#tw deadnaming

[epochnexus]

i hc them as slavic (+ german). you can't change my mind, i've had this hc for years

[honeyed-katsu]

shōto accidentally deadnames touya during sex (when he's coming in him), but he doesn't even get the chance to apologise because touya's actually so into it, it feels like being degraded & forcefemmed & age-regressing all at the same time

[thisis-aphobia]

This is a post about doomersis' apology put out around 3 ish days ago. I know it isn't aphobia related, and I'm sorry, but I think it is a point that I need to get off my chest. Her words have affected me deeply to the point I'd be up at night shaking because I couldn't stop thinking of the words she said.

I will be paraphrasing and linking some of her posts so if you are sensitive to suicide baiting, deadnaming, misgendering, dehumanizing, and violent fantasies please keep yourself comfortable and safe and scroll on. Take care, please.

If you aren't transmasc, a trans man, or anything adjacent, you do not have the place to forgive and forget the transphobia of doomersis.

Her apology was very empty and it will never undo the mountains of vile transandrophobia she spewed every day. It was quite telling that she was more worried for the future consequences of violent hatred than she was of actually owning up to and making steps towards being a safe person for trans mascs to be around.

You don’t get to call trans mascs 'testosterone hysterical women' and get away with it. You don't get to say it makes you happy to know a trans guy is being buried with [his] deadname on [his] grave and get away with it. You don't get to say you want glass to [their] eyes and get away with it.

A simple "I'm sorry I was mean I still believe they're privileged btw but I no longer want to kill them" is not enough to undo the vitriolic TERF rhetoric you spat out.

Her words had real, tangible effects. Telling a mother that she wished her trans son's suicide attempt had actually worked is despicable** and she shouldn't get away with it.

The asks she has received telling her that she must be such a good person because everyone makes mistakes and her owning up to it is outstanding piss me off. And while yes, I can admit that a shitty apology is better than no apology, she isn't a 'wonderful person with a wonderful apology.' She didn't really make an effort to actually apologize for any of the hate speeches she made.

It was so obvious that she would rather have every single last trans masculine person dead and gone in a slow, painful, violent death than she wanted every single lasy trans feminine person have a good and long and happy life.

Bottom line, her words will never be forgotten by many trans men and mascs, and she shouldn't be forgiven. I am creating this post because I do not want her apology to be the thing people know of her. She is a transphobic terf and doesn't deserve the forgiveness and forgetness of the trans community. Until she drastically changes, she doesn't deserve our forgiveness.

And for heaven freaking sakes do not send harassment her way because I've spoken about this. Just ignore her. Please. Harrassment and death threats aren't they way to go about this.

**Below the cut are screenshots I took of this post back in June from one of her old accounts. It includes dehumanizing and suicide baiting, please be cautious if this hurts you.

[thisis-intersexism]

my friends (ex-friends? going through shit with them rn) using the h slur to refer to intersex people, and, after we had a long ass debate about it, where i was stating facts and they were stating opinions and repeating shit like "oh so snails are intersex then?" and "the word [h-slur] came from a greek god, its actually a compliment" and "oh the word itself is fine, it's just being misused", they got pissy about it when i broke down crying because i was just fucking trying to explain..... and then two weeks later i find out i'm intersex 🫡👍

they also refuse to not deadname me (i've been out as nonbinary for like two years) and have been trying to persuade me not to change my name, or to change it to the masc version of my name, which i do not vibe with

This is intersexism and exorsexism.

There is. So much wrong with your friends arguments. I mean, this all goes without saying, guys this is absolutely awful. I hope you completely cut them off (unless they somehow do a huge switcharoo and you somehow forgive them for this bullshit) and heal from all that shit.

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

for clarity: our body specifically uses the binary trans man label. that is how we present ourself to nonqueer people. the reality is much different but for all intents and purposes we are a binary trans man in-person.

so, we are already forced to use our legal name on job applications. because of this, our job developer often marks us as female on applications, and only recently has marked us as male.

today there was a non-binary option on the application and when i said to mark male, she told me about the non-binary option and looked at me like she expected me to choose that instead. i had to tell her outright that i’m not non-binary (bodily).

it made me realize she doesn’t see us as a guy. she thinks of us as some sort of inherent “other” for being trans.

side note, she refers to us as “[deadname] [chosen name]” (example with random names i pulled: Ava Ben) to her coworkers/supervisor and uses it in our files, and she treats it like it’s some sort of cute nickname she gave us.

This is transandrophobia.

[bejeweledmayhem]

Part 3 of Terrell’s origin! (Sorry this took forever lol)

More info about Terrell’s mom:

Her name is Squidezebel (Squid-Jezebel)

She’s a high-end art critic to go with the theme of Squidward’s family being ‘artsy’ and stuff

She’s already been divorced 6 times…and that was before she had Terrell 💀

She’s definitely a narcissist but you can probably see that from the comic 😭

She also had no idea Squidward was trans but she’s one of those people who think being trans is a ‘phase’ and stuff (totally not based off my family irl fym??)

Might take a while before I make more of this or art in general but anyway yah- I love giving a 5-year-old hard times to go through (I’m joking, I love you Terrell I’m sorry your parents are assholes 😭 I needed to find a way for you to live with Squidward, I swear your life gets better 😫💔)

Part 1 and Part 2 here

[phighting-headcanons]

This is me projecting a little but subspace is secretly transgear, he made his gear himself and will literally kill you if you mention his former gear.

His superiors sometimes still use his old name to make him feel bad and work faster (just blackrock being assholes)

Medkit is also transgear, but he hasnt found a name yet (his gun)

what if neither of them knew they (as in, each other) were transgear. not for anything important really i just think it'd be funny if/when either of them realize and they just point at each other like that one spiderman image. twinning in every way possible (they're enemies)

[thatmultifandomchick]

Y’all. Alastor didn’t call Vox “Vincent” just because he hates the persona Vox puts on. (Though that certainly may be a part of it.) He did it specifically to be as cruel as possible and disregard Vox’s chosen name and identity. He wanted make Vox regret having ever shared his human name with him.

He did it to, for lack of a better term, deadname him.