The Search for Happiness

I deserve happiness and so do you!

[thesearchforme]

some of my friends love bts so i wanted to take the time to make something that might help them with it

being weird is okay. being different is okay. not thinking or feeling or dealing with whatever your situation is the “normal” way is okay. no one goes through anything the same way. you are a unique individual and there is nothing wrong with that.

breathe. focus on counting if it helps. if im not physically in the same space as the person i ask them to tap their finger and count along. or ill send a gif. have this gif of J-Hope clapping and count along!

focus on reality. what can you feel physically?

put what’s going on into perspective. think about how the world still spins and the seasons continue.

[thinfatfit]

random self-care/health tip i once got that basically blew my mind and i think might be helpful to other people too: when trying to “eat healthy” (w/e that means for you), instead of focusing on trying to take things away, focus on adding things. so instead of being like “ok i’m not gonna eat chips anymore”, be like “every day i’m going to make sure to eat one piece of fruit”. it’s a way of approaching healthy eating from self-love instead of self-hate (like, i love myself yay i deserve one piece of healthy fruit, vs i hate myself i want chips but i can.not.eat.them.they.are.bad.). also by adding healthy things to ur day maybe u’ll be less hungry for unhealthy things, so it can have that effect too.

[teethwreath]

this is so legit, positive reinforcement - “I ate a mandarin, i did a good thing and it tastes good” - is much more effective at changing behaviour than punishment. and its much more sustainable to build habits with small, easy, self-rewarding steps!

and the thing about ~eating healthy~ as i understand it is one of the crucial things is ADDING vitamins, nutrients, variety, and so on. So whatever you chuck into the mix is helping :)

[thesearchforme]

positive reinforcement nearly always helps more than negativity!

[sexioto]

[crilbyte-deactivated20240607]

Oh shit. No. Shit. Thank you

[villianext-deactivated20190407]

Just gonna reblog this out of gratitude because I actually did forget…

[novacaineandabelle]

Fffffffff let me get right on that. 

and then reblog for the next forgetful son of a bitch

[blondiez-b-deactivated20171118]

I’m so great full for everyone that is reblogging this. I totally forgot to take mine

[optimysticals]

I think that there is some sort of unspoken fairy godparent thing where you see this, realize that you forgot your meds, and rebagel it because if you forgot someone else must have. And in our turn we all take care of each other, even if we don’t know it.

[adw520]

ah crap

[thesearchforme]

some other reminders!

• drink water

• eat

• wash up if you can

• sleep if it’s late

and smile! you’ve made it through one more day!

[aspergersissues]

[pern-dragon]

As a therapist, I do look at whether something impairs funtioning, but that’s not ALL I look at. The “it’s not a problem unless it’s a problem” includes DISTRESS. So, if forcing oneself to function is distressing, then it IS a problem.

[mad-dyspunktional]

I wish all therapists operated like this.

[microcroft]

all therapists should operate like this because if they dont they arent doing their job.  if they are only looking at one aspect of a persons psychology and making a decision based upon that without looking any further they obviously arent doing what they are being trusted and paid to do, and should have their license either revoked or reevaluated because even as an undergraduate psych major i know that what classifies a mental illness is based upon more than just functioning, as the therapist above stated if it is causing significant distress, it needs to be solved. 

I dont know if this is something you can file a complaint with the licensing board about but it might be https://www.asppb.net/page/FileComplaint

[thesearchforme]

i know i wasn’t the only one who would have needed to hear this.

[aspergersissues]

[pern-dragon]

As a therapist, I do look at whether something impairs funtioning, but that’s not ALL I look at. The “it’s not a problem unless it’s a problem” includes DISTRESS. So, if forcing oneself to function is distressing, then it IS a problem.

[mad-dyspunktional]

I wish all therapists operated like this.

[microcroft]

all therapists should operate like this because if they dont they arent doing their job.  if they are only looking at one aspect of a persons psychology and making a decision based upon that without looking any further they obviously arent doing what they are being trusted and paid to do, and should have their license either revoked or reevaluated because even as an undergraduate psych major i know that what classifies a mental illness is based upon more than just functioning, as the therapist above stated if it is causing significant distress, it needs to be solved. 

I dont know if this is something you can file a complaint with the licensing board about but it might be https://www.asppb.net/page/FileComplaint

[mioxenoblade]

[thesearchforme]

Yes, I absolutely mean you.

[autistic--rory-blog]

nonverbal does not mean non thinking

nonverbal does not mean non hearing

nonverbal does not mean non feeling

nonverbal does not mean non understanding

[butteryinnervoid]

Nonverbal for me means over thinking

Nonverbal for me means over hearing

Nonverbal for me means over feeling

Nonverbal for me means over understanding

[autismisaokay]

Autistic people who need a nap after work or school even when it was lax and socially pleasant I get it. You don’t need an excuse, being social in itself is so tiring. Go catch some z z z’s.

[thesearchforme]

take care of yourself! your feelings are valid

[jasper-rolls]

there’s a difference between “just do a little yoga it will cure your depression forever :)” and “going for a run won’t solve your problems but it will make you feel a little better and that’s the first step” but this site seems to treat them as the same thing

[marylizabetha]

Taking care of yourself is still good even if it won’t cure you. Cleaning my room won’t cure my anxiety or make me less lonely but it is a healthier environment to live in.

[thesearchforme]

and any step is still a step. progress is still progress regardless of how slow or small. picking up a single piece of laundry is still one less thing on the floor and a short walk is still better than no walk at all.

[okaymad]

if you’re ever sad look at this

or this

instead of being mad at someone watch stitch cuddle with a pillow

shhhh don’t cry look at stitch !!!

NO SADNESS !!! NO NO !! STITCH !!

stitch doesn’t want u to be sad !!

pls don’t be sad

PLS 

stitch loves you stay safe 

[colourful-dreamer]

❤️

[iraffiruse]

[castiel-in-a-sherlocked-tardis]

THIS IS AMAZING

[asexyrainbow]

I’m about five of these listed above. I’m not sure if that makes me extra weird.

[author-of-sin-deactivated202405]

This post. Forget all the posts that try to lift your self esteem or show fluffy kittens because they supposedly will make you happy. THIS POST has made me happier than any other post that was meant to make me happy ever has.

[secretarialninja]

This may be my favorite post ever and I may repost it every time I see it

[thegeekburger]

Mothers should never talk badly about their own bodies or features in front of their children. Your child might have those features or your body type; you gave that to them. And now you’re saying it’s ugly, it’s not beautiful. You might be the kind of mother who would never say her child is ugly but when you talk negatively about your own features in front of them, you are still sending the same message.

My mother has always been very self-conscious of her body and certain features and I grew up hearing her complain about them all the time. It gave me a complex about my own features that I got from her. She hates her natural hair color and says it’s a dirty dishwater color, I internalized that same hatred against my natural hair color and I haven’t had my natural color since I was 11.

My mother always talked badly about her weight and body type, she was always dieting. Now that I’ve grown into a woman with a woman’s body that is built just like hers, I find I hate the same things she hated about herself like my tummy and my arms. I feel like I weigh too much. I’m not small enough for my small frame. These are all things I watched her say about herself and I believed she must be right about what makes a body ugly and if she must be right, then my body which I got from her is unacceptable as well.

My dad’s features, however, I’ve never felt bad about. He’s always been so proud that I got his brown eyes and his crooked nose. He always told me they were cool and we were cool for having them. They’re not even considered traditionally desirable features but I love them anyway because they are my dad and he loves them and taught me to love them.

It’s really unhealthy for your children to hear you talk negatively about your own features that you’ve passed down to them. I’m trying to unlearn that negativity and love myself the way I am naturally but it’s so hard to unlearn stuff you were taught from such a young age.

Please don’t do this to your children. Don’t talk badly about yourself in front of them. It just creates nagging voices in their own heads about themselves. Talk positively about the features you gave them and how much you love seeing yourself in them. Be proud of what you pass down and teach them to be proud of it too. Talk positively about yourself in front of them. It really makes a huge difference.

[thesearchforme]

(tags vía. @that-rooster)

[naramdil]

did u know that you can be both the chubby friend AND the pretty friend bc weight has no bearing on beauty 🐝🐝🐝

[thesearchforme]

and your beauty has no bearing on your worth!

[queereyegifs]

x

[japanesebonustrack]

“i can’t do simple hygiene bc im depressed” that’s easy babe! just do simple hygiene

[hundondestiny]

Y’all always have to wallow in your misery instead of considering maybe, just maybe, the encouragement people like this give is just telling people to do one, easy thing instead of worrying about a whole routine. Can’t make yourself shower? That’s fine, just brush your teeth. Don’t have the energy to do your hair? Okay, just brush your teeth.

Making 1 small change that can start improving your mood leads to other small changes. When I couldn’t make myself shower I would make sure I changed underwear every day. And then I started using baby wipes to keep myself fresh. And then I worked my way back to trying to take showers every day. My record might not be perfect but I’m getting better.

It’s really unhealthy to keep the mindset that anyone who isn’t miserable and suffering under their mental illness or emotional problems doesn’t know what they’re talking about. Maybe they’ve just grown to learn how to love and care for themselves in spite of what they’re going through.

[christiangothdotcom]

I don’t know what any of you people think professional help looks like, but when you walk in and say “i’m too depressed to do anything” they don’t just nod and say “well you’re broken forever i guess”. they don’t say “here take this pill and it’ll fix everything”. they work with you one step at a time and explain to you that you CAN in fact do simple things even though you’re depressed. it isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible, it just happens in small steps, but it isn’t getting any easier when you react to every instance of someone trying to help by refusing to listen.

[libertarirynn-deactivated202006]

The advice he gives is seriously so solid. A lot of times it’s hard to motivate yourself to do something because it seems too daunting to commit to a full routine, so doing one simple thing can help you get motivated for the next simple thing and so on and so forth. Other posters are right, therapists, at least the ones worth anything, don’t just throw pills at you and tell you you’re never going to improve oh well, they give you simple manageable tips to improve your situation.

[ghiraheeheeheem]

Recovery is about baby steps at a gentle pace, not using it as a crutch to never ever try to make your situation better. No one said recovery is easy, but it does take at least a smidgeon of willpower/effort on your part. You have to want it enough to be willing to try. I’m not saying you have to Just Do It and fix your life overnight but if you aren’t willing to try then no one can help you. 

[thesearchforme]

any progress is still progress

any progress is still progress. one bad night doesn’t deter that. if even once you stop yourself in a bad or sad mindset to say ‘this isn’t right’ or ‘I could do something about this’ or ‘I can take care of myself, even when all else is out of my control’ then that’s progress. because It’s better than not having it at all.

and maybe you can’t do that but afterward can look back and recognize what was bad about the negative thoughts, to good about the positive ones.

or maybe just recognizing it in others or just being here is enough.

and that’s alright. because any progress is still progress.

the road to recovery is a long trek up a mountain. and maybe the few inches forward don’t seem like anything at all. but it takes every inch a mile to make up that mile and no inch is less important than any other.

you’re doing great. one step at a time. <3

[socialworker-rebecca]

If it’s too hard to think positive, think neutral.

I’m no better or worse than anyone else.

I deserve the same things in life as anyone else.

I’m a human being.

Right now, I am feeling ________(fill in the blank).

I don’t know how I’ll feel in 5 minutes, or tomorrow.

I can’t predict the future.

Life is full of painful, pleasurable, and boring moments.

The world is full of good, evil, and gray areas.

[thesearchforme]

jumping from one extreme to another is difficult and not a long term solution. but slow steps, one at a time, can build a better foundation for neutral, and eventually positive, thinking.

[socialworker-rebecca]

If it’s too hard to think positive, think neutral.

I’m no better or worse than anyone else.

I deserve the same things in life as anyone else.

I’m a human being.

Right now, I am feeling ________(fill in the blank).

I don’t know how I’ll feel in 5 minutes, or tomorrow.

I can’t predict the future.

Life is full of painful, pleasurable, and boring moments.

The world is full of good, evil, and gray areas.

[thesearchforme]

jumping from one extreme to another is difficult and not a long term solution. but slow steps, one at a time, can build a better foundation for neutral, and eventually positive, thinking.