Okay, I may seem to be beating a drum, but months ago, I noticed three years late I got a direct reply to something I said and it linked to a pretty intentionally bad faith reading of this little sequence where Steph argues with Jordanna on Batgirl (2009) #3. And you know what!!! I reserve the right to finally respond indirectly. Let me have my outlet!
Honestly, the comment got me thinking a lot about this sequence and now that I've recently reread Batgirl, I'm glad for it, because I actually think this is a pretty significant moment for this era.
The reading was that Steph was just restating Jordanna's words to look good and is only pretending this is a personal discussion for her and trying to be a faux-progressive white girl here no I don't know why race is relevant to this but that's obviously a misreading.
The conversation IS kind of confusingly laid out, I do agree with that, but with the context of the next issue, we can see what's happening here. Steph IS actually projecting here, and empathizing with Devil's Square citizens (criminals and supervillains mainly, apparently) because she considers herself to be in a similar position. And the fact she considers herself a criminal or villain says a lot about where her self-esteem is right now.
"Why do criminals keep staying here" becomes "Why do you stay in Gotham, Steph, when you've made so many mistakes, when nothing can change, when no one wants you here?"
Jordanna saying dismissively that their only option is to run or go to jail sets Steph off precisely because she's projecting herself onto the situation-- it feels like her only option is to "run" or to suffer and die all over again. For both her and Devil's Square people, their choices are to become someone else, leave everything behind, or you stay and repeat the same patterns and get punished "like you deserve".
In saying "What if they don't have a choice?" Steph is saying "what if they wanted things to be different, but didn't see any other options?" Steph tried to run, but she hated the feeling of running away. It's not that she wants to come back to Gotham and make the same mistakes, to go through the same trauma, she wants to fix things. But she doesn't know how. Everyone is rejecting her again, she's being beaten down again, and it seems like she's going through the same motions-- but what else can she do?
"What if you don't have a choice?" Is a protest, it's "do you think I want it to be this way?"
So yes, Steph saying she's taking this too personally... because, shocker of shockers, she's taking it too personally.
Now, Jordanna gets mad at her about this later while high on Scarecrow drugs and it's not the most clear line of thought.
I don't know what exactly the "are you poor or something" is referring to. Maybe Jordanna thinks only poor people can sympathize with criminals, which would be pretty yikes. But most likely, Jordanna noticed one of the many signs Stephanie isn't as well off as her classmates-- such as her lack of laptop. And she's just mocking her for it because, in her drugged up state, she wants to humiliate someone who contradicted her with whatever ammunition she can find.
But at the end of issue 3, the reading that Steph was relating to how the criminals were stuck is cemented, and we get the big "I'm Batgirl" moment this all has been leading up to.
She realizes why she couldn't run and become someone else. She realizes why she came back to Gotham, opening herself up to torture and rejection and failure and death and a past she's rather forget--it's not about punishing herself, or repeating the same cycle. She came back to Gotham because she wanted to face herself, face her past, change, and do better.
What's interesting here, and what I wish had been explored more, is that Steph is implicitly sympathizing with the villains in Devil's Square and acknowledging there's a chance they can change too. Steph is seeking redemption-- and she's saying that the criminals could be in the same boat as her.By her logic, she's stating that redemption could be possible for them as well.
This is a big deal for Steph, who never showed any belief that villains can change before--after all, she saw Arthur promise to change over and over only to go back to being a criminal, go back to abusing her Mom. But now Steph has her own regrets and (in her mind) "sins" to carry, and she wants to believe she can learn and grow and change. Therefore, she opening herself up to believing doing something bad doesn't define you forever, that those who've done wrong can become better. And she's starting to extend this to "the bad guys" too.
I like this, and wish it had not been so rushed, and been developed more, because it gives Steph a motivation and reason for following the "no kill" code beyond the "well Batman said so and I'm a fuck up so I better listen to him" thing we got from War Games. Instead, it comes from a belief in rebirth and redemption she formed from her own painful experiences. I think it's a really interesting angle, and in my magical world where all the writers care about Stephanie like I do, someone could pick this up again and show Steph really struggling with these budding beliefs and do a lot of great character work and development with her.