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My name is Kaos (for now). Brazilian, stressed and always tired. Adult. Black and neurodivergent. Lovepunk queer. Cassgender • Procul fray. He/She. Alterhuman. Anticapitalist. Relationship anarchist. Profiction & Profandom. Multifandom (I swear). Poly/Multishipper. Don't mind me. Just here to thirst over characters, vent about occasional discourse and to be queer. VERY QUEER. Also, my english sucks. Stay at your own.

[the-cuir]

HELP MY FRIEND OCTO

This is my main blog for pretty much anything, but specifically fandom and queer stuff. I usually dedicate myself more to one fandom when I'm watching/rewatching something, but let's just say I'm multifandom in general. About queer shenanigans: I am pro good-faith identities and reblog a lot about this specific matter. I don't have a dni, because I know I can't stop anyone from following this blog, but I do block freely (and bitch, I can be petty).

→ Wholeheartedly profiction because I know how to criticize things without resolving to media essentialism <3

→ Transmisogyny, antitransmasculinity and exorsexism can coexist. The three of them don't cancel each other out. Learn about other trans experiences that isn't yours.

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• Things I really like: p1harmony, oz, old teen shows, teen wolf, ouat, p&p, gays, etc.

• AO3: queerosian | queerosianbr (brazilian portuguese translation of my fics).

• Coinage blog: @givemecoins.

[scretladyspider]

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

Sometimes "rarepair" means "you are literally the only person who posts about this on tumblr dot com" and you have to learn to be okay with that.

[angelbabymikaa]

why the fuck is everything labeled mature content now who runs this app? mormons??????

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“be gay do crime! but sex is yucky and crime is wrong!” ass website

[cheaphalloweencostume]

literally 😭😭😭

[the-cuir]

[ID: Comment by syrupmancer. Transcription: Pirating hp crap is the only crime people here can tolerate before they start getting scared. End of ID.]

[radiomogai]

hello, i hope your& day/night is going well!

i was wanting to ask if you& or anyone else knows how aplatonic is queer? im honestly very new to the community so i just dont really understand how aplatonic, or aspec identities in general work,, but im trying to learn

thanks in advance if you& answer!

Thank you, you also!

Ok so I have two separate answers on this. One is a more straightforward answer to your question, the other is musings on the concept of what queerness entails at all

For a more straightforward answer: queer is a broad umbrella term that encompasses (but not exclusively) deviation from societal standards in regards to interaction with others, gender, and self-expression. This is not an all-encompassing definition, nor the only definition of queer. Speaking at least in terms of Western anglophone society, there are strong societal expectations and pressure to have the 'right' kind of relationships with others: to fall in love with a single person of 'opposite' sex and gender, to enter a legal monogamous marriage with this person (which entails sex), and to have children with them. There is also the expectation to have multiple friends primarily of the 'same' sex and gender. Societal structures are built in ways that push for these, in legal, social, religious spheres of life, among others: marriage is one of few ways to ensure someone who is not familially related to you has legal power over you and your estate should you die or be unable to manage it yourself, media is rife with depictions of the friendless as being so as a personal failing or danger, people who are disinterested in sex or romance or friendship are considered cold, robotic, even monstrous

This puts a lot of pressure on people who are *not* interested in sex, or romance, or friendship (incomplete list), gives them the sense of being broken, inhuman, and outcast. If someone who is aplatonic only ever hears that their disinterest in friendship makes them dangerous, or must be fixed, makes them strange and on the fringes of society... well, are those not very common messages given to people who are gay and trans also?

My second answer: I don't think it matters whether aplatonicism is queer or not. I don't think it needs to matter. I think that to set fences around what is and is not queer, rigid or not, goes against the spirit of liberation and pride that queerness espouses. I worry that setting rules for what can and what cannot be queer weakens the solidarity and community support that is so desperately needed to combat queerphobia. I think aplatonics are aplatonic, and that that is enough

[justforspite]

Mai: What is love?

Kaito: An emotional minefield.

Micchy: A neurochemical reaction.

Kouta: Baby don't hurt me

[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[ordr]

Thanks for sexualizing peoples trauma fuckhead

anytime

[gotinterest]

Gonna be honest a lot of people deep down view cheating as worse than abuse which is why so many people view downright controlling and manipulative behavior in a relationship as 100% permissible so long as that behavior is centered around either preventing or discovering cheating.

[veganvaporeon-deactivated201801]

Can we all take a moment to appreciate non-binary fairies please

[lorwhal]

“little sillies” :’3

[bidyke]

Also note that this was written before pink was assigned to girls and blue to boys.

[rainbowhyperfixation]

[image description: screencap of text “*When a new baby laughs for the first time a new fairy is born and as there are always new babies there are always new fairies. They live in nests on the tops of trees and the mauve ones are boys and the white ones are girls (this next part is underlined in yellow) and the blue ones are just little sillies who are not sure what they are *J M Barrie Peter & Wendy 1911 Ch 17”]

[normystical]

hanahaki disease that is not only nonromantic, but is also not platonic nor queerplatonic nor familial nor anything else like that. hanahaki disease in regards to stoicism rather than desire. feelings building up inside, not of love, but of pain, or sadness, or guilt, or regret, or any other vulnerable emotions. they refuse to admit that they feel. perhaps they are funny, to the point of constsntly hurting others and telling them they deserve it, all while refusing to admit that they wish they didn't push others away like that. perhaps they are a hardworking individual, pride themselves on being useful, decide that if they asked for a lesser load it'd make things worse. perhaps they are cold, seemingly apathetic, but there is more beneath the surface than they'd like anyone to have to see. and yet... any of these examples and more, they'd have to admit that they do, in fact, feel a lot deep down, lest they suffer at best or die at worst.

[status-quo-hater]

I think one of the funniest abortion stances I've heard was from my parents neighbor. He's a like, hard-core libertarian viking larper guy who is very tall and very fat and very bald.

He believes a fetus is human with a soul, but also its "basically attacking the woman's body" so if she wants to get rid of it, that's "basically self-defense". He compared it to shooting a home invader. So he supports abortion not as healthcare, but as killing a baby in self-defense

[status-quo-hater]

Y'know I'm so glad someone reminded me of this. Because this was also discussed.

My stepmother did NOT like the way her Libertarian Viking Neighbor framed pregnancy as the fetus "attacking the woman". She incredulously told him this was extremely disrespectful to expectant mothers to portray pregnancy as so violent and negative.

Libertarian Viking Neighbor's response was that people consensually hurt each other all the time, and "there's like a whole community about that, with the acronym the one that starts with a B" And his reasoning was that if the mother was consenting to bring attacked by the baby, it in fact wasn't violent and negative because there was consent.

He brought up people consensually hurting each other, didn't go for one of the obvious answers like boxing or body mods or something, no he went STRAIGHT TO BDSM and he DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THE ACRONYM

[the-cuir]

01×05 antis complaining about shippers interacting with them even though they constantly interact with shipper accounts not even bothering to check the big "01x05 SHIPPER" in their bio or pinned 😭😭😭😭

[the-cuir]

writing html/css focused fics is humbling cuz nobody ain't reading that

[pzyii]

a banshee and a werecoyote walk into a bar..

[the-cuir]

i am not okay i hate short haired men