#xenicphobia

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

”Brain sex” shit.

“Trans men are men because they have male brains, trans women are women because they have female brains” shut up, brain sex has been debunked

“See, my theory isn’t exclusionist towards nonbinary people because those people have intersex brains” shut up, brain sex has been debunked, and also that’s not what intersex means

“I used to be a transphobe, but now I learned that transgender people have brains that match the sex they’re transitioning to” oh wow. so you’re saying that you used to believe there has to be strict biological differences between genders, but now you believe that there has to be strict biological differences between genders? fascinating, tell me more

Also the implication by brain sex proponents that genderfluidity isn’t real. Because “your brain can’t switch between having a male structure and having a female structure”. Oh, and that xenogenders aren’t real because “your brain sex can’t be ‘cupcake’”

Brain sex proponents are wild to me. And when you show them the studies showing that there aren’t measurable differences in the brains of people with different genders and that early studies that found otherwise had too small a sample size, they’re like “but… but… that’s my emotional support bioessentialism!! 🥺”

This is varsexism and transphobia, and especially intersexist, transsexist, and exorsexist.

First of all - All studies on these "brain differences" show that the difference between mulleripathian and wolffipathian [link] brains is super small and inconclusive, and the differences likely actually develop due to how different people are treated based on gender roles (ie; how people raised as "sons" often are given less physical affection), rather than an actual natural biological development.

Second of all - These studies are done to such specific strict groups of people, that they do not reflect the generalized population in the slightest.

Third of all - Sex =/= gender. What about cisgender transsex people? What about transgender cissex people? Not everyone's sex and gender "align."

Fourth of all - Conflating intersex [link] with non-binary plays into the stereotypes that intersex people cannot be men or women. Yes, non-binary intersex people exist, and yes, non-binary people with "in-between" genders exist, but intersex people are not inherently non-binary, nor does being intersex or non-binary always mean "in-between."

Fifth of all - "Brain intersex" is a real thing, just not in the way these people think. It's called Secondary Hypogonadism/Hypogonadotropic Hypogonadism, which is when the brain isn’t sending as many signals as it typically would to the gonads (or related organs) to create sex hormones. The "brain intersex" narrative is intersexist both because it treats sex and gender as the same, and non-binary and intersex as the same, but also because it leads people to exclude people who are actually intersex because of their brain.

Sixth of all - As you pointed out, it is transmultiphobic and xenicphobic, because it erases genderfluid, genderflux, and xenogender people.

[androqueer-struggles]

Iʻm a transxenine (not transgender but the easiest term to describe myself) and cisgender man who relates heavily with trans masculine experiences.

Due to that iʻm either pushed into identifying with a dysphoria inducing label (transmasc or trans man) or pushed into spaces i donʻt relate to (nonbinary or solely cisgender spaces). If i leave queer spaces ill be seen as a man but not relate to typical cisgender experiences nor will my xenine identity be fully understood or respected.

Itʻs isolating and i wish there was a way to have my identity respected and still be able to stay in spaces i relate to.

Iʻm either seen as an invader or “on the fence” about my identity regardless of where i go

This is androqueerphobia.

Androqueers with "non-conventional" identities deserve to have a space in the community, too.

(Btw, if you don't identify as transgender, you don't have to call yourself *trans*xenine! You can drop the trans part, and just call yourself xenine. Its ultimately up to you, I'm not telling you how to identify either way.)

[ichliebemeinkissen]

TB to when someone was mad at me cuz transandrophobia or whatever and they just stalked my blog making fun of my xenogenders..

like the funniest thing i've ever been told is "ah okay. now i see why you are the way you are. christmasgender"

[the-queer-thee-fear]

Arseholes: Your "iDenTItY" doesn't fit a label, you're weird, die

People: *make a label for their identity that they and others like them accept*

Arseholes: Your "iDenTItY" is made up, you're all weird, die

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

"Being transgender is valid because we didn't choose to be this way!"

That isn't the point. Being trans is valid because... it's not hurting anyone. Who tf cares if it's voluntary or involuntary? I've met trans people who chose to be trans. I've met people who were say, demigirl, and instead chose to identify with different xenogenders that basically mean demigirl but I'm different ways. Hell, I've met CIS PEOPLE who have chosen to use xenogenders to describe their womanhood or manhood. I've met people who feel as if their trans identity is both voluntary and involuntary.

Being trans isn't valid because "oh I didn't choose this and I don't want this and actually it's horrific and I'm SUFFERING!" It's valid because it literally doesn't affect anything and it doesn't hurt anybody. So fucking tired of seeing this rhetoric.

I agree with you about transness being valid because it harms nobody.

However.

You are being exorsexist, specifically xeninephobic.

If a person does not identify as a demigirl, they are *not a demigirl.* Do not call someone "basically a demigirl who doesn't use the label." Don't mislabel their gender identity.

And also, it's pretty unclear from the way you worded it, but it kind of feels like you're saying "a xenine man socially imposed as male and a xenine woman socially imposed as female are just cisgender!"

Unless a xenogender person actively identifies as cisgender, do not call them cisgender. Cisxenines are valid, if a xenine man or xenine woman feels as though they are cis, that is theirs to identify. But it feels like you're undermining transxenine manhood in those socially imposed as male and transxenine womanhood in those socially imposed as female.

And you speak about being xenogendered as if it is somehow "more of a choice" than being non-xenine. Most xenogendered people do not feel as though their gender is a choice. Its valid if a xenine person feels as though their gender is a choice, but you make it seem like xenogenders are "more likely to be a choice" than non-xenines.