the fat kat.

a twenty something. | recovery and self-respect. | you are worthy.

[jonny-b-meowborn]

Y'know not to be on some ego trip or whatever but it's honestly surprising to me that no one had a crush on me (except for that one creepy boy in middle school but I don't count him). Like I've been actively trying to look good in the past few years, I'm experimenting with my style and makeup, I'm much more confident in my looks, but still. Not during this confident era, or before when I maybe didn't try to do anything with my looks but still had this face and body, no one had a crush on me, no one found me attractive. And of they did they never told me so it doesn't matter. Like, it makes me sad how I missed out on a teenage romance and all that. It doesn't feel good to be always seen as unattractive, undesirable. My self esteem is much better now, I know that I look good, and yet still no one is interested in me. Like, when is it my turn to be someone's crush lol

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

The hardest part about recovery is all the people who tell me I can just focus on losing the weight in a healthy way once I’m recovered. But there’s no way for me lose weight without me taking it too far. I’ll never be healthy if my weight is how I determine my worth. How do I deal with people like this?

First of all, I'm so proud of you for accepting the fact that there's no way for you to diet in a healthy way. That's difficult for so many of us. We get it drilled into our heads that only people who physically look emaciated deserve our concern. Many people in recovery do gain a lot of weight because their body has gone into starvation panic mode and is trying to hold onto any spare calories it can get - and that's okay. Your body needs to do what it needs to do to survive. It's very hard for us to accept that some of us really can't just "lose a few pounds" - that this is often just the first step down the road to relapse, or at least the return of damaging thought patterns.

Now that you've made this decision, the best course of action is to decide ahead of time how you're going to express that you're sticking to it. For people you're not as close to, a simpler answer will probably suffice. "That's not something I'm choosing to focus on in my life right now," and then "I'd appreciate if we didn't keep talking about my body, thank you" if they persist. Some of these people are not going to be very open to hearing about how damaging diet culture can be, because they're still stuck in the mentality that dieting is a health goal and that talking about it is being supportive. You can practice enforcing your boundaries by saying "You know, if that works for you, that's great, but it doesn't work for me, and if you continue the conversation in this way, I'm going to choose to leave the conversation." After all, it's difficult and painful to get really personal about how this hurts you with someone who's not open to listening, right?

However, for those closer to you, I'd suggest you try and express, during a private and calm moment, how hard it has been for you to recover from your ED mentality. Explain how hard it's been for you to accept that you're not going to be able to diet safely, and that attempting to reshape your body in any way is not an option for you. Explain how you've worked hard to get to where you are, and it really hurts when people who are supposed to love you attempt to undermine that progress because they think your weight loss should prioritize your safety. Explain that being supportive to you means being supportive of the healthy thought patterns and personal boundaries that you have established around eating and diet talk.

If you explain all this and they're still not willing to hear you, take space and take a breath. You're allowed to acknowledge to yourself that this is frustrating and it hurts. But also acknowledge to yourself that it's not on you. It's just the grip that diet culture has on our society and that is not your fault. If your loved ones are enmeshed in diet culture to this degree, you're allowed to utilize boundaries like the example I wrote out above, even with close family and friends, in order to protect your recovery. Best of luck!

[snorlax-and-co]

[cocksuredness-deactivated202410]

It is what it is but like. Can it be something else

[ashenprincx]

Everything You Know About Obesity Is Wrong

For decades, the medical community has ignored mountains of evidence to wage a cruel and futile war on fat people, poisoning public percepti

"For 60 years, doctors and researchers have known two things that could have improved, or even saved, millions of lives. The first is that diets do not work. Not just paleo or Atkins or Weight Watchers or Goop, but all diets. Since 1959, research has shown that 95 to 98 percent of attempts to lose weight fail and that two-thirds of dieters gain back more than they lost. The reasons are biological and irreversible. As early as 1969, research showed that losing just 3 percent of your body weight resulted in a 17 percent slowdown in your metabolism—a body-wide starvation response that blasts you with hunger hormones and drops your internal temperature until you rise back to your highest weight. Keeping weight off means fighting your body’s energy-regulation system and battling hunger all day, every day, for the rest of your life.

The second big lesson the medical establishment has learned and rejected over and over again is that weight and health are not perfect synonyms. Yes, nearly every population-level study finds that fat people have worse cardiovascular health than thin people. But individuals are not averages: Studies have found that anywhere from one-third to three-quarters of people classified as obese are metabolically healthy. They show no signs of elevated blood pressure, insulin resistance or high cholesterol. Meanwhile, about a quarter of non-overweight people are what epidemiologists call “the lean unhealthy.” A 2016 study that followed participants for an average of 19 years found that unfit skinny people were twice as likely to get diabetes as fit fat people."

A surprising article to find on the Huffington post. I think, especially towards the end, there's still a saturation of healthism and diet talk (just of the "clean eating" variety), but the information about weight discrimination is absolutely on point, especially within the medical field ignoring decades of research.

Not only do we know that weight loss isn't sustainable or possible, we also know that weight discrimination kills, in a myriad of ways. If you actually care about "health" then start unlearning your weight bias NOW and realize that fat people are just people who are a different shape.

And this article doesn't even touch on "the obesity paradox"(the fact that fat people survive heart attacks and injuries BETTER THAN thin people) or the fact that dieting, especially "yo-yo dieting," is a better predictor for heart disease than weight, and that many of the fat people who have cardiovascular diseases have a long history of dieting that (understandably) didn't work.

encouraged to rb but fatphobes will just be blocked.

[aspergersissues]

It helped me to realize this.

[anniespositivity]

Your body deserves love when:

You are healthy and active.

You are sick and recovering.

You are feeling emotional and lost.

You feel like you are failing at getting better.

You are relapsing.

You are falling back into bad habits.

Your body is loveable and worthy in every state, my love.

[toastyglow]

I have a thing to get to but had to get this out real quick

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

This is what "your emotions are valid" means.

It doesn't mean that any random shit you do is fine so long as you're angry or sad. It means that the anger and sadness is fine, attacking the emotion is pointless, and it's your behaviour in response to it that can help or harm.

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

Just a semi-regular reminder that you do not have to wait until it is "that bad" in order to start pursuing recovery. You don't have to let it get worse in order to count. If it's happening to you, it counts. You matter and you don't have to put yourself through more suffering and a longer, more arduous recovery process (and more lasting damage!) in order to prove that it was bad enough. If you want to get better now, you do not have to get anybody's permission to do it. Healing can start anytime, anywhere, and you do not have to endure any worse in order to deserve better.

[sunflorally]

make a point to do something for your inner child today. you used to love drawing but haven’t had the time recently? doodle something, make some art. haven’t had your favorite flavor of ice cream in a while? treat yourself. do something that would make younger you happy. do something for your soul today

[twoheadedfawnn]

i feel like all i do is watch people and notice all the beautiful things about them and try to understand them fully and no one does that for me … sometimes i feel like i’m just a mirror to reflect people back to themselves. a vessel for love and that’s it… i make everyone else into poetry and no one else sees me the way i see them it’s so depressing

[psychotic-gerard]

“rap is the worst music genre” “no actually it’s soul” “no actually it’s jazz” “no actually it’s ska” “no actually it’s r&b” hey guys do you notice a common denominator in the genres you hate or is it just me

[catchymemes]

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[stuckinapril]

being a person in your 20s is like being 40 and being 16 at the same time. i am simultaneously too old and too young for this shit

[1anonyymous1]

the older i get the more i realize how unimportant it is to tell people my business

[daily-deliciousness]

Chicken cobb salad with avocado ranch