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Have you ever seen your dad excited about a female novelist? Have you ever had a boyfriend obsessed with a female musician? Have you ever had a brother/uncle/cousin/guy friend who had the same kind of energy for female Youtubers, Podcasters, or other creator as they do for any number of male creators?
If you took attraction out of the picture, is there a single man in your life who would be moved by the words and thoughts and art of women?
it’s honestly so funny that have men spent literally thousands of years making formal education exclusively tailored to men and boys, but female students on average still get better grades and standardized test scores than male students at all levels of education
And then instead of seeing this as obvious proof that women and girls are smarter, men insist this means males are somehow structurally disadvantaged. No, males are given every advantage, and they’re still shit. Meanwhile women and girls have to deal with so many obstacles, challenges, distractions, and outright discrimination, and yet we excel.
^^ Had to reblog for this comment.
Women are the superior sex.
“Mental evolution takes longer for males because insecurity runs wild in their blood” Just a little token of Taurasi wisdom. Men develop slowly because they have to spend so much energy on their weak egos. Like rams head butting each other at full speed over and over again. That’s life as a man.
one part of the male gender role I can’t stand is thinking that being irritating and pissing women off is funny???? every man I’ve met thinks that’s hilarious and gets mad when I’m not into it. like why did no one teach them to shut the fuck up
Boys do this to other boys once they have established the pecking order. They don’t do it to the boys at the top because they know they’ll get a thump. They then learn that no matter where a woman might be in life, she’s below them in the pecking order, so they are comfortable with pissing women off. Also it’s a childish way to get attention - the incels are right about one thing and that’s the fact many men are practically invisible. Women would love some of this invisibility, but boys and men are raised to see themselves as the protagonist in their own story and everyone else as a bit part, so it infuriates them to be invisible. Hence why they wind women up because a negative reaction is better to them than not existing, and it’s consequence-free most of the time. Women don’t thump you, women’s opinions don’t matter and any one woman who reacts is both overreacting and probably a humourless dyke or something. Finally, other men enjoy watching it and will back up the man harassing and irritating women, which means that many other women will agree in a pick-me way that yes, she just can’t take a joke etc etc.
“No matter where a woman might be in life, she’s below them in the pecking order” holy fuck you put it into words.
men do pick on weaker men, but they pick on women indiscriminately. the best woman is still lower than the worst man.
This isn’t a dead end for women though. Men are slow, remember? They only have the last laugh as long as we let them have it.
You might call this “fighting fire with fire” but I’ve seen this work in real time. If you want to shut a man down, play the game. No one said you couldn’t play. They don’t expect women to play, but when you do, it shocks them into silence for a while. They have to take time to gather themselves.
But if you’re gonna do it, do it right.
1) Your voice should carry. It shouldn’t sound like you’re talk-yelling or pushing your voice to be louder. Just find a speaking register and tone that cuts through other conversations. Everyone in the room should hear you clearly.
2) Your demeanor should be completely relaxed and confident like a fat lazy cat laying in the sunshine. Don’t show any agitation. The first person to show they are agitated or upset loses the game.
3) Don’t worry too much about making woke points. Just find the insecurity the man is hiding and exploit it. Remember you’re insulting a man, not a woman. Phrase things in a way that specifically hurts his male pride. If he seems like he neglects his family, remind him that his wife is running the family in his absence. If he’s sexually inappropriate, remind him that he’s old and impotent. This works on men regardless of age. If he can’t keep up with you mentally, throw some big words into a quip about his intelligence. If he’s constantly giving unwanted advice, remind him that he has no class or taste. If he’s wearing nice clothes, remind him that he’s out of shape and his clothes don’t fit well.
4) Be short and to the point. Make every word count. Don’t hedge anything. Don’t say “I think…” or “kind of..” or anything like that. Your word is law. You’re declaring facts.
5) After you’ve insulted him, you owe him nothing. Become busy with something else. Don’t spare him a second thought.
one part of the male gender role I can’t stand is thinking that being irritating and pissing women off is funny???? every man I’ve met thinks that’s hilarious and gets mad when I’m not into it. like why did no one teach them to shut the fuck up
Boys do this to other boys once they have established the pecking order. They don’t do it to the boys at the top because they know they’ll get a thump. They then learn that no matter where a woman might be in life, she’s below them in the pecking order, so they are comfortable with pissing women off. Also it’s a childish way to get attention - the incels are right about one thing and that’s the fact many men are practically invisible. Women would love some of this invisibility, but boys and men are raised to see themselves as the protagonist in their own story and everyone else as a bit part, so it infuriates them to be invisible. Hence why they wind women up because a negative reaction is better to them than not existing, and it’s consequence-free most of the time. Women don’t thump you, women’s opinions don’t matter and any one woman who reacts is both overreacting and probably a humourless dyke or something. Finally, other men enjoy watching it and will back up the man harassing and irritating women, which means that many other women will agree in a pick-me way that yes, she just can’t take a joke etc etc.
“No matter where a woman might be in life, she’s below them in the pecking order” holy fuck you put it into words.
men do pick on weaker men, but they pick on women indiscriminately. the best woman is still lower than the worst man.
This isn’t a dead end for women though. Men are slow, remember? They only have the last laugh as long as we let them have it.
You might call this “fighting fire with fire” but I’ve seen this work in real time. If you want to shut a man down, play the game. No one said you couldn’t play. They don’t expect women to play, but when you do, it shocks them into silence for a while. They have to take time to gather themselves.
But if you’re gonna do it, do it right.
1) Your voice should carry. It shouldn’t sound like you’re talk-yelling or pushing your voice to be louder. Just find a speaking register and tone that cuts through other conversations. Everyone in the room should hear you clearly.
2) Your demeanor should be completely relaxed and confident like a fat lazy cat laying in the sunshine. Don’t show any agitation. The first person to show they are agitated or upset loses the game.
3) Don’t worry too much about making woke points. Just find the insecurity the man is hiding and exploit it. Remember you’re insulting a man, not a woman. Phrase things in a way that specifically hurts his male pride. If he seems like he neglects his family, remind him that his wife is running the family in his absence. If he’s sexually inappropriate, remind him that he’s old and impotent. This works on men regardless of age. If he can’t keep up with you mentally, throw some big words into a quip about his intelligence. If he’s constantly giving unwanted advice, remind him that he has no class or taste. If he’s wearing nice clothes, remind him that he’s out of shape and his clothes don’t fit well.
4) Be short and to the point. Make every word count. Don’t hedge anything. Don’t say “I think…” or “kind of..” or anything like that. Your word is law. You’re declaring facts.
5) After you’ve insulted him, you owe him nothing. Become busy with something else. Don’t spare him a second thought.
Si son mexicanas o latinas: aprendan a alburear.
Así se los digo.
Siempre he dicho que en general las feministas necesitamos sentido del humor en el sentido de que tenemos que aprender a burlarnos de los hombres.
Los albures tienen ciertos guiones prescritos de los cuales pueden hacer variaciones y todas mandan el siguiente mensaje: la chingona soy yo.
Pueden argumentar que son cultura de la violacion, que igualan penetracion a sometiendo y estoy de acuerdo. Pero mientras ellos estén allá afuera haciéndolo literalmente nosotras podemos ganarles al menos en juegos de palabras.
Yo he albureado hombres desde hace diez años y nada les molesta más. Nada más en este mundo hace que me dejen en paz tan rápido. A la vez, me hace quedar bien con todos alrededor incluyendo mujeres, todos se ríen conmigo y se ríen de él. En esta ocasión gané yo.
Así que les aconsejo.
Aprendan a alburear
choice feminism/femininity rant
it’s very irritating when any critique towards the concept of femininity is labeled as “femmephobic” or “internal misogyny.” internalized misogyny is hating femaleness, not femininity. critical analysis does not inherently equal dislike. the reason so many young women are critical of femininity nowadays is not because of internalized misogyny. it’s because we are starting to realize femininity is an oppressive concept imposed by the patriarchy to subordinate women. examples:
being prohibited from playing outside so we don’t get our dresses dirty.
being taught how to do hair, makeup, and overall emphasize on ‘prettiness’ while your male counterparts are being encouraged to take control of their life and be empowered.
being taught to be polite, sweet, kind, warm, & compliant while your male cousins and brothers are encouraged to be assertive and dominant.
being forced to eat portioned food because “girls don’t eat as much” and you have to be small & petite.
being taught to sit “lady-like” & “dainty” and not sit comfortably.
being told your number one priority is marriage and/or motherhood.
being asked “when are you having kids/getting married?” while your brother is asked, “how’s work going?”
as young girls, we are socialized into these gender roles without having a thought about WHY we adhere to these stereotypes. but now that we are older and able to think critically of the actions we ritually conformed to for years, we are labeled as ‘femmephobic" and “anti-woman.” how dare you. how dare you accuse us of perpetuating the very oppression we are trying to escape from. this avoidance of critical analysis is the barrier to women liberation. “but it’s your choice!” choice does not exist inside a vacuum. no one is saying you can’t choose to do these things, but be aware of WHY. “but i like makeup!” are you uncomfortable with seeing your bare face in the morning? how often do you wear it? how much do you wear? why do you feel the need to change your looks in the first place? are you doing it because it’s expected of you or believe you will be perceived differently without it? *that* is critical analysis. i have no idea why people are so obsessed with choice-feminism. like, you’re literally telling young girls and women it’s ‘empowering’ to commodify your own body and rent it out to men? indoctrinating women into thinking it’s fine to permanently alter your body to conform to beauty standards? telling minors it’s “sex-positive” to enjoy being physically abused & degraded during sex? the obsession with “choice” is actually so toxic. no matter how harmful it is, you guys glamorize it as ‘empowering.’ it achieves nothing but binds women closer to the oppression you claim you’re combating.
I think the reason choices feminism has become so prevalent are because it’s comforting, asks nothing of its followers, and benefits men.
Liberal feminism does not require its followers to do anything. It does not encourage critical thinking. While radical feminism does encourage critical thinking. Coming to the conclusion that what you’re doing is harmful to yourself and others is painful. Believing that everything you do is empowering is comforting. Being aware of the rampant sexism in our world is painful. Believing that you’re not participating in it is comforting. Realizing that your actions and choices are influenced by our sexist society is painful and can make people feel powerless. Believing that wearing makeup is rebellious makes you feel powerful.
Choice feminism benefits men. This is not debatable. Who else benefits from women sexualizing themselves and believing that it’s actually empowering? Does hating your natural body/looks, wasting countless hours on oftentimes painful beauty rituals, wearing uncomfortable clothing, participating in degrading sex acts, etc. actually benefit women? Of course not! But men would love nothing more than for you to believe otherwise.
My youngest brother is on track to become a MRA Incel. He confidently and openly states that women aren’t fit to lead because they’re too emotional. But he also strongly believes that the sex industry “empowers” women. This is not a coincidence. What do you think is more likely; that he is a staunch misogynist with one strongly-held “feminist” belief, or that choice feminism has such clear and obvious benefits to men that even he can’t ignore it?
Abortion access for women is one of the most important issues for women’s rights. Let’s be clear, this is not about the children; it’s about controlling women. We understand in every other context that no other human has a right to your body even if that means they die. If someone wants your kidney to live they can’t even take it from your dead body without permission. These same “but the children” people don’t care when poor women need help to care for their kids. Have that fucking baby, but don’t ask us for help!
Abortion is also a disability issue. Pregnancy can cause a multitude of health issues from diabetes to post partum depression. This is why the idea of “the mother can just give it up” is complete and utter bullshit. Nevermind the utter agony of giving up a child, they could lose their life giving birth! They only care about the fetus because it can help them control women.
Women’s liberation is contingent on abortion rights. You cannot support women and be pro life too. We are on the precipice of losing this vital protection, and honestly I’m scared. I’m scared for the women who will lose their hopes, dreams, health, and freedom in the name of children they really don’t give a fucking shit about.
This is why feminists need to have a hard line on this. The only wrong abortion is when the state, a corporation, or some person forces or coerces a woman or older girl into having an abortion when she doesn’t want one. The only “necessary evil” abortion is extreme cases where, say, an abortion is performed on a pregnant ten year old in order to spare her life or to spare her physical injury even though she may not want an abortion.
All other abortions are good. Not the lesser of two evils, not a necessary evil, not even neutral. Good. No matter the reason. If she wants it she should get it. Abortion on demand without apology at any stage for any reason.
Liberal Christians can call it a necessary evil. Humanists can say they’ll fight for the right to abortion even if they think the reasons are wrong. Fence-sitting people can say they don’t think all abortions should be legal, but that it’s too hard to regulate so they just support legal abortion generally. Well-meaning people can talk about all the painful reasons women might choose abortion even at a late stage, hoping for empathy. And that’s fine, we need such people for numbers when it comes to voting and protests. But feminists need to be the one hard line saying, no, as long as the abortion is her choice, this is necessary and good and there are no exceptions.
People talk about how creepy it is that ancient Greek/Roman statues were painted, including the eyes,
but like… they’ve got nothing on ancient Mesopotamian/Sumerian statues….
^this mesopotamian statues looks like a muppet that has Seen Some Shit
^this Sumerian votive statues from the Temple of Eshnunna, 2900-2600 BCE, tried to do the cute Puss in Boots expression and, as his mother always warned him, his face stuck that way.
^”theyyyyyy’rrre heeeerrrreeee….”
^they’re coming to eat your soul
^his soul has already been eaten. who knew ancient mesopotamia had zombies?
^those eyeballs practically glow in the dark wtf
Oh my God, guys
I thought nothing could make that last statue any creepier
But I was WRONG.
Here’s how they FOUND it:
PEERING UP AT THEM OUT OF THE DARKNESS OF SOME POTTERY VESSEL
WHERE SOME KID HAD NO DOUBT BURIED IT, JUMANJI-STYLE
Oh yall need to know about the plaster busts from Ain Ghazal
these are some salad fingers level of creepy
pop culture intertextuality is just so damn *fascinating*
today a parody movie (50 shades of black) comes out, based on the 50 shades of grey movie, which was based on the 50 shades book, which was based on twilight, which was somewhat based on interview with the vampire (which anne rice based on an earlier short story she wrote), which was based on Dracula and other vampire stories, which originally came from Dr. John Polidori’s The Vampyre (even though Vampires were a thing in folk tales before then, he was the one who made them all classy, etc.)
so really, like so many things, this is all Lord Byron’s fault.
It is kinda funny how two different staples of the horror genre (the vampire and the mad scientist/monster combo) both have their origins in the horrifying experience of being trapped in a cabin with Lord Byron.
Computer programming comes from the horrifying fear of your daughter ending up a poet like her father, Lord Byron
In honor of me rejecting a boy today, here is my mom turning down a marriage proposal from a Fuckboy in the early 90s on national television. Enjoy.
I’m the dude continuously playing the guitar
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(Eldest)Daughters talking about their trauma really just emphasized the point that females are, in what seems like A LOT of instances, just absolutely emotionally fucked by parents.
So now we've got daddy issues from our lack of a father figure and inherited trauma from our mother's and like, shit man, can we, as the next parental generation just like, make an effort to be better?
Better that what our parents called their best? I love my mother and what I now know was a troubled relationship, but if I have a kid I know that I cant do what she did. "Yeah, but you turned out fine" bby we are all fucking messes, please, the children are our future, and our future looks grey cause were all fuckin depressed
Mothers will be like ’why has no one tried to gaslight my eldest daughter into thinking they made up everything traumatic I said to them growing up, god do I have to EVERYTHING around here’
How are all oldest sisters so crazy strong? Like do they just steal all the strong genes in the womb or do they have to take a course? Like mma or something
how do i put “eldest daughter who was made to act like a mother and servant for her family because of deep-rooted values of misogyny and abuse in the family” on a resume
all eldest daughters know is deny they own feelings, pretend they ok, smell mother’s anger from across the room, raise their brothers, be parents’ parent, do domestic labour, and lie
eldest daughters waking up for their shift as the family therapist
sorry but i’m 90% of the time siding with the eldest daughter. any other type of child tends to lack the crippling sense of responsiblity that has shaped us eldest daughters
