the pan label isn't valid & completely pointless
You know what? âŚ. Tea time âď¸I donât think Iâve ever discussed my thoughts on pansexuality on this blog, but letâs do it. Itâs bisexual, yâall. Bisexuality is inclusive of all people. There is absolutely no use or need for a label like pansexual. I have a few theories as to why a person might call themselves pan instead of bi: 1) You have a fundamental misunderstanding of bisexuality (I.e. you think bisexual only refers to attraction to cis men and women) and you think âbi means two so this doesnât include nb peopleâ, which isnât true.Basically, you think pansexuality is woke!bisexuality
2) If the above is true, this might be as well- youâre transphobic, and you probably donât even realize it. You donât see trans men and women as real men and women. You see them as separate genders.
3) You want a fancy, special orientation
4) You donât want to label yourself bi because youâre internalizing negative stereotypes about bisexuality, I.e. weâre going through a phase, weâre attention seeking, promiscuous, more likely to cheat, etc. Or, âbi women will inevitably settle down with a man, and bi men are just closeted gay men.â
Number four was the case for me. It took me a couple years to get comfortable calling myself bi. Even after I stopped hiding my attraction to women, I didnât âcome outâ or call myself bi. If people knew, it was because of my actions or context clues. My friends knew, because I would openly date women, get a girlâs number, or maybe go home with her. But I wouldnât bring it up. I was convinced that no one would take me seriously if I just said âIâm bisexualâ. I tossed around labels like pan or queer in my mind. I made hetero/homoflexible jokes when asked about my orientation. But eventually I came around and I realized how silly I was being.
So the moral of the story is -Bisexuality is inclusive of trans and non binary people
- Bisexuals arenât confused, slutty, untrustworthy attention seekers
- the âbiâ in bisexual doesnât necessarily mean two
- in the words of anon, âthe pan label isnât valid & is completely pointlessâ
- youâre not pan, youâre bi