[roughentumble]

my friend just told me that there's a secret second dashboard that solely contains posts from people you've turned on post notifications for, and when i click the link in the messages it opens it within the tumblr app, so the tumblr app also has a secret second dashboard for post notification blogs, and the only way to access it is to open the link for it within the app.

i literally love tumblr

[nightpool]

i have a private pinned post that just has a link to this dashboard on it, it's great. two dashboards for life

[cyle]

wow! i was really hoping someone would organically reverse-engineer this and find that dash.

here are a few other "secret" dashboards:

Posts from your "crushes"

"What you missed" (will be empty if you already visit Tumblr every day)

"Trending"

these are all just taking existing feeds of content and putting them in a dashboard-like format... the "Stuff for you" tab/feed is the same idea.

[thebumbledbee]

If you’ve played Stardew Valley, you get it

[thebumbledbee]

It’s my birthday and it’s been a bit of a shitty day. Historically my birthdays aren’t great, so it’s nothing new, but I’d forgotten the usual state of things on my birthday, so it felt a bit shittier than usual. If I’m honest, I believed I’d bucked the trend after a few years of decent birthday celebrations. And I recognise treating it like some sort of curse is irrational, but it’s been a crappy day and that’s just where my head is at.

I’m not doing anything special - for understandable reasons, I am partied out. We have leftover wedding cake and I’ve requested fish and chips for tea. Beyond that, the plan is to open gifts with the kids and then curl up with my wife (still in the stage where I quite like saying that, sorry not sorry) and a cup of tea.

It’s also the start of pride month, and as a bit of a birthday treat I got my nails done - not pictured is my pink thumb (you can just make out the orange little finger?). The whole thing is a bit of a subtle nod to the lesbian flag, and to our wedding cake. My dad printed these ghost earrings for E and me as a gift to go with our cake, and I took them to the nail tech and said, “I have a half baked idea - these are the inspo.” I’m delighted with them - not usually a “gets their nails done” sort of person, but I want to stop biting them and I like nail art. I’m thinking Very Hungry Caterpillar themed nails next time?

[alanaisalive]

The other night husband and I were watching a documentary about the yeti where they were doing DNA analysis of samples of supposed yeti fur, and every one of them came back as bears.

Anyway, the next night we watched a thing about some pig man who is supposed to live in Vermont. People said it had claws and a pig nose but walked upright like a man. Now, I happen to know that sideshows used to shave bears and present them as pig men. So every piece of evidence they gave of this monster sounds to me like a bear with mange.

So now the running joke in our house is that everything is bears. Aliens? Bears. Loch Ness monster? Bear. Every cryptozoological mystery is just a very crafty bear.

Bears. They’re everywhere. Be wary. Anyone or anything could be a bear.

[iguanamouth]

oh shit

[throughshadow-to-the-edgeofnight]

[alanaisalive]

As the OP of this post, I’m going to threaten that if this gets to one million notes by the 10 year anniversary on 1 June 2026, one year from today, I will get a lower back tattoo of the loch ness bear monster.

[docd666]

Y'all know what to do Tumblr.

[siriosa]

keep ‘em coming. homemade blaze.

[thebumbledbee]

Had a garden party at E’s parents’ yesterday with family members who didn’t attend the elopement. I really picked a good family to marry into - they’re all lovely, chaotic, and I genuinely feel like we all (as in me and my two kids) fit in perfectly. The kids have a gaggle of cousins and they all get along really well, and… yeah. It’s just fun.

I’m sad that neither of my brothers could make it, but it makes perfect sense that with two family weddings overseas (for them) in one year they’d skip the one that was an elopement and a garden party. Truly no hard feelings, just a tinge of sadness that we’re not able to be in the same place without major expense and time.

My bonus kid explicitly brought up a specific ex of my wife’s, which is a specific sore spot for me (it’s a long story and I’m not sharing it with the internet). Used the words “When they were a thing.” Oh to be an oblivious teenager. I just refilled my wine and got over it. But good lord, the kid is good at the old foot in mouth.

Anyway. It was a gorgeous time, and I’m so grateful for everyone who came, and I’m so tired.

[thebumbledbee]

Got married on Saturday! That’s my wife! ❤️

[thebumbledbee]

Deadlifted 37.5kg (82.6lb) today! Just to see if I could. And I could, without too much difficulty. I’d previously been really slowly ramping up and was doing 15kg in a sort of halfway house between an RDL and a deadlift (just using the bar). I decided that if I can do a single 37.5kg without it feeling super challenging, I could definitely do a full set of 25kg (55lbs).

So I racked up the bar for the first time and bashed it out!

I don’t know if I’ve mentioned it much on here, but I am fucking loving strength training. I’m still losing fat so I know I don’t necessarily look visibly toned at this stage, but I can feel my muscle tone. Like, if I touch my own arms/shoulders.

And it’s so gratifying seeing such a huge difference from when I started to now. Both in the gym and in terms of what I can carry/what I can do out of it. I made a post the other day showing weight loss progress - I’m still proud of that, and I’m still losing fat, but my focus these days is being strong and physically able, not being stick thin.

Anyway, I love it and I wish there had been a way for me to magically know, years ago, that I’d love it.

[thebumbledbee]

I’m getting married on Saturday. There’s still time to whip up this wedding dress, right?

[thebumbledbee]

My youngest kid has started to call E, “Beb.” Beb is only very, very loosely related to her name, so I don’t feel at all uncomfortable sharing this with the internet at large. Like, there are several permutations of her name you have to go through to get to “Beb.”

Part of me thinks this is just a phase she’s going through, but another, much bigger part of me hopes this just becomes E’s ‘parent name.’ Obviously she’s a step-mum, and it’s totally fine for the kids to call her by her name forever, but both of us are quietly delighted by this spontaneous renaming. We asked the smallest about it and she said, “I don’t like using her name!” So who knows? Maybe Beb will stick.

[thebumbledbee]

Just spent more on makeup than ever before in my life. Hashtag wedding, amirite?

[thebumbledbee]

I have had a lot of comments in the past few days about how much weight I’ve lost. And I know I have, when you look at the big picture, lost absolutely loads. But lately I’ve been worried it isn’t working, that I’ve stalled, etc.

And then today at work I finally fucking saw it. What I’m doing is still working. Even compared to a couple of months ago. And I’m not done. I’m still going and will be until I hit my goal. But like

Hot damn!

[thebumbledbee]

Anyway I have adhd

[thebumbledbee]

👋

[thebumbledbee]

I genuinely and truly believe people should do what they want/what makes them happy, and this doesn’t have any consequences on my life whatsoever, so you know, who cares what I think

But

The trend of extravagant wedding entrances set to “Where is my husband?” Makes me feel really uncomfortable, mostly because the second time she asks where her husband is she says, “getting down with another”

And in the context of the song she’s talking about her future husband and is like “hurry up and find me, I’m waiting on you” and it makes sense. But in the context of your wedding entrance it just sounds like he’s banging a bridesmaid. You know?

[thebumbledbee]

The fact that scrolling on this app means I inadvertently open a ladbrokes betting advert multiple times in the space of five minutes is just making me want to quit tumblr, not purchase it ad free. 🙃

[thebumbledbee]

For those keeping up, my parents answered, “rarely or never” to all but one question of their ADHD form. And I dutifully put everything they said down, but couldn’t help but quip, “Gosh, sure got yelled at a lot for such a perfect kid.”

[thebumbledbee]

I got sent my portal and pre-assessment forms for my ADHD assessment this morning. This is exactly what I wanted, but now it’s here I’m feeling deep imposter syndrome and anxiety at the idea that maybe I’m just kind of lazy and shit and I’ve been pipe dreaming that I could get a diagnosis and feel better about myself. I also have to ask my parents to fill in a childhood informant form, which is stressing me the fuck out. They don’t know that I’m being assessed, and they are highly unlikely to be helpful in any way. But I’ve known of many people whose parents were unhelpful and they got a diagnosis. I also read E’s adult informant form and hahaha I sure I hope I have ADHD otherwise wow I’m a nightmare.*