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@thegreenestwood
Introduction Post: Hi, I'm Steph! I'm a nonbinary and neurodivergent freelance editor and writer. I edit for indie authors in the LGBTQ+ fiction, fantasy, and sci-fi genres.
I haven't used Tumblr in years, but I hope to make a comeback! It's changed a lot so uh bear with me as I figure out how this platform works again 😅
*guy who doesn't know anything about sports and has never cared about sports in his life* hey did you know womens professional baseball is returning after 70 years and the games are going to be streamed for free on youtube and the season starts august 1st
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Our time is now. The inaugural season of the WPBL begins August 1st, 2026.
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Since I'm therapist-posting recently:
Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.
You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."
Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.
do you ever have such a monumentally bad brain day that you just take away its mic?
like...... buddy, you are producing insanely bad thoughts today and believing them, I'll take it from here, get off the stage
I don't know if this is asked in earnest or just a thought but since I'm waiting for my therapy session, here it goes
The method I worked out for myself is to pretend that there's this personal assistant (Barbara) to my brain. The thoughts and emotions are clients who either come to pitch an idea or to demand attention from the boss.
Most are important and relevant thoughts; but sometimes they come at the wrong time (if I wake up at night worrying about a task I just imagine Barbara in her pyjamas groggily telling the thoughts to come during office hours).
And some clients (mean thoughts, false beliefs, anxiety jabs) I just imagine as panicked or rude customers that need to be treated as such. You are not getting audience with the boss until you can state your purpose calmly and clearly. If you insist on being rude, I'll throw you out.
It helps you separate yourself from the thoughts and gives you time to evaluate if they need to be acted on. My therapist loves Barbara
Keep in mind, this sort of thing is a SKILL. That means you can get better at it if you practice! It works quite well!
(You may not have a Barbara. You may have a Kevin, like I do, who is the one saying the insanely bad thoughts, and every once in a while you have to be like "nobody asked you, Kevin" and shove him into a locker. I normally engage with those thoughts a little, to make sure they aren't covering up a real immediate need, but sometimes you just know there's nothing good in there and you can safely just shut the lid on the dumpster for the night.)
I love both of these SO MUCH
There are a ton of queer Black stories coming out this year, so some of these aren't out yet or recently came out, while others have been around for a bit now. I'm looking forward to The Feywild Job in particular, and I must finish A Master of Djinn! Some of my absolute favorites are Black Leopard, Red Wolf, and The Sorcerer of the Wildeeps.
It's end of May, yall know what that means
firm believer you can't be a ''good person''. too much niuance to life.
you can be good (adjective) but you cannot be good (identity)
if you think you are good (identity) you are more likely to cause harm as you don't consider yourself to be capable of it
I hate that when you’re stressed enough your body just starts falling apart. I think it should realize you’re already stressed and don’t need that and start functioning better actually
I was 12 when the first of my siblings was born, so I have very vivid memories of the way my mother was excluded from a lot of spaces because people find children annoying.
If you think "children should not be allowed in this space," you HAVE TO reckon with the fact that you are now excluding parents (and very often women specifically) who don't have access to childcare. You are isolating people who are poor, or rural, or single parents, or any number of other factors that might prevent someone from having on-demand childcare. You are cutting them off from being able to exist in public. You are denying parents and children the ability to fully participate in society.
My mom spent several years only leaving the house to buy groceries or take me to school, and even then, people would still come up to her to complain TO HER FACE about how she shouldn't bring a crying toddler to Walmart. Entitled strangers would literally try and demand that my mom leave and come back without the kids.
"Why can't your husband watch them?" Because he was at work, usually working extreme amounts of overtime so we didn't get evicted, because landlords don't like it when you stop paying rent.
"Why can't you send them to daycare?" Because that costs money.
"Why can't your teenager stay home with them and babysit?" Because I also deserved to be able to leave the house for something other than school, and taking me to the grocery store was how my mom taught me to manage a household budget, shop sales, and meal plan.
"Don't bring your kid in public if you can't CONTROL them and make them stop crying!" Kids cry when they're upset, and being dragged around a store is upsetting! Don't be an asshole! Children are human beings who are still learning how the world works, and they don't have a lot of agency. You'd cry, too.
"Spank them until they learn to stop crying!" That's just straight-up child abuse, Jesus Christ.
What the fuck was our family supposed to do? Never go to the grocery store? Starve because strangers couldn't handle a toddler existing in public?
I am incredibly fucking disturbed at the way this post has brought people out of the woodwork who really want to tell me all about how hitting kids isn't actually abuse, how they think babies are the spawn of Satan, and how being confined to the home is an acceptable punishment for women who dare to have children. People have told me all about how they think children should be banned from airplanes, that I'm being inconsiderate to childfree people, that allowing crying babies in public is ableist against people with sensory issues (I have those, too, and so do many children, which is often WHY THEY ARE CRYING, jackass), and that people who have children are "irresponsible" and "selfish."
I have blocked multiple people who went on tirades about how I'm a "horrible breeder" who is "contributing to overpopulation" and how I and my "spawn" deserve to be trapped at home. (I am infertile and my foster kid is an adult now, so I don't know what breeding and spawn they think they're talking about.)
One person asked if I was posting ragebait for fun because "this isn't a real issue." Several have asked if this "really happens" and told me that my "experience isn't universal." (There are multiple parents in the comments who have agreed with me and talked about how hard it is to navigate the world with their kids.)
Children are an oppressed class who are treated like absolute vermin. Parents are given absolutely no support in caring for them. Good parents are set at a disadvantage even when they have all the best intentions, struggling parents aren't given resources to improve their situation or get community assistance, and blatantly abusive parents don't get caught because hitting and screaming and controlling are considered perfectly normal ways to treat a child. Communities would rather shut kids away where they can be ignored and forgotten and mistreated, all for the sin of "being annoying in public."
Youth liberation is vital, regardless of whether you, personally, like kids. You cannot ban children from public. You cannot shut children away in isolation and expect them to grow into happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults who can function in our society. You do not get to demand children be removed from every corner of public life all for your personal comfort.
Children are people.
everyone on the block hates me because I have to take my pet loose sheet of aluminum siding on a walk every day at 3am
ever since i was a little girl i knew i wanted to put no effort into my appearance
everything will probably be fine but i have to get really anxious just in case
"and the universe said i love you."
Woman murders man in broad daylight
beautiful like to reblog ratio on this
That's because people are reblogging it every time they see it. Like I'm doing right now lmao
you remind me of the unpleasant rice weevil the way youre always sucking up motes of dust with your horrible proboscis and whatnot
#genuinely: this is what further research into the famous 'marshmallow test' showed#it wasn't that kids who were able to delay gratification were more likely to be successful later on#due to intrinsic qualities#it was that kids who had a stable upbringing were more likely to be successful#and ALSO: those kids had trust that their caregivers would keep promises#which is WHY they were willing to give up one marshmallow now for the promise of two marshmallows later#kids who did NOT have trustworthy caregivers#or who were in a fundamentally unstable situation#DID NOT have that trust so they wanted their one marshmallow NOW#same deal here i think#it's not that Gen Z is bratty#it's that they have no trust in the system and no faith that promises will be fulfilled#and frankly i do not blame them -@cicerfics
