okay so i have this theory that even neurotypicals & singlets don't always know who they are
cw // fakeclaiming , identity confusion , identity disturbance
what i mean is that we dont always consciously think "i am bob, i like to read about birds and i need my morning coffee" or something like that. we just exist. we just do things. and then if we run into some situation that require us or just reminds us of recognising who we are, most people would probably be able to define themselves, but even then a lot of the immediate response is something we have learnt and just automatically reply with, like the made up example i put in quotation marks earlier. most people, no matter the brain, will be confronted with the fact that they actually dont fully know who they are. especially in your teens and as a young adult, but also later in life. here erik erikson jumps to mind with his theory of identity conflicts at certain life stages, which i think many people can relate to
well, my personal experiences have lead me to this understanding at least. whenever i've attended something and people have to present themselves, many actually struggle a bit. and how many of yall saw people around you figuring out that they actually were trans/gay/queer/ect when we all had to socially distance and got more time to realise more sides of ourselves? I know i did. i have friends who did
okay now this is just a rant. this always happens, my apologies. idk i just find personality psychology and the concept of identity super interesting and honestly i could discuss it for ages (i feel sorry for my friends /lh)
conclusion: no one knows who they are at all times, so if you feel like it is a sign of faking when you dont know who you are and have to think about it - just know that even people with one single identity to manage can get confused too and have to do some soul searching to learn who they are besides "basic characteristics"
peace & love, an alter in a system who's not sure who they are <3
















