunglasses.
- Remind me to use my/give me my stim tools.
- Help me to keep warm or to cool down.
- (Ask if I would like you to) hold my hand tightly/hug me tightly (apply deep pressure).
- Use AAC (use specifics: tell them what kind of communication you prefer and if you need them to find an app on your phone, tell them which one - you could even include the icon for it).
I hope this is helpful to people.
Ben
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