Learn to be decent human beings already

Sideblog to comment on things I don't want on my main.

[thegxldenrule]

Some people: “Oh, no! It’ll be the end of the world if Pornhub buys tumblr, because their TOS says they own all your stuff!”

(Even though that’s a massive misrepresentation and it’s literally the same TOS as twitter and other sites like it.)

Other people: “Oh, we should get the Cards Against Humanity people to buy Tumblr! They can use our injokes and shitposts as cards! It’ll be fun!”

(Even though that’s...taking your stuff to use for their own gain. Which is what people were worried about with Pornhub even though it’s not true.)

Me: At least Pornhub knows how to run a website and isn’t yammering on about Trump or whatever the sociopolitical topic of the day is for internet points.

[thegxldenrule]

My mother, just now, watching the news or MSNBC or whatever the fuck as they talk about yet another person being accused of sexual assault:

“There’s not going to be a trial, or witnesses, or a conviction! These women have nothing to gain by coming forward!”

Yes, they do. They get to ruin someone. It’s easy, in the climate lately. That Weinstein guy is basically less than dirt right now. There have been plenty of other people who’ve had their careers ruined on accusations alone. I hate to say it, but if you hated someone, for whatever reason, and you could find enough people to accuse them of rape, you could crush them. The court of public opinion doesn’t care whether the accusations can be proved or not, which is a terrible thing, really.

And one I heard about today, I can’t remember his name, but he’s running for some sort of office. And apparently four women have come forward, claiming that he sexually harassed them forty years ago. Claiming he’s a pedophile, because one of them was fourteen at the time (which isn’t the right term but w/e). I don’t believe it. You keep quiet for forty fucking years, only to bring it up now? Whether it’s true or not, they don’t care about justice. They care about using it as a weapon to ruin his chances at an election. Because that’s what we’ve come to. Using accusations to demonize people.

I refuse to believe anything without proof anymore. People have used up all of my belief. You want justice? You should have come forward when it happened so there was actual evidence.

[rcah]

“Donald Trump is in the news again today because-”

[siryouarebeingmocked]

My parents watch MSNBC. All the time.

[thegxldenrule]

So do mine. They watch in the kitchen. While I’m trying to eat dinner. Even though there’s two other TVs in two other different rooms that I’m not in.

Why do people purposefully watch something that they know is going to make them angry?

[thegxldenrule]

Watching Time After Time on ABC and while I like Jane, the main female character, I also kind of want to smack her.

People wanting you to stay behind because they’re going somewhere dangerous isn’t sexist, it’s because they care about you and don’t want you to get hurt. For god’s sake, we get it, you can take care of yourself, but calling a guy a sexist pig because he doesn’t want you to literally walk into a war zone is an incredibly dumb thing to do.

[puyopuyohero]

Why don’t they try to stop the dudes from going, too, then?

[thegxldenrule]

Because it’s his thing to deal with to start with. His time machine, his “friend” about to break the timestream, his responsibility, and he’s going to go try to fix it. And it’s just him. No other “dudes”. He was going by himself.

So he’s fully allowed to say that he doesn’t want her coming on this dangerous trip he has to take. She’s the one saying “I want to go too,” and he’s saying “no, I really want you to stay here.” If it were her problem and her time machine and her “friend” causing a potential breakdown of time, she’d be allowed to refuse people coming along on her mission too.

And of course she doesn’t want him to go and she’s worried about him, but again, his thing in the first place.

[chanw00kpark]

The Great Wall flopped…

Iron Fist is getting trashed…

The trinity will be complete when Ghost in the Shell fails hard.

[thegxldenrule]

The Great Wall and Iron Fist weren’t racist, though. The Great Wall had a huge amount of Chinese actors, two Chinese executive producers, a Chinese director.... It was filmed entirely in China. Chinese audiences loved it.

Hell, from the Wikipedia page:

Director Zhang Yimou said that Matt Damon was not playing a role that was intended for a Chinese actor, he further criticized detractors for not being "armed with the facts" and stated that:

In many ways The Great Wall is the opposite of what is being suggested. For the first time, a film deeply rooted in Chinese culture, with one of the largest Chinese casts ever assembled, is being made at tentpole scale for a world audience. I believe that is a trend that should be embraced by our industry.

I’m not so sure you should be celebrating this movie taking a loss. You’re only happy about that because you’re all misinformed.

x

Iron Fist is a white guy trained in martial arts. Stupid (and most likely a bit savior-ish) 70s backstory aside, a story about a white guy who knows martial arts is not a problem. You can’t complain about whitewashing when the character was white to start with, for pity’s sake. If they updated his backstory, I can’t see what the problem is.

Honestly, I’m kind of baffled why everyone is so upset in the first place; isn’t “Asian martial arts master” an overblown stereotype anyway? If they’d made him Asian, I’m willing to bet there’d be people crying that they’re stereotyping.

x

Ghost in the Shell is literally the only one of these three that you have any ground to stand on.

[tenderuk-blog]

#StickIt

[thatsyouthatshowdumbyousound]

I’m not sure you’ve watched Pocahontas or Mulan.

[thegxldenrule]

(Picking a reasonable person in the notes to reblog this from.)

Anyone who say things like that about the Princesses clearly hasn’t watched any of these movies, or if they have, they’ve watched them through confirmation bias goggles. Hell, I like Disney, let’s go at this one at a time.

Jasmine was determined not to get married at the beginning. She chased off at least one suitor, told off her father and Jafar for speaking of her like a trophy, and eventually fell for Aladdin on her own. She made her own choice, and didn’t marry someone just because her father told her to.

Rapunzel was trapped in a tower for most of her life and had never met another person. There was little chance she would have been able to handle setting out alone, especially considering the emotional abuse heaped on her by Mother Gothel. Flynn didn’t come to save her; she attacked him, took the opportunity to make him take her to the castle, and held her own. Her eventually falling for him is inconsequential.

Snow White is the closest of the group to matching your ridiculous generalization, but Snow White as a film was also made in a different time, with different values, and the character was only fourteen. And yet, despite being a pampered princess, she handled herself well and was able to make a happy life with the dwarves.

Mulan saved all of China. Do I even need to elaborate on Mulan? Holy shit, guys. She fought Shan Yu face-to-face and won.

Aurora wasn’t waiting for anyone to help her. She dreamed of romance, and being swept off her feet, but she’s a teenage girl who’s grown up with just fussy aunts for company. And really, is Aurora to blame for the conditions of Maleficent’s curse? When you’re put to sleep, you can’t exactly save yourself.

Cinderella wanted to go to the ball. That was all. She made a dress, she got help from her fairy godmother and her friends, and for goodness sakes she didn’t even realize she’d danced with the prince until it was all over and she was home. She actively worked towards her goal; becoming a princess was an unanticipated but not unwelcome side effect.

Pocahontas saved John Smith’s life, stood up against her father, and fostered peace between natives and settlers. What more do you people want?

Tiana worked two jobs, saved every penny she had, was the one who eventually smashed Facilier’s amulet after a long chase, and eventually obtained her restaurant through hard work and perseverance. And hey, she managed to snag a good guy along the way.

Belle brushed off Gaston presumably multiple times, willingly took her father’s place when for all she knew she could have been locked in a dungeon forever, yelled at the Beast, didn’t take any of his bullshit when he was being a grouch, left the castle to defend her father from Gaston, and went back to the castle for the final battle, having seen past the Beast’s appearance to fall for him. Belle is nothing but strong.

Ariel always wanted to see the surface. Her infatuation with Eric, combined with her father’s actions, was simply a catalyst to finally do something drastic about it. She saved Eric, twice over, and eventually they defeated Ursula together.

Merida doesn’t even need me to say anything, jfc. Her whole movie is about her not wanting to be forced into an arranged marriage. She stands up to her mother, her father, everyone, and saves her mother primarily on her own.

And hell, let’s keep going:

Anna, though a bit naive, set off on her own to help her sister. She badgered Kristoph into helping her, confronted Elsa on her own, and turned away from her own salvation to ultimately save her sister.

Elsa experienced an adolescence full of anxiety and fear, and she chose to set off on her own rather than hurt anyone that she cared about. She was helped by her sister, most of all, and became a queen adored by her people.

Moana set off on her own on a dangerous quest to save her people and the other islands, reined in a barely-helpful demigod, and ultimately faced down and overcame the monster on her own.

And that’s just the princesses that Disney counts in the official lineup. There are so many more female Disney characters that are great as well, and anyone who says that these girls aren’t good role models is narrow-minded.

[thegxldenrule]

Watching Time After Time on ABC and while I like Jane, the main female character, I also kind of want to smack her.

People wanting you to stay behind because they’re going somewhere dangerous isn’t sexist, it’s because they care about you and don’t want you to get hurt. For god’s sake, we get it, you can take care of yourself, but calling a guy a sexist pig because he doesn’t want you to literally walk into a war zone is an incredibly dumb thing to do.

[thegxldenrule]

Mom is reading some article about a man who created a website that dispensed nothing but “fake news” for a month or two, just horrible articles about Obama and his wife, bullshit about Michelle Obama actually being a trans woman, etc. And she’s laughing about how Trump supporters actually ate it all up.

And I’m just in here like, Mom, you believed that Trump is a rapist with no proof, you believed that dumb fucking thing about him and prostitutes in Russia that turned out to be a 4chan prank, and when I pointed out that it was a 4chan prank, you got mad and started getting dramatic about “Well, I guess every bad thing he’s ever done is just fake news, then!”

For fuck’s sake.

[hauntpark-archive]

listen you fucks

i would bring back superwholock, “GRAB YOUR WANDS,” dashcon, Tumblr University, “always reblog the creator”…. i would bring back all that shit in a heartbeat if it meant it would replace discourse and the tumblr userbase just constantly shitting on each other for meaningless Woke Points

[colorsofsocialjustice]

I would spend a year in that $17,000 ball pit if it meant Tumblr would shut the hell up for like 16 minutes.

- Blue

[thegxldenrule]

I’d go back to tacking “and now, the weather” on the end of everything under the sun if we could go back to a time when people could just like things without pointless arguments.

[hauntpark-archive]

i hate this post that i made so much. both of you have annoying blogs

if you need a sideblog for opinions you don’t want on your main, that’s not a good sign

[thegxldenrule]

Not a good sign? Because I want to be able to occasionally comment on things without attracting a mob to the blog where I post gemstones and pretty pictures? I never know what’s going to set off some kind of weird storm of anon hate, and I’d like to still have my gemstones at the end of the day.

I don’t even use this blog that much. And I agreed with your post. Apparently even agreeing with someone can draw their ire.

[hauntpark-archive]

listen you fucks

i would bring back superwholock, “GRAB YOUR WANDS,” dashcon, Tumblr University, “always reblog the creator”…. i would bring back all that shit in a heartbeat if it meant it would replace discourse and the tumblr userbase just constantly shitting on each other for meaningless Woke Points

[colorsofsocialjustice]

I would spend a year in that $17,000 ball pit if it meant Tumblr would shut the hell up for like 16 minutes.

- Blue

[thegxldenrule]

I’d go back to tacking “and now, the weather” on the end of everything under the sun if we could go back to a time when people could just like things without pointless arguments.

[twshitlord]

I really resent that the extremist attitudes in social justice circles and stuff are pushing me have an immediate exasperated reaction with things that are reasonable and that I actually agree with.

I really do believe that there are definitely some social justice battles to be fought or issues that should be discussed and resolved, but lately I find myself responding almost instinctively with derision.

[thegxldenrule]

I’m guilty of this, and I hate it, but it’s an instinctive reaction at this point. I find that IRL (and a lot of the time on here), it’s simply better to tune out and have no opinion at all than to risk both sides screaming at you.

[notlindsay]

what the fuck

[rosequartzdiedforyoursins-deact]

are you kidding me

[veinitas]

i hate conservative christians so much

[gremlins3]

Why is everyone who has the last name Abott actual trash

[indigonium]

i hate christians lol

[carbink]

TEXAS FRIENDS: if this happens to you you need to call two organizations. THE FBI: Tell them that a government official is acting in defiance of the constitution. THE ACLU: They will give you the attorneys and legal backing necessary to get a marriage license. This is entirely unconstitutional and unenforceable. Know your options.

[digidiskette]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

[dipperdoodlin]

Signal boosting this cause this is incredibly important

[kushi-lover]

They didn’t lose their right, it just says pastors don’t have to wed gay couples if they don’t want to. They’re still allowed to marry in Texas.

[cisnowflake]

Are you people dumb? They can still get married. They just can’t force pastors to marry them. Holy shit.

[wmfawn]

But that would lead to a wild goose chase around Texas to find the one church that would allow it. Plus this is going against a FEDERAL LAW, A NATIONAL LAW, that allows gay marriage to be legal in all 50 states. @takashi0 what do you think

[takashi0]

It’s still awful, but you gotta make sure your info’s accurate. 

[thegxldenrule]

How is it awful? There’s no need for a wild goose chase; a church and/or a pastor aren’t required to get married. People have non-religious weddings all the time, and not all officiants are pastors. You don’t get a marriage license from a church because it’s a legal thing, not a religious thing. Saying that pastors can’t be forced to officiate the ceremony doesn’t mean you can’t get married at all.

Like cisnowflake said, gay marriage is still legal, you just can’t force someone to officiate yours if they don’t want to.

[thegxldenrule]

@staff is there a reason that the radar is covered in nothing but politics and social justice today? Can you maybe either mix some other things in or, I dunno, give me an option to hide the damn thing? I listen to people whine about social issues and politics all day; I don’t need it plastered all over the side of my dash when I’m here to look at anime fanart.

[thegxldenrule]

According to my mother, Mr. Trump made a comment in an interview that was something like, he was glad that all of those Democrats weren’t coming to his inauguration because there would be more seats for people who actually wanted to be there. And she’s acting like that’s a terrible thing to say, that he’s somehow being rude for being glad that people who don’t want to be at his inauguration aren’t going to be there.

Is this how it’s going to be for the next four years? Every little thing he does is going to be terrible because it’s him doing it? We’re in for four straight years of Hitler Ate Sugar and I’m going to just keel over out of frustration, because if people keep doing this, the actually awful things that he may or may not do are just going to get drowned out by petty spitefulness.

[thegxldenrule]

Was investigating a thing on Twitter and in the process encountered some person complaining about straight characters being a majority (in things written by one particular heterosexual author).

“it kind of is just like ? why. like, it's so simple to change a characters orientation to not be straight. it's not that hard”

This person is either not a writer, or they’re under some delusion that the way that they write is the same as everyone else.

My characters are themselves. They exist as completely formed people, and I learn more about them as I go. I don’t sit down and make conscious decisions like “Okay, this one’s gonna be gay and this one’s gonna be straight,” or “His hobby is collecting seashells,” or “Her favorite food is brownies.” They just are.

I’m not arguing about representation. I’m arguing against the idea that it’s as easy as a snap of your fingers to change a trait of your character, especially if it’s a character you’ve spent time learning about and getting to know. I’ve got a character from an old work whose name is basically a placeholder. I used it for so long that nothing else looks right anymore. I pretty much am stuck with it.

So I’m glad there’s people out there that can just change their characters’ traits around on a whim, but I can’t, and the condescending “it’s not that hard” got to me. You do you, and don’t assume everyone works the same way you do.

[sylveon-official]

your problematic discourse is actually an attempt at censorship

i’ve been thinking about this for the past few days with all of the drama coming from the sensationalization of Killing Stalking.

obviously we’ve got a few sides of this new fandom developing - the seasoned horror/psych crowd, the yuri on ice “omg i can’t believe how sinful i am lol xD” crowd, and of course, no fandom these days would be complete without the overly-PC, militant, “the way you consume this media is problematic” crowd.

the latter is a crowd becoming more and more prominent on tumblr in recent years. of course, there was the great Ereri debate of the SNK fandom, which has recently bled into the YOI fandom and the issue of “how to ship Yuri Pliesetsky without promoting pedophilia” -

and finally, it has all culminated with this very crowd getting involved in a genre that it arguably has NO place in (not that it really has a place in the others, imo, but i’ll get to that later): the horror/psych genre. this genre is not new, as much as this crowd behaves like it is. i wouldn’t call myself a horror buff, but i’m someone who’s been a casual fan for years - i love horror movies, i’ve read my fair share of horror manga, and i’ve never encountered any backlash for it until now. 

the horror/psych genre is problematic BY PRINCIPLE. the entire point of the genre is for incredibly flawed characters to wind up in incredibly destructive situations that are often a result of another sick, twisted individual who is not in the least supposed to represent any kind of political correctness. i’m not going to get into the psychology of WHY we as humans enjoy watching this kind of content, but i can tell you one thing with certainty -

it’s fiction. and we, the fans, are consuming this media with the knowledge that this content is exactly that.

have you ever watched a horror movie? i’m assuming the answer is yes. and how often do you walk away from that kind of movie thinking, “wow, that really inspired me to brutally terrorize and murder a group of unsuspecting teens on a camping trip in the woods!!!”? probably never.

what’s so strange about tumblr is that as soon as you bring any sort of media into a “fandom” (which requires what - shipping? in the anime community, typically a BL nature?), that’s where people start to toss around the word “problematic”. by their standards, you can consume any type of media you want, but as soon as you bring in their precious children, their sons, their lovingly-nicknamed “trash babies” or “daddies”, etc. into it - that’s when that word “problematic” starts to be tossed around. and i have a feeling it has more to do with the possessiveness over these characters than much else.

when you step in trying to police fictional situations with these characters, you’re quite literally saying to other media consumers - hey. i don’t trust the way you consume your media. i don’t agree with it, so it makes you (a bad person, a pedophile, a rape apologist) - your choice of accusation.

but the fact is, as consumers of media, we should be trusted to consume fictional media in whatever way we want, while maintaining that at it’s core, it’s exactly that - fiction. and isn’t necessarily appropriate in the real world. when you try to place an invisible line between what is considered acceptable and unacceptable in fictional media (or your precious ships), you are literally trying to censor someone’s involvement in a piece of fiction that doesn’t actually impact real people.

you can try to claim that it “glorifies” certain bad things™, sure - but by the same logic, i can claim that GTA glorifies violence against prostitutes and drunk driving (even though there are tons of studies that dispute correlation between videogame violence and violence in the real world, go ahead, google scholar that shit).

you can try to claim that rape fantasy role play (at home or in porn) is glorifying sexual assault, but when it involves 2 consenting adults, who are you to to interfere with the people participating in or consuming that media when it’s being presented in a purely fictional context? no one is forcing you to consume this type of media if you’re personally uncomfortable with it .

we need to trust each other to consume fictional media with the understanding that it isn’t real. therefore, even if some people choose to participate in fictional scenarios with characters (canon or fanon) that may be considered problematic in the real world, we do so with the understanding that it only has a place within a fictional world. when you start to police how others participate in fiction, you’re being so radically PC that you’re just looping back around into authoritarian territory (think banning books).

we reserve the right to choose the fiction we consume and how we involve ourselves in it and we must all do so with the understanding that the vast majority of people maintain the ability to separate the real world from a fictional one. and in the same vein, you as a media consumer, get to decide for yourself what you’re comfortable with consuming, rather than pointing fingers when you see a fictional scenario that you don’t agree with.

[yeager-bombastics-deactivated20]

I’m surprised this hasn’t picked up more traction because it’s actually exactly what I’ve been trying to say for days now.

I’ve compared tumblr to 19th century style censorship. It’s like the state deciding what we can and cannot enjoy. The best example I have is how in Britain, filming of squirting, fisting and face sitting are now illegal. As is any kind of spanking that leaves a mark.

The bill was passed quietly without the consent of the British population. It was met with absolute uproar, as many felt it infringes upon their rights. Many felt it was good ol’ Cameron not understanding things so he bans them.

And it’s the same with tumblr. I don’t understand this therefore it is wrong.

Ya’ll happy to be looking at graphic pornography as minors (as someone who has viewed porn since he was nine years old let me tell you. At 27 your sexual interests become a bit warped. Desensitisation is a thing.) but heaven forbid adults enjoy themselves because it’s ‘problematic’.

There are bigger issues than media that’s disturbing, that portrays unhealthy relationships, that makes us feel uncomfortable. Its meant to do that for the record. It challenges our happy bubbles. It’s a good thing to do.

The big issue is when you label it #relationshipgoals or fail to recognise the sheer horror of what is portrayed or don’t separate reality from fiction.

Some people can’t do that. The majority can. It’s unfair to assume we are all sponges and incapable of making conscious decisions for ourselves. That we all must repeat what we’ve seen, just because a handful of people aren’t equipped with the ability to differentiate.

It’s censorship. Unfair censorship that panders to the needs of the few and neglects that of the overwhelming majority.

And censorship is a bad thing my friends. Ya’ll know there was a time in the world when showing too much leg was considered pornography? Yeah. That’s where we’re headed if you continue to push your narrow mindedness on the rest of us.

[thegxldenrule]

I literally just heard of Killing Stalking yesterday, and when I saw @yeager-bombastics posting about it and realized what it was about, I just knew that the whiny children were going to go berserk.

Everything the two people above me have said is the truth. It’s startling how entitled people can be to think that everyone needs to stop reading/watching/doing things that they enjoy because it makes some stranger on the internet uncomfortable.

I was talking a few weeks ago with a friend about how insanely different fandom is now than it was just four or five years ago, and not just on tumblr. Five years ago I went to a group photoshoot for Black Butler. Obviously there were people dressed as Ciel and Alois (young teenage characters). And no one had a problem. The photoshoot was opened with “Is that as many as we’re getting for now? Okay, cool, let’s do X character first!” We did all manner of shippy photos of every possible pairing, there were cosplayers making out for the camera, people took requests for poses, and honestly the Aloises were leading the way most of the time. And all anyone had to do if they were uncomfortable with participating in a shot was say “No thanks,” and everyone was chill. No one whined, and not a word was said about “pedophilia”, even when the Alois in the kimono outfit was literally straddling one of the Claudes.

Last year I went to that same convention and attended two photoshoots, one as participant and one as observer. Both photoshoots were begun with a lengthy lecture about “appropriate behavior” wherein the phrase “cosplay is not consent” was repeated multiple times. I’m all for people respecting other people’s boundaries, but it was just surprising how absolutely strict they were being. Having a sixteen-year-old lecture me like a teacher isn’t my idea of fun. It was especially surprising at the shoot I was in, because it was for Dramatical Murder. Everyone there had played the game (18+), we all knew what we were in for in terms of characters and stuff, and we still got an explicit 5-minute lecture about being “appropriate” when a simple “Just be mindful of each other,” would have sufficed. We weren’t even allowed to do anything particularly risque. It was jarring that the shoot for the 18+ game was more tame than the Black Butler shoot I remembered where people were humping each other. But everyone is so uptight about their “morality” now that even a bunch of adults apparently can’t goof off and be adult about it.

I got off-track somewhere in there, but this climate in fandom of shaming people for their interests and trying to censor things instead of just walking away needs to stop. It’s a new year. Just let people live. You (general “you”) are not responsible for the general public. All you are responsible for is yourself.

[gataboricua]

tumblr typing styles from 2016 that should end in 2017

commas,,,,,,for,,,,,,ellipsis,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

excessive????? question marks??????? after?????? every?????????? single?????????word????????????????????????

also!! specifically!! two!! exclamation!! points!! after!! each!! word!! as!! well!! for!! some!! reason!!

changing the shortened version of “for” from “4″ to “fr”, and “ur” to “yr” “luv” to “lov” for who knows why

r andom spaces betwee n lette rs

did,,,,,i mention,,,,,,,,,,,,commas for ellipsis,,,,,,,,,,,,

this isnt a typing style but just please stop saying smol already

[plucky-deactivated20180916]

shut up op let people have fun

[juene-deactivated20170115]

anyway im hijacking this post. tag yourself im two!! exclamation!! points!!!

[sportlesbianremaderedrygd-deact]

im,,,,, the commas, ,,,,, as ,,, ellipses,,

[plumaeria]

fr yr infrmation the s e ty ping st yl es ar e fun,,,why u gott a be mad lmfao,,,

[ofrooksandkings-deactivated2019]

all of these complaints from OP have real purposes though?:

commas for ellipses indicates hesitation or confusion

excessive question marks change a question to a frantic or increasingly agitated question, and offer some form of disbelief

two explanation points is akin to the clap emoji, it adds a punch to every word, as if you’re yelling this at someone in an argument and wanna make sure they hear every bit of it

shortening words has always been around - goodbye comes from shortening god be with ye

random spaces are halting, jumpy statements that start slow after every double space and speed up until the next double space, it creates a sense of instability or nonchalance

smol also has a purpose, it indicates small but also changes the perception of cuteness

So, also OP go away language evolves

[illogical-bullshit]

Exactly. Excessive commas mean something entirely different than just one. Two exclamation marks aren’t the same as one or three. :|

- Mod Jewel

[thegxldenrule]

I'll agree that most of them (like multiple explanation points or whatever) are a stylistic choice. If you don’t like them, fine, if you do, fine.  Although I think with regards to one point, OP’s problem is not shortening words, just that the shortenings have seemingly changed for no reason.

But random spaces in the middle of words makes things really hard to read. It has never conveyed instability to me, just that someone is lazy and doesn’t bother to proofread their shit before they post it. If you want people to read what you have to say, why are you making it so difficult? I know for a fact I’ll just skim over something if it has too many excessive, out-of-place spaces, the same way I’m going to skim over something written in a language I don’t speak.

And excessive commas serve no purpose that regular ellipses don’t. A regular ellipses.... I dunno... indicates hesitation and confusion pretty well........I think.  Sure, there’s no punctuation for increasingly frantic questions, so more question marks works. But an ellipses is literally already the thing you need. It isn’t “language evolves”, you’re just using the wrong punctuation.

(Also, just telling OP to shut up is incredibly rude. Quit being assholes because someone doesn’t like your ~quirky~ typing.)