im back in the fucking building

don't be transphobic period im tired i want something better asks and dms are not open

[genderkoolaid]

one simply must not underestimate the amount of intense transandrophobia that comes from self-identified TMEs & other trans men. & one must not underestimate the amount of people that would be considered "TMA" and trans women who get treated like shit for calling out anti-transmasculinity.

[genderkoolaid]

this is why the problem of anti-transmasculinity in trans spaces is not as simple as "non-transmascs need to stop talking over transmascs on transmasc experiences" because while yes that is true! the real problem is anti-transmasculinity as something we all internalize. our goal should be collective healing through unlearning anti-transmasculinity, so we can treat each other better and be more effective in resisting oppression, not treating different trans groups as warring factions.

(additionally there are people who don't identify as transmasculine who are still affected by anti-transmasculinity, or who otherwise contribute in valuable ways to the discussion on it; "talking over" does not mean "talking at all.")

[this-is-antiarab]

We see a lot of queer arab erasure, almost as if we don’t exist. Not only are we hated and murdered within our own countries for being different, but we are also invisible and forgotten in our own communities.

So this is an appreciation posts to all the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, questioning, intersex and A-spectrum Arabs! And lets not forget our non-binary cousins You aren’t forgotten!

Sincerely, someone who has also experienced said erasure (achillean gay) ^^

[tboy-cock]

binder companies need to post ads for fat big busted trans guys and not just skinny androgynous twinks with body fat percentages in the single digits and yes im serious

[trans-masked]

If you’re not a trans woman you need to get way more comfortable with trans women talking about issues that don’t affect you. If you’re not a trans man you need to be ok with trans men talking about their own experiences that don’t affect you. If you’re not non binary you need to stop being weird about nonbinary people talking about the poor treatment they get for being nonbinary. If you’re not intersex you need to stop inserting yourself into conversations that aren’t about you and begging to be centered. Everyone get less self centered NOW!!!!

[smorksthings]

"So you don't want to be treated like a man!" So you believe treating someone like a man is being abusive and mean towards them? So you think treating a person like a man is degrading them and trivializing their discrimination and oppression?

Maybe there should be no gendered treatment of people... You should treat someone kindly regardless of their gender identity. I know that's apparently controversial, but the identity of man (or woman even!) shouldn't make you want to spit in their face. Decency should be awarded to everyone, not just the gender you think deserves it.

[crabussy]

hi trans kiwis and friends. if you haven't seen the news, they're trying to pass a frankly insidious bill in aotearoa to define the terms 'man' and 'woman' based on biological sex. this unsurprisingly reflects a lot of similar cruel efforts happening overseas at the moment. IT HASN'T PASSED YET, but I figured I should speak up about it because this is happening as we speak.

(screenshot from the linked RNZ article)

it seems very fucking bleak!!!! please don't lose hope! it hasn't passed yet and a lot of the shoddy bills suggested by the coalition have been shot down already. it's still worth knowing about. you don't have to share this post if you don't want to. I just know that a lot of my followers are kiwi. if there are any updates as to what we can do to push back against this, I'll make a relevant addition. kia kaha, okay? love you all.

[crabussy]

UPDATE: you can now very quickly and very easily submit a comment on the bill! these will be counted and considered in parliament.

it took me less than three minutes, and that's only because I wrote a whole paragraphs on why this is a stupid idea. all you really need to put is "don't pass this bill" if you want. it'll only take 30 seconds.

if you're able to and you want to, please consider reblogging! the more reach this gets, the better. thank you all so much [:

[ratbastarddotfuck]

I'm not multigender because I think it's "radical" or special. I don't call myself a fagdyke because I think it's fun to say slurs. This is my gender, and it's just as real and personal to me as yours is to you. I am so tired of seeing posts which throw around the spectre of the boygirl fagdyke as someone to be mocked and belittled and not taken seriously, this idea that we are just here to have fun and "look like gremlins," the constant implications that we are choosing this lifestyle because it is fun and easy rather than that this is just a fact of our life which causes people (like you!) not to take us seriously. It's just blatantly transphobic. I'm sorry that you need to take shots at someone else to feel good about yourself, but it is disgusting behaviour.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

be so real with me now. these people don't see me or people who share my identity as the 'right' kind of transgender so they feel they have free reign to take potshots. they think it's cringe and annoying that I exist the way I do. I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be transgressive, I'm just literally multigender and trans. I want to survive, get my hormones, and be happy & trans just like you do. Why is this gender presentation seen as such a threat that there's an entire genre of metaposting dedicated to complaining about it, including derisively using genderqueer terminology?

on top of this, acting like being multigender is some frivolous "TME" trait is wildly transmisogynistic! holy shit! I wouldn't identify this way if I hadn't met transfems doing it before me, they're a vital part of my multigender community. You'd throw them all under the bus just to get a shot in at those of us who are "TME"? I'm genuinely disgusted.

[sodomit]

Regardless of how wronged and hurt you are, regardless how much of a horrible piece of shit the other person is being, you still should not say bigoted things about them.

Bigotry is not a more advanced degree of insults that stings more, it's a reinforcement of the framework where certain marginalized traits are inferior. This is not about you and that person. This is about the society you live in.

[smorksthings]

I'm tired of seeing prolific and popular transandophobes whenever I go to ANY social media.

Pocket-deer-belly and their ilk is popular enough to be getting voiceovers on YouTube shorts and it's so annoying. I've seen him, Pladios, Byjove and plenty of others get so much attention and it's so... It's taking a toll on my mental health, I can't escape them. People can't understand/see how damaging these people are and it feels like I'm going insane.

This is just a symptom of how ignored and overlooked trans men are.

[thing-in-bed]

the point of talking about the way that trans women are spotlighted in trans spaces is NOT to claim that they are privileged, because they're not. it's to talk about how trans men and nonbinary people are ignored in a lot of spaces and we should be fixing that. EVERYONE deserves to be talked about and have information about their experience.

[perverted-asexual]

With all this, for lack of a better word, discourse surrounding the trans community lately, I want to make one thing abundantly clear. I never want my defence of trans men to be turned into an attack of trans women. If you see me posting about transandrophobia and/or some people within the community and think its a safe space to hate on trans women or transfems in general you can fuck right off. I spent enough time as a child frustrated with "boys vs girls" nonsense and I do not want any part in the "woke" remake.

[creekfiend]

ppl use crab bucket metaphor to describe the lateral social violence of oppressed people, but tbh I think it's more like how sometimes when chickens are kept in such abysmal horrific close quarters conditions with no ability to make decisions or control any aspect of their lives, they just start violently attacking each other, to the point where some factory farms where this is a problem simply cut or trim parts of their beaks off so they can't do as much damage. because this is more cost effective than providing them with more space, species specific enrichment, appropriate lighting, etc, and the system we live under prioritizes cost effectiveness over the well-being of alive creatures.

it would be a mistake to think that this represents the natural behavior of chickens.

it would be a mistake to think that the social displacement harms we do to each other as marginalized people under a great deal of stress, under capitalism, represents the natural behavior of people.

human beings, however, possess the ability to learn to identify when we are engaging in this type of lateral social violence, and the ability to prioritize developing alternate coping mechanisms that cause less harm to the other people in our communities, and leave us with more energy to address the actual causes of our suffering.

[dogletantte]

Today, the UK government accepted guidance which excludes trans people from single sex spaces.

This is a change to the interpretation and implementation of the equalities act which legally prevents any trans person from using the correct changing rooms, toilets, or even attending gym classes.

It’s more than a bathroom ban. It’s something that will prevent us living our lives.

And, as it stands, the guidance is markedly worse for trans men than it is for trans women.

Taken from page 268 of the pdf linked above:

This guidance sets out, in a legally binding code, that trans men can be barred from both men’s and women’s facilities.

While it does go on to say that preventing us from accessing any services might be grounds for a discrimination claim, that’s in direct contradiction to the paragraphs shown above, and right now is purely hypothetical until tested in a court of law.

As the news of the government’s decision to enforce this guidance spreads, a lot is going to be said about the impact on trans women. That’s good, a lot needs to be said.

I doubt, though, that as much will be said about the impact on trans men. I doubt it because when this guidance was first released as a draft I saw dozens of not hundreds of comments talking about how the only impact was to trans women, joking that trans men should use the women’s toilets to make transphobes uncomfortable.

Please don’t fall into that pattern this time, not now this is really happening.

Protect trans women, please, but I am begging you, protect trans men, too.

This guidance systematically erases us from public life. It is deliberate. We are not collateral damage, we are the target.

Think of us in your anger.

[schizoproud]

Hi there. I’m Ansel’s sister. As you can see, we’ve been left a note. The only reason I’ve been able to find his account is due to a good samaritan calling the tip line and reporting it. Since I already have an active Tumblr, I told the police that I’ll sluice through everything (I’m under NO obligation to disclose anyone’s information or any private details to them. We’re simply in pursuit of leads on Ansel) instead of them coming in here and handling it.

The family was left a similar one on a hard drive last week. We’ve been searching - multiple heat seeking drones, cadaver dogs, search and rescue teams, state and local police, literally every resource available; and we have not found Ansel. There are statewide press releases. We believe he may still be alive.

Obviously this is traumatic, and I ask not to pry on any potential relationship you had with Ansel. If there is any information you have on close friends he may have gone to stay with, any locations he idealized "leaving" at, any steps he had taken in planning this, etc. please message me. anything at all it would be of immense help.

I hope you’re holding your own in the face of this kind of news. If it’s any consolation, we are almost certain he’s still alive, somewhere with someone.

this is @transfaguette 's sister, who as we know, killed himself or has seemed to have gone missing recently.

if anyone in the trans discourse tags can help her out to find her brother before its too late, please help her out!

if not, reblog, we'll find someone who can

[agentukelele]

Stop dehumanizing nonbinary people by calling us Thems.

Stop making posts about Men, about Women, and then Theys. We deserve to be called what our gender is, even if some do go by they/them.

Stop assuming we all go by they. I'm an It with neopronouns. Some folks use He and She. Some of us hate They being used for us.

[drizzles-in-paradise]

And as someone who is "A They" (partially), my gender identity is more than just my pronoun! Stop reducing nonbinary people to our pronouns or I'm gonna start reducing binary people to He's and She's. Maybe realizing how dehumanizing it feels will make yall stop fucking doing it to us.

[apple-temp]

how hard is it to say "nonbinary people"? to say "enbies"?

the answer: Not even a little difficult

[genderkoolaid]

there's also "enben" (singular "enban") which is meant to mirror "man" and "woman" as well.

[json-derulo]

I'm not gonna articulate this well, but there's this phenomenon I keep seeing on the left that I'll call "bean soup rhetoric," wherein someone fails to understand that they are not the target audience for a particular message, or just can't conceptualize why a speaker would craft their message differently to resonate with a target audience that doesn't already completely agree with them.

"The 'God Made Trans People' billboard is stupid! God didn't make me! I'm an atheist!" Okay. The billboard sits along a major highway in Kansas. We can deduce that the target audience is not you—it's the centrist evangelical Christians driving along that road who could probably be persuaded to become allies as long as we choose our words carefully and don't make them feel attacked for not already knowing everything about trans rights issues. Another one I see a lot is, "We shouldn't be talking about how right-wing legislation catches [privileged in-group] in the crossfire when [marginalized out-group] suffers far more!" I know. I agree with you. Which is why you and I are not the intended audience of this argument!

The entire point of rhetoric is to win over someone who doesn't already fully agree with you. In this case, let's say that someone is Jennifer, the moderate center-right mom in your neighborhood who doesn't really know or care about transgender issues but would be absolutely horrified by the idea of her teenage daughter having to submit to an invasive inspection of her body just to be allowed to play soccer. Tell her, "Banning trans students from sports will inevitably subject all student athletes to invasive gender-policing," or "Legal restrictions on gender-affirming care will make it harder for you to access the hormone replacement therapy you take to treat menopause symptoms," and she is more likely to question her existing beliefs and listen to the rest of what you have to say than if you lead with leftist talking points that she already has a calcified opinion about or which she thinks do not personally affect her.

Tailoring the argument to the things she already cares about does not mean we're forgetting that she has more privilege than most—entirely the opposite, in fact. A privileged ally can be extremely valuable. Jennifer votes in every election. And so do all the other ladies at her book club, and church, and in the PTA, and those folks listen to Jennifer. There's a reason both parties were courting suburban women so hard in the last election cycle! If we can find common ground with her on this, if we can get her calling her representatives and talking to her friends and phone-banking and door-knocking and making a stink, that's how the needle starts to move. If I can convince her to take her support away from the candidates who are actively restricting my rights and throw it toward those who want to restore and expand those rights...then I'm sorry, but Jennifer is a more valuable ally to me than the people who agree that the legal boundaries of gender ought to be abolished altogether but refuse to actually do anything except complain online about how both sides are equally bad because the right is trying to force everyone to drink the cyanide kool-aid while the left keeps serving bean soup and they don't like bean soup

[transmasc-theory]

Anything that gets people to admit the humanity of the queer community is a net win, even if we are understandably pissed off we have to do it this way.

[apollosfallen]

The argument of "trans men have privilege when they pass" is also so asinine because privilege isn't just "other men treating you nicer" it's getting unbiased and unrestricted medical attention, it's lower or no statistics of corrective sexual assault or impregnation, it's not having actual laws passed against your existence, it's not having to worry about passing in the first place, it's having historical figures retain their identity and not erased in some girl power misgendering bs, it's having your identity celebrated instead of treated like a loss of something pure.

If you think male privilege is just being treated like "one of the guys" in day to day life, you need to relearn a lot of things about privilege before you try to have these conversations.