#Parenting101: Tantrums suck, but is my response to them making it more stressful? A classic example of: “Most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and most of that extra stress is gone.” Shout out to this blue eyed cutie who gave me a hell of a time this weekend. Whose crazy blue eyes and attitude combined made me think he was an alien... 🤩 He’s at that age... “He’s designed to challenge you.” 😜 I recognized it wasn’t his behavior that I couldn’t handle, but my own reaction to it that was creating more stress. Of course, this isn’t ALWAYS true. But in this (and many cases), it was. It wasn’t him I had to control (#goodluck 😂), it was how I was reacting to it that was adding to my stress. Things I did to ground myself and reset: 1: Hide in closet 😂 🔑 2: For the rest of the day, put us in situations where I didn’t have to say, “No, stop doing/touching that,” to everything. (This is called situation support, where you help modify your situation to support you better.) 3: Breathe. 💨 When I felt my patience was thin and my blood pressure rise, stop. Walk to a different room. Take deep breaths until I physically felt my heart rate lower and the pressure in my chest go... Did it change his tantrums? No. But it helped me stay sane through the worst of it. 🤪 (Why do we even talk about the “terrible twos” when I’m continually told the 3’s are worse 💁🏼♀️) #timeforahaircut #terribletwos #situationsupport #stress #stressmanagement #stressless #parenting #parentingishard #tempertantrum #tempertantrums #momlife #singlemom #singlemomlife #singlemama #toddlerlife #blueeyes #blueeyedcutie #bossmom #expatmom #momboss #patience #responddontreact #selfhelp #mindset #mindsetmatters #mindsetreset #reset #resetbutton (at Breezes Restaurant) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVgF_hQv1Ya/?utm_medium=tumblr
