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Reblog if you are Bad Queer Representation.
"Can the absence of words tell a story? Like a pattern in lace, the holes as important as the threads?"
Eden Robins, Remember You Will Die
Women can write m/m. Men can write f/f. Asexuals can write filthy smut. Lesbians and gay men can write m/f. It's all arbitrary anyway. Who give a shit.
"Oh but they don't have an experience of-" I don't have any experience committing or solving murders either but that's still mostly what I read and write about.
I've never banged an alien but here we are.
You've never banged an alien yet! There's always time!
saw a woman talking about how betrayed she felt by her female gyno who really hurt her during a pap smear & claimed the cervix has no nerve endings. & i really do feel for her but also I think this is the problem with people only viewing medical bigotry and abuse as a problem that is the byproduct of other forms of bigotry & not tied to how the medical establishment works inherently.
it's not just "that doctor has internalized misogyny" it's that western medicine is, as in so many parts of our culture, deeply authoritarian. the patient is meant to be a passive problem to be solved by the active doctor. there is meant to be a stark harsh line between you and the doctor, where you are pure of any medical knowledge and simply report the raw data & let the doctor interpret it. this is how the system works. it fucks over marginalized groups the most because that's how marginalization works, but even a thin white abled cis man could get fucked over by this shit if he's unlucky.
female doctors will not save us! trans doctors will not save us! doctors of color will not save us! these are all GOOD things and we DO need more representation in the medical field, it DOES help. but it will not save us. the same goes with teaching as well frankly. these issues cannot be reduced down to simply getting more people from columns B C and D into the same fucked system. nothing can make up for the societal change of heart we really need.
#I'm biased because i work primarily with residents #but i really do think changing the culture of residency is the key to changing so many problems in medicine #if you're expected to work to the point and past exhaustion you're going to expect your patients to tough it out #if you're expected to treat your attending as an unquestionable authority then you're going to expect your patients to treat you that way #diversity is not going to fix the issue that doctors have to endure legitimate trauma to get their license #and are also discouraged from getting therapy for that trauma for fear of losing that license which absolutely happens #the fact that therapy is discouraged and can risk your job rather than MANDATORY for physicians is so backwards #i know what viewing all those pathology images did to me i can't even imagine what that does to someone working in clinical care #i think the way doctors behave make more sense if you realize that every single one of them has unprocessed trauma
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worry about it kitten daddy fucked up
(with unconstrained lust and heart shaped pupils) hey. I liked your wordplay.
Coat by Sharron Hedges, 1983.
Sharron Hedges is an INCREDIBLE textile artist, one of the initial pioneers of the Art to Wear movement of the ~70s. This piece is called Morpho, and it represents approximately a year of work.
Hedges’ pieces are incomparable!
There is an episode of PBS’s great series Craft In America that features Hedges, and it’s well worth a watch!
I want whatever Janet and Tam Lin have
according to An Immense World, apparently giant squid eyes are, like, UNREASONABLY large, even for something their size living at those depths. the next largest eyes on earth, blue whale eyes, are less than half the size, and swordfish, who live at similar depths as giant squid and have the largest eyes of any fish, have eyes that could fit inside a giant squid's pupil.
eyes hit serious diminishing returns wrt resource costs vs vision quality as they get bigger, so the question became: what the FUCK do giant (and colossal) squid need to see so badly that they couldn't see with swordfish-sized eyes that's justifying that massive energy cost? that nothing else in the deep ocean needs to see so fucking badly??
turns out the one strength eyes that big really have over much smaller eyes is: seeing large glowing objects in water deeper than 500 meters from an appreciable distance.
sperm whales are the primary predator of giant squid. sperm whales don't glow. BUT! water that deep is full of bioluminescent creatures-- these creatures light up when bumped into. something a sperm whale's size is continuously bumping into those critters, it's just surrounded by a glowing field all the time when it's swimming at those depths, visible from a distance-- if you have the right eyes-- as a massive glowing shape. so basically the only reason to have eyes the size of soccer balls is if you live in the deep ocean and your life depends on having a heads up when a hungry sperm whale lurking around
and also I gotta say, the imagery... the huge lurking threat betrayed only by the ambiguous glowing shape of its movements through the water, is really evocative, if spooky deep-sea games aren't already using that to make things extremely ominous then they should really start
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My dear Merian! You must know I am thinking of his reblogging from one of them!
Is that his design in blogging here?
Design? nonsense, how can you write so! But it is very likely that he may reblog from one of them, and therefore you must follow him as soon as his blog is online.
I see no occasion for that. You and the girls may follow him, or they may follow him by themselves, which perhaps will be still better for them, for as you are as clever as any of them he might reblog most from you of the party.
My dear, you flatter me. I certainly HAVE had my share of cleverness, but I do not pretend to be anything extraordinary now. When a woman has five grown-up mutuals, she ought to give over thinking of her own reblog counts.
In such cases, a woman has not often much of a reblog count to think of.
When I was in therapist school one of my profs said, "A lot of trauma needs 10 or 20 years before it's really ready to be worked through. Maybe longer." And at the time I was like: Oh Shit. I planned to be over my trauma and all better by the time I graduated!
Anyway, that was 10 or 20 years ago and jesus fuck, she was right.
Admittedly, this would be easier if a core part of my trauma wasn't the belief "I need to completely heal all my trauma before I'm allowed to pursue the things I really want in my personal life".
And this is despite going to therapist school where they explicitly walk you through how none of that works like that, at all, even a little.
My frontal lobe learned it, but my limbic system didn't. 😅 Not then. The lesson took a long time to fully sink in.
I really don't think I'd be remotely as far along as I am if I didn't have the extreme privilege of getting to be there for other people's healing. I could have all sorts of justifications for why I couldn't heal and had to stay broken, because my brain was still wired to the electric shock system of my own trauma. But with other people, it was so simple and obvious that yes, they deserved to heal, and yes, it would be absolutely better for them.
God, me of a few years ago would be so fucking pissed at the suggestion that I was choosing to stay broken. I just was broken, and there wasn't any choice about that. And there wasn't, in the way that I also wasn't choosing not to speak fluent French. I just didn't know the language that well. I didn't have the skills or emotional distance or safety in my life to unpack my own pain.
Apparently I do, now.
Yeah I entirely meant that in wry sympathy for the way that happens, not even that much teasing.
It’s also hard not to end up thinking of “healing” in this sense as recovering from a cold, or a treatable bacterial infection, or a very simple closed fracture in a long bone (ie the kind that heals simply and without ongoing difficulties) when especially prolonged developmental or trauma based shit is a lot more like treating and living with a chronic condition or complex soft tissue injury - there’s treatments, and there’s physiotherapy and strengthening and you might get things into remission and the more of the things you can apply the BETTER you’ll be and that’s really really worth it!
But it’s a long term iterative process and you have to keep this thing in mind (like a vulnerable knee, or an allergy, or a heart condition) as you go along and it’s probably never going to be GONE; your goal is “how can I do and be the most of what I want possible, given this”, not “how long until it’s Healed and Cured”.
Which is knowledge that REALLY doesn’t mix well with a tic that says “but i’m only allowed to do any of the things I want to do after I’m Fixed”.
@anonymousalchemist
*Holding out my hand in a peace sign* You can't spell execute without cute! *In my other hand drags a long gnarled blade scraping loudly against the stone*
I keep getting in trouble for referring to my spouse as 'my woman.' That's who she is to me--wanch ngatharam, and I'm pam nungantam, her man. Apparently that bit of paleo-misogyny loses something in translation for the metro middle-class people I'm attempting to mingle with lately, so I've had to alter my language and start saying 'my spouse.' The problem lies in the cultural baggage that comes with the possessive form in English grammar, and with the language of property law. In our Aboriginal communities, when people first meet you they will often ask, 'Who own you?' This doesn't signify a property relation--it is all about what groups, pairs and lands you belong to in your relationships, which are governed collectively. Belonging and ownership means something completely different from possession in our world. It means being in relation to family and community and place. Your belongings are not your property, but your connections. This worldview is not very compatible with the political economies, legal systems and marketplaces we must interact with to survive.
Tyson Yunkaporta, Right Story, Wrong Story
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last week my doppelganger trapped me in the basement I keep it imprisoned in and took my place in my life. fortunately after the first day of this it came down and asked to have the basement back. Probably a good sign 👍