That Abused and Chronically Ill Feel

Mentally and physically ill, but experiencing or have experienced abuse instead of support

[depression-anxiety-me]

[userboxer]

[did-you-know]

There’s a song that’s been proven to reduce anxiety by 65%. It’s called Weightless by Macaroni Union, and it was specifically designed to slow your heart rate, reduce blood pressure, and lower cortisol levels. It’s so effective that it’s dangerous to drive while listening to it because it can make you drowsy. Source Source 2 Source 3

[chronic-confessions]

Confession #1,743

I’m scared that this is it for me and I’ll never get my life back - I’ve accepted my chronic pain but the hardest part of this is managing other people’s expectations :(

[thatabusedandchronicallyill-blog]

My dad died today Sept 27 2016

[marxism-leninism-utenaism]

radical new medical techniques like listening to your patients and believing what they tell you

[thatgirlneedsaxanax]

I just wanna say… From the bottom of my heart… Get the fuck away from me if you have bad intentions

[animalsnaps]

more relatable posts?

[jennyhoelzer-deactivated2016120]

[thatabusedandchronicallyill-blog]

I had a realization just now, of why my mom started to truly hate me. In 1996 her mother was dying of colon cancer. On her deathbed, she kept trying to tell me that I was going to be ok, that I was going to get away from my dad finally. I didn't understand that she had been begging my mom to do something when I wasn't there. She made my mom promise she would get me away from him. All that attention that my dying grandmother gave me, mixed with the guilt my mother felt for all the years she left me behind...my mother began to hate me. She hated me because she didn't want to feel guilty, didn't want to face the fact that her mother judged her for what she did. Instead of accepting it, and trying to make up for it...instead of deciding to be sorry, she turned it around on me. She still had people telling her how horrible she was for what she had put me through, and it made that malice toward me grow. In 2008 she sat there and watched from the sidelines as I was slowly dying. For months she watched and waited, waited for the cause of her guilt to just fade away. But I didn't, because I am stronger than she realized. So when she found out I was pregnant, she put her harshest plan into action. Her plan to psychologically break me down, by putting all those hateful feelings onto me. She refused to feel them herself, you see. Instead she told me all the things she should have been feeling. You don't love your kids, you don't want to take care of them. You're lazy, you're not sick you're just using it as an excuse to not take care of your children. You're a horrible mother, you can't do anything right. Just want to pawn them off on someone else, have them take care of everything for you. You can't raise your kids right, you're exactly like your dad. No you aren't supposed to take care of yourself. You sacrifice everything for them until you have nothing left. You run yourself into the ground because that's what you're supposed to do. And if you don't, you don't love them. No you can't have any help. You do it all yourself, or else you're a horrible mother. No one else, you have to do it 100% alone. Before she tried to shoot me, she told me that I must hate my children...because I wouldn't give my son, who had a stomach bug, milk. I had spent all night taking care of him, cleaning him up and giving him fluids so he didn't get dehydrated. I had spent 12 hours straight taking care of my sick child. I am a good mom. I love my children more than anything. She tried to destroy that, and tried to steal my children away from me. I did nothing wrong, just existed. I never deserved the hate those two people gave me, the ones pretending to be my parents. I just kept trying to survive. Now I'm at the tail end of it, and I have so much going on with me health-wise...she still won't leave me alone. She still texts me, or gets my sister to. Still tries to guilt, manipulate. I will be free of them. I will come out the other side of this. But I look back on all that time wasted, used up by these hateful people...I'm 31 years old now. That's too long to wait to start your life. But all I can do is move forward, with the people that matter. Its just hard to grasp that all of this was over someone else not wanting to see what a monster they truly had become.

[artofthecatt]

oh snap

[moaccyrk]

REBLOG.

FOREVER.

[thepanthercave]

This is an actual Therapist Recommended method for dealing with a runaway “inner critic” and this comic is perfect ❤️

[serotnin]

when your mental health reaches that point

[mental-health-stuff]

It really bugs me when you tell a person you “don’t feel like people today” and they get unnecessarily upset

There are days when I don’t feel like PHYSICALLY interacting with people because I’ve either gotten a horrible amount of sleep, had a bad night and am feeling low or I’m emotionally drained and numb and just need some rest

This isn’t about you, fam I just can’t handle being social I’m always down for messaging, but let me chill and physically recuperate without making me feel bad for it

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Understanding Anxiety Attacks

Anxiety attacks are episodes of intense panic or fear. Anxiety attacks usually occur suddenly and without warning. Sometimes there’s an obvious trigger— getting stuck in an elevator, for example, or thinking about the big speech you have to give—but in other cases, the attacks come out of the blue.

Anxiety attacks usually peak within ten minutes, and they rarely last more than thirty minutes. But during that short time, the terror can be so severe that you feel as if you’re about to die or totally lose control. The physical symptoms of anxiety attacks are themselves so frightening that many people believe they’re having a heart attack.

Symptoms of anxiety attacks include:

· Surge of overwhelming panic

· Feeling of losing control or going crazy

· Heart palpitations or chest pain

· Feeling like you’re going to pass out

· Trouble breathing or choking sensation

· Hyperventilation

· Hot flashes or chills

· Trembling or shaking

· Nausea or stomach cramps

· Feeling detached or unreal

Self-help for anxiety attacks and anxiety disorders #1: Challenge negative thoughts

· Write down your worries. Keep a pad and pencil on you, or type on a laptop, smartphone, or tablet. When you experience anxiety, write down your worries. Writing down is harder work than simply thinking them, so your negative thoughts are likely to disappear sooner.

· Create an anxiety worry period. Choose one or two 10 minute “worry periods” each day, time you can devote to anxiety. During your worry period, focus only on negative, anxious thoughts without trying to correct them. The rest of the day, however, is to be designated free of anxiety. When anxious thoughts come into your head during the day, write them down and “postpone” them to your worry period.

· Accept uncertainty. Unfortunately, worrying about all the things that could go wrong doesn’t make life any more predictable—it only keeps you from enjoying the good things happening in the present. Learn to accept uncertainty and not require immediate solutions to life’s problems.

Self-help for anxiety attacks and anxiety disorders #2: Take care of yourself

· Practice relaxation techniques. When practiced regularly, relaxation techniques such as mindfulness meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, and deep breathing can reduce anxiety symptoms and increase feelings of relaxation and emotional well-being.

· Adopt healthy eating habits. Start the day right with breakfast, and continue with frequent small meals throughout the day. Going too long without eating leads to low blood sugar, which can make you feel more anxious.

· Reduce alcohol and nicotine. They lead to more anxiety, not less.

· Exercise regularly. Exercise is a natural stress buster and anxiety reliever. To achieve the maximum benefit, aim for at least 30 minutes of aerobic exercise on most days.

· Get enough sleep. A lack of sleep can exacerbate anxious thoughts and feelings, so try to get 7 to 9 hours of quality sleep a night.

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_types_symptoms_treatment.htm

[recoveryandmentalhealth]

reminder: you don’t have to wait to be a certain level of ‘’bad’’ until you’re worthy of recovery. you don’t have to be bad enough or sick enough. you’re already deserve getting better. you don’t have to sink to a certain level before you’re allowed to recover. 

[naturaekos]

Sometimes suffering is just suffering. It doesn’t make you stronger. It doesn’t build character. It only hurts.

 Kate Jacobs (via naturaekos)

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