tengo mucho que decir

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[tenderstem]

why hello there women

[makingimages]

[tenderstem]

now that I know it’s just an autistic experience to finish socialising with someone or a group and to worry about how you were coming across I’ve sort of decided to spend no time worrying about it at all 🤷‍♀️ like okay this is expected but if other people aren’t wasting a lot of time analysing that then I’m not going to either

[chateauofmymind]

have you ever suddenly + involuntarily lost consciousness

yes (fainted)

yes (head trauma)

yes (substance-induced)

yes (lack of oxygen)

yes (blood loss)

yes (multiple)

no

Remaining time: 5 days 6 hours

[tenderstem]

friends, lovers, etc, should be people who are secure enough in their own ideas and beliefs that they can ‘disagree well’ with you and others. I think this is actually one of the most fundamental qualities any kind of close relationship requires. it shows respect for you and your ideas, but crucially also that the person has respect for themselves and their own views. this is not to say arguments and tense situations should never happen if a relationship is ‘positive’, pretty much the opposite… if those situations can’t be weathered, if you or they feel the need to tiptoe around each other for fear of tension, then the relationship lacks this crucial quality I’m trying to describe. love and respect for them and for you should underpin how disagreements are dealt with, so you have to let those you care about be their own people and they should ensure this for you as well (-:

I write this partially by the way because there is a lot of fear within my generation about these kinds of things, people are afraid to follow their own judgement, to allow themselves to be contrary and think differently, and to similarly police this in others. this is unhealthy

[tenderstem]

just did my hour of reading hmm maybe I will go get a hot drink and a snack (-: relax a bit before bed yay

[lionfloss]

by Petr Kosykh

[noireasy]

The way I basically have nothing to say on here anymore. And everything I do have to say makes me sound deranged.

[bruzum]

[tenderstem]

the amount of 20th century lesbians I know of including mascs because they were somehow involved in mercedes de acosta’s wider circle lol how did she get absolutely everywhere

[tenderstem]

wish I’d studied plant sciences or something because amazingly there always seems to be jobs in that somewhere and also I think it’d be difficult to be depressed if your life’s work was about trees and plants. constantly immersed in the life-cycle of things you know )):

[byjove]

[gluten-free-pussy]

Swinging at the hornets nest here (the “sex work is work” crowd won’t like this one lol) but there was a post going around about like “if you work in hospitality and you think you see a sex worker, no you didn’t. Keep your mouth shut and let them make their money” is honestly sending me. As many of you know, one of my jobs is working front desk at a hotel and like no lads…we can’t “look the other way” at times. Yes, we know when the working girls check in (many are regulars who are open about it, plus after working their long enough you Know™️ when a woman is because you can clock the signs) and of course we can’t stop them but there are times when you literally have to say something. Here are a couple of instances that have happened on my shifts alone:

-I was checking in two girls and knew something was off and asked to see both their ID’s. Only one had a passport and her 18th birthday was literally a week ago. The other one handed me her high school student card. We had to call the police when their pimp came in and started making threats bc we refused to check them in.

-a sex worker checked in the night before and a housekeeper went into the room the next morning and found the woman in a bloody mess. There were chunks of human tissue scattered throughout the room (the housekeeper quit after that. Honestly, housekeepers are literally on the front lines of the bullshit but that’s another story)

-something about a “couple” was offfffffff at check in. The woman was standing with her hands behind her back, had her eyes glued to the floor, and wouldn’t answer questions despite her name being on the reservation. The man was answering for her. When I asked to see her ID, he hands it to me, and when I handed it to her, her arms were covered in bruises. We didn’t let them check in

-there are two properties and one of them has an agreement with a women’s shelter. I’ve checked in women into one property only to see them come in months later to the other property under the womens shelters’ reservation with bruises and broken limbs (many of whom are indigenous women).

So yeah bottom line: with the World Cup soon approaching, all of us -front desk, maintenance, housekeeping, the kitchen staff, sales, you name it all departments- have had to do extensive modules on clocking the signs of human trafficking. You can’t just look the other way because it can mean missing the underaged girl or preventing horrific violence. Yes we have our regulars and yes sometimes it is what it is but no you can’t just look the other way and let them “secure the bag” because I guarantee there’s a pimp in the lobby/parking lot who’s the one getting the bag at her expense.

[tenderstem]

all this whilst trafficking survivors are literally trying to beg online for hotel workers to be able to read the signs of when women are being trafficked. some people are soooo evil

[girlbloke]

giving unread book back to the library makes me feel like i should be shot

[unsentimentaltranslator]

The fact that some people say things like this while other people think it’s totally fine to starve children is something that really should be talked about more.

[girlbloke]

period i am against that for sure

[only-tiktoks]

[tenderstem]

I hope that paris mwenda woman is okay. I haven’t really kept up but it’s just more evidence that you can not mention anything about trans stuff at all, be completely ‘sticking in your lane’ and talking only about issues you know about personally and directly, and yet you’re still branded a bigot for it. it was obviously part of the aim to just stop women talking about issues that directly affect us like 🤷‍♀️

[tenderstem]

another use case for AI that will no doubt be (and probably is being currently by the looks of it) revolutionised by it so it finally doesn’t suck is voice dictation. even just a year ago on things you’d have to say ‘comma’ to get it to write a comma etc, whereas now there are ones that just understand the rules of punctuation and put it in for you. I’m of mixed feelings about this bc part of me is like, what if this makes people’s grasp of punctuation awful? I don’t really worry about myself bc I’ve always had a good grasp of punctuation, but overall what would the effect be? but then as someone who is episodically physically disabled and it has an impact on typing, I have to consider this a necessary evil for the good it will bring to people who are struggling