Nah I will fix this

On this tumblr you will see a lot of:Cats, TeamFortress2, Minecraft, my drawings, shit that I really like,shit that touch me and shit I just want to keep somewhere. Be aware of the randomness and occasional NSFW...... Have a nice day.

[teaboot]

I just want everyone to eat well and get old

[teaboot]

every single one of us should have the chance to get old and bald and wrinkly and fat. I mean that sincerely

[homoidiotic]

[crescentalice]

listen, I may have the psychological profile of a mentally ill teenage girl, BUT

[crescentalice]

but..... umm...

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[softwaring]

[the-semicolonoscopy]

It’s Pride Month Eve, so leave out some milk for Freddie Mercury and his cats.

[the-semicolonoscopy]

Annual reblog of Freddie and his magnificent cats.

[tumbalendar]

happy Pride Eve!

[autistobrat]

this too shall pass but the fuck was that for

[annabelle--cane]

like as a feminist and an asexual if you ever imply that not having sex / not having "enough" of it is a conservative or reactionary trait I will be running you over with a bus pronto

[annabelle--cane]

you do not need to have sex ever. if you don't want to then you can just not do it. you don't need to have sex in order to mature as a person. you don't need to have sex to prove that you don't think it's immoral. you don't need to have sex to be a good partner. you don't need to have sex to be physically and/or mentally healthy. all of these goals can be achieved by hundreds of means other than sex. you can chose to do it for any reason you want, but you can also chose not to do it for any reason you want, including just not really feeling like it at any given time in any situation. the only thing not having sex says about your life and character is that you decided not to have sex. you can really really just not do it and that will be 1000x better for you in every conceivable way than making yourself do it when you don't want to.

[drtanner]

It's supposed to be a choice. You are supposed to have a choice. You have a choice about how much sex you have, about what clothes you wear and what work you do, whether you become a parent or a home maker or whatever else. It's supposed to be a choice! You're not meant to be swapping one small set of restrictive criteria for another!

[strangehorse]

Is anyone else starting to feel kind of wary about the increasingly common narrative that "women's bodies are so different to men's that modern scientific recommendations do not apply to them"?

Like. There is a significant gap between 'a lot of studies do not take into account variations caused by things like female hormone cycles, which can limit how generalisable they are' and 'medical science does not apply to women', and the latter just seems to create a situation rife for bad faith actors and snake oil salesmen to reassure you that actually, THEY have the answers, because THEY listen to women, and if you simply pay them for their online subscription service-

[strangehorse]

like. female and male bodies are not different species. the traits you consider inherent and unique to Female or Male can often be changed by hormone therapy and other interventions, and many traits fall on a bimodal distribution, not a binary one. you can apply the findings of 'Invisible Women' without implying that female bodies are like, Startouched Special Moon-Tied Nature Creatures that are immune to all known scientific phenomena

[depsidase]

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

I want to come out, to just be a woman all the time instead of strangling myself every time I go outside, but it's so goddamn hard

I'm trying but it's so goddamn hard, I'm so fucking scared

I'm not struggling, not like everyone else seems to be

I've got support from friends, my girlfriend, even some of my family

But I just can't do it

I can't do it by myself but there's nobody who can carry me either

And it feels selfish and awful because I'm just being a coward, I'm failing despite having all these things that other women deserve more than I do

I'm just so fucking scared

yeah no me too. there's nothing selfish about being scared to come out of the closet, I'm sorry you've been made to feel that way.

it's okay to be scared, that's a reasonable thing to be afraid of, but it's worth it. I live in Florida and I don't talk to my parents anymore and everyone treats me differently now, I think I've paid a higher than average price for transition? but it's still worth it.

I could give you some gentle persuasion but I'm sure you know it already, so I'll be real with you:

I love it so much that I'm willing to consciously risk dying for it. do you have anything that you're willing to do that for?

would you like to?

you're not a coward, you've been burdened with greatness. that's an awful thing, I'm sorry.

can you really just keep pretending to be a man? can you find your teeth? can you grit your tongue against them as you say, "death before detransition"?

the awful truth is that you can be great. it will be hard but you can. it would be easier if you were bound to fail, but you're not.

the thing that haunts you is that you can do it.

transition is a lifelong process, but it's also a decision. right now, today, as you read this, I'm forcing you to choose:

are you transitioning?

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

take my hand. let's be girls together

[asteroidtroglodyte]

Nature Documentary: these deep sea creatures can withstand crushing pressures of thousands of pounds per square inch!

Me: they’re not withstanding a goddamn thing. The pressure is a part of them. Their interiors and exteriors are equalized. Just because your respiratory system is built around a pair of fragile poppable bubbles-

[milflaralorvan-deactivated20231]

when you see your little kitty walking toward you at a leisurely pace and say "hi baby!" bc you're excited to see her and she starts trotting a little bit faster 'cause she's excited to see you too. that's what life is all about i think

[pjharvey]

we have to start running a massive PSA campaign to young gay people so everyone understands there is a difference between being a dom and being a top and between being a sub and being a bottom. and also that sometimes you are neither a sub nor a bottom and you're just like shy. we need to be handing out flyers we need ads at every train station spreading the word

[pjharvey]

i was not expecting this to get notes. i appreciate the thank yous and acknowledgments in the tags from fellow shys who top or dom and are tired of assumptions

[catilinas]

more benches in museums

the benches need to have backs!

[crabanarchy]

They say ooooh be a good boy for daddy and you'll get a reward. But then the reward is just gay sex. This is bullshit. I wanted a skateboard

[crabanarchy]

Then they say if you're a bad boy daddy will punish you. But what's the punishment? More gay sex! You can't escape it. This whole damn place is in the pocket of Big Sex

[valtsv]

my that one friend that's too woke opinion is that in a similar vein to how you almost never see fat people or women without makeup on tv you never really see anyone experiencing incontinence issues unless it's a humiliating comedic moment at their expense and that's kind of scary

[valtsv]

like sorry to be the bearer of bad news but people piss themselves. when they're afraid. when they've experienced mental and/or physical trauma and their body needs a way to express that stress. when they've been sexually assaulted. when they get older and their muscles start to wear out from a lifetime of service. a not insignificant majority of people Will experience incontinence in their lifetimes and while there are steps you can take to manage it for your own comfort and others', there's simply no moral dimension to it whatsoever. & like i'm not saying every show and movie needs checkhov's bed wetting scene but we have seriously got to get more okay with acknowledging that somehow.

[valtsv]