K's blog

Call me Kei or Artemis. 25 y/o. Extrovert with high knowledge of introvert culture. they/them. Queer aroace spec. EFL teacher. Book worm with highs and lows.

[the-aro-agenda]

as much as i may talk about friendship and queerplatonicism know this. i don't think there is any type of relationship that is inherently more meaningful than any other type. the solution to amatonormativity is not to put platonic relationships on a pedestal

[fancysmudges]

ode to the aromantics

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“this isn’t true because i DEFINITELY silently fume at people in the hopes they’ll figure out what they did and apologize” that’s not good. you shouldn’t do that

“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that

“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that

if the peacefulness of your relationship with someone (familial, romantic, friendly, anything) can be destroyed by effective communication/asking them for effective communication, you have got to get out of there. if you can’t get out of there, you’ve got to throw away any ideas about what that person thinks of you because they have their own shit to figure out before they can accurately read anyone else

[fulgrims-big-naturals]

The shortest most basic form of the lesson here is just: don’t be mad at yourself on someone else’s behalf. It’s a waste of your time. If they wanna be mad they can do it themselves.

[pinkgardenplaidskeleton-blog]

this man will single handedly fight an army of transphobes and i feel that

[etherealspacejelly]

happy valentines day. heres to being aromantic forever and ever

[4tticwives]

[fuckyeahasexual]

Queering the Map - No Pride In Genocide 

[ashortcuttomushrooms]

[Image Description: Two entries in Queering the Map.

1: I received messages at grindr from Israeli men wearing military uniform saying 'they will kill me' with photos of D9-Z machine guns with laughing faces just few hours after I landed at the airport. I had to delete the Palestinian flag next to my name to stop receiving these kinds of messages. This was my first time visiting the land my grandparents were kicked out of, using the privilege of having a Canadian passport.

2: During the Palestinian nakba, my grandparents were forced out of their land to Lebanon. Later on, my family immigrated to France during the Lebanese civil war. The only thing grandpa got from the house before fleeing was the key and a picture of him and grandma in front of their house. He would always talk about jaffa oranges, his house and the Mediterranean sea. I grew up wanting to know how I am, where I'm originally from so in 2017 I decided to search from my grandparents original house in old Jaffa. Long story short, with the help of Palestinians living there we found the stairs that used to lead to my grandfather's house, we found the house. We found the lighted window which was once a kitchen window. As a queer Palestinian, the only time I felt angry and broken about seeing a pride flag was when I saw it flying on grandparents house, on my stolen land.

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[noxidae]

Everyone get more aromantic now!!!!!

[noxidae]

You can become more aromantic by

Becoming single

Staying single

Becoming polyamorous

Staying polyamorous

Loving your friends

Caring about your friends

Subvert the structure of friendship

Being a lover

Being a hater

[noxidae]

Listening to the Mountain Goats

[polyamorousmood]

The aromantic/polyamorous overlap strikes again

[elierlick]

Trans women protesting outside Scottish Parliament.

I love it when trans women protest topless. If they're arrested, the state must admit they're women. If they aren't, it shows the glaring contradictions of labeling trans women as legally male. It helps their cause either way.

[arotechno]

ok time to cook. aromanticism is the coolest shit in the world and aro people are the coolest ever. if you're aro you're extremely cool

[arotechno]

what's stopping you

[obsidian-hollow-archives]

"homosexuality is unnatural! there's only two genders! it's a sin-"

I'm sorry, have you seen NATURE???

ALSO THE ARTIST IS HUMON, FIND THEM AT HUMONCOMICS.COM!! was so sure I had included that but apparently I forgot, so sorry!

and there's so many more species than this that exhibit homosexuality, varying genders, etc. SO! MANY!

it's very much a natural thing. it always has been. unfortunately, while homosexuality is found in many species, homophobia is only found in one

EDIT: added a keep reading cause this is a long post lol

EDIT: everyone in the comments needs to shut up or I will turn comments off, stop arguing, jeez

[soupguuy]

"I am the biggest faggot and such a whore" exclaimed the most virgin aroace teenager to ever be born

[jokersharlequinn]

yes, i am “100%” aroace. i’m also the most hopeless romantic aromantic and the sluttiest asexual ever.

hope this helps!! ♡

[romancerepulsed]

i keep seeing misinformation about this, so: queerplatonic relationships do not have a set definition. the name comes from the idea that it's "queering" the platonic relationship, tailoring it to the individual relationships' own desires. it isn't necessarily romance lite, but it also isn't necessarily whatever definition you want to impose on it. the point of queering the platonic relationship is to break away from strict allonormative views on friendship, romance, and sex, not to make a new categorical box to fit in.

the answer to "what is a qpr?" is "whatever you want it to be." sometimes that is romance lite. sometimes it's a deeply committed friendship. sometimes it's friends who have a sexual relationship. sometimes it's based on an entirely different mode of attraction. sometimes it's fluid and impossible to put into words. it's whatever you want it to be. it's queer.

[lydiabrbpooping]

[librarian-raichu]

Kermit going: “However-“ and immediately firing a pistol repeatedly is fantastic and my new favorite clap back for literally anything

[undead-tboy-swag]

if your weird enough with the homies you can break all boundaries of platonic/romantic love and make a third, more evil thing

[remixsandwich]

being aroace is so silly because yes i am so in love no i'm not in love