this is anti-xenogenders

A blog dedicated to documenting anti-xenic experiences.

[this-is-antixeninity]

Deeply inspired by @this-is-antitransfemininity , @this-is-anti-masculinity , @thisisexorsexism , @this-is-amato-heteronormativity , @this-is-ableism , and many, many other similar blogs. Shoutout to all of them for the great work they're doing. <3

This blog is dedicated to xenen and the problems we often face. Feel free to send in your experiences with antixeninity. All xenen are welcome here; this blog is for support and solidarity, not for discourse.

Blog is run by a xenic 2s disabled intersex system. Responses may be slow based on how much I& have going on in my& life. Mod uses it/its and xey/xem, but any neopronouns are also good. You can call us Haven.

Blog profile picture and banner are both xenogender flags.

[sirenium]

this pride month, I'd like to thank intersex people, multigender people, nonbinary people, trans men, transmasculine people, a-spec people, those with 'contradictory' labels, and xenics for existing.

with all the bs discourse we have to deal with that often demonizes, erases, and belittles us, my hope is that everyone who belongs to these groups has at least one good experience this June.

oh, and happy pride to the rest of the community, too.

[thisisexorsexism]

I don’t know if this quite counts, so if it isn’t feel free to delete it.

But I heavily identify with a few xenogenders and it makes me kinda sad that people never use those pronouns.

I go by any (except she/her) and just because he/him is an option doesn’t mean that’s the only one you can use

Use XE/XEM, USE THING/THINGSELF, USE SPACE/SPACESELF, USE KIT/KITSELF

ITS LISTED FOR A REASON!!!

this is exorsexism

[inclusive-youth-liberation]

Non-binary youth, we adore you! You matter. You are important. You deserve respect. Youth liberation isn't just for the binary boys and binary girls!

Your issues matter! Growing up in a binary-centric world is traumatic, and you don't deserve that!

We adore and respect you, young fem enbies! Young masc enbies! Young androgynous enbies!

We adore and respect you, young neutral enbies! Young null enbies! Young genderless enbies!

We adore and respect you, young xenine enbies! Young outherine enbies! Young aporine enbies!

We adore and respect you, young multigender enbies! Young multitransitional and multicis enbies! Young demigender enbies!

We adore and respect you, young unlabeled enbies!

We adore and respect you, young intersex enbies! Young dysex enbies! Young ersex enbies! [Link.]

We adore and respect you, young trans enbies! Young cis enbies [link]! Young cistrans enbies!

We adore and respect you, young enbies who use modalities other than cis or trans, or no gender modalities!

We adore and respect you, diamoric [link] enbies! Lesbian enbies! Uranian enbies! M-spec enbies! A-spec enbies!

We adore and respect you, young non-monogamous enbies! Young non-partnering enbies! Young paraphile enbies!

We adore and respect you, young alterhuman enbies! Young religious and spiritual enbies!

We adore and respect you, young culturally gendered enbies! Young black enbies! Young brown enbies! Young Latino enbies! Young Asian enbies! Young Indigenous enbies! Young Pacific Islander enbies! Young multiracial enbies!

We adore and respect you, young plural enbies! Young neurodivergent enbies! Young physically and sensorially disabled enbies!

Include young non-binary people in your youth liberation!

[PT: Include young non-binary people in your youth liberation!]

-The Quad Squad

[anotherevilenby]

At some point we need to have a serious conversation about how the way non-binary people are consistently thrown under the bus by binary trans people is an expression of binary privilege.

Cause sorry but us non-binary people have to deal with all the bullshit binary trans people have to deal with from cis society, alongside binary trans people consistently spitting on us.

Whether it's Truscum believing we literally cannot exist and are lying about our experiences.

Whether it's being mocked for xenogenders and neopronouns all the while our supposed binary allies try to seperate themselves from us or join in on the bashing.

Whether it's supposed transfeminists trying to force us into yet another binary because they refuse to accept that our experiences cannot be neatly packaged into the framework they built without our input.

Whether it's being marked as 'dangerous' on a tool that was supposed to mark who was safe for all trans people, simply for speaking up about our experiences, all the while those who want to force us into a binary remain marked as 'safe'

Our terms, devalued. Our identities, made into punchlines. Our experiences, erased. All by our own communities.

We are consistently pushed out, forced to make ourselves less non-binary to be palatable to a trans community that treats oppositional sexism like it's oxygen.

I am done letting myself be made to feel small. I am done binarizing myself as 'transfem' when I am a genderqueer butch, just to be palatable.

[this-is-antixeninity]

why dont you just block the person harassing you and calling you slurs instantly instead of just endlessly debating them and fueling the fire?

I reblogged one post about one person who tagged me. I immediately blocked afterwards. I'm not sure if you think I'm someone else, but I have gotten into zero arguments on this blog, and it will remain that way.

If you are trying to assume what my main account is, I guarantee you are wrong.

[stfloweronreddit]

@transmeds-confuse-me LIBTARD LIBTARD LIBTARD LIBTARD

[revvingantlers]

@transmeds-confuse-me we miss you

[transmeds-confuse-me]

lmao okay, mb for not liking words based off slurs

Since you hate to acknowledge the history of how the word harms people with IDD, whilst telling others to read your long posts, here's some things you can read. (Though I doubt you'd care.)

The Truth About the R-Word, From the People It Hurts Most

The R-word is not just a word—it’s a slur that harms people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Read powerful firsthand storie

Why the R-Word Is the R-Slur

Practice Inclusion: End the Use of the R-Word

Words Can Hurt What Words Should We Use? Words You Should NOT Use People First Language Don’t Overreact! Words Can Hurt Everyone knows words

[revvingantlers]

retard is not a slur but when i say it to people like you specifically i mean it like one.

[transmeds-confuse-me]

Glad to see you don't care about disability history <3

[revvingantlers]

taps the sign, last reblog

[transmeds-confuse-me]

uh huh and did you even try to read any of the articles I linked?

[revvingantlers]

i am currently attempting to mod a ps3 i do not have enough brainRAM to read your bullshit and listen to a guide at the same time

[transmeds-confuse-me]

You are the proudest ableist I have ever talked to.

I link backed articles about the effect of the slur, and all you ever give is links to your own posts. If you want people to believe you, start backing your opinions with sources beyond your own word.

[revvingantlers]

actually i'm autistic @this-is-ableism kill her. its all because of my autism im just a soft owo boy ive never done anything wong

[transmeds-confuse-me]

Hey, could you not bother Six, this is a conversation between us, and it runs a very busy blog.

I'm also autistic, crazy thought, you can be autistic and ableist at the same time, which is what you've been displaying this entire conversation.

I can try to encourage you to learn why what your saying is harmful, but you'd rather bitch and moan to people online. I'm convinced at this point you enjoy the drama, and as happy as you say you are, you act miserable, actively going to others to harass them. This really isn't healthy behavior, and I think you need time offline.

[revvingantlers]

hey uhmmmmm

you're ableist because im autistic and dont understand social cues and you assume im allistic and know not to tell people stuff @this-is-ableism @this-is-ableism @this-is-ableism even if you are autistic you can still be ableist like YOUUU. @this-is-agorableism @this-is-anti-idd

and youre descriminating again being rapey is in my blood im a male you're being antimale @this-is-anti-masculinity @this-is-transmisandry @this-is-transandrophobia @thisishomophobia @thisistransphobia oh and it's also because i'm a furry and i want to touch anyone i perceive as an animal @this-is-anthromisia because since im a furry im a zoophile. also i like kids because im a MAP because im a male @this-is-paramisia @thisisparamisia @this-is-paramisic and crazy @this-is-saneism @this-is-ocd-saneism @this-is-antikink

also i have a small penis and since you're not attracted to me or appreciative of me and my micropenis you're also intersexist and transgynephobic @thisis-intersexism @this-is-transgynephobia @this-is-transmisogyny @this-is-transmisogyny-rq @this-is-transmisia @this-is-varsexism-transphobia @this-is-deformimisia (i'm transfem afab, #CONTRADICTORYLABELPRIDE) @thisis-misogyny @this-is-misogyny @this-is-antitransfemininity oh and i'm also nonbinary @thisisexorsexism and catgender @this-is-antixeninity @this-is-multigenderphobia and lesbian @this-is-lesbiphobia

oh and im therian @this-is-alterhumisia @this-is-kinmisia and objectum @this-is-objectumphobia @this-is-anti-objectum . also im fat @this-is-fatphobia @this-is-fatmisia @this-is-lookism and i have a brain injury @this-is-anti-brain-injury and is made me a little deaf @this-is-audism . also im panreligion and transchristian @this-is-anti-religion @this-is-anti-paganism-animism @this-is-anti-paganism and have no true home @this-is-anti-homeless and im transage (5 1/2 permakid) @this-is-ageism @this-is-youngism @this-is-adultism @this-is-infantilization @isuggestyouthlib @isuggestyouthliberation

also im trisenglishspeaker @this-is-linguicism i dnt udnerstand english very well and youre discrimianting me and im translowerclass which youre above @this-is-classism and iwant to suck my own dick @this-is-automisia

oh im also plural traumaendo mixed origin @this-is-pluralphobia and also a little jewish @thisisantisemitism and im scared of bugs and rain @this-is-phobia-discrimination also im pennysanchezkin @thisisfictomisia @this-is-peer-abuse @this-is-anti-fiction-folk @this-is-anti-fandom-culture @thisis-kinphobia @this-is-amato-heteronormativity

youre so discriminatory get well soon

[thisisantisemitism]

This is somehow every single discrimination in the book - not on the part of @transmeds-confuse-me, but on the part of the user I'm reblogging this from. Coming from someone who is transmasc nonbinary, autistic, a minor, and Jewish, you do not get to call in my oppression as a fucking joke.

I'd say may a child be named after you soon, but that would be a fucking blight upon the child, so all the better. Ale tseyn zoln dir aroysfaln, nor eyner zol dir blaybn af tsonveytik.

[this-is-antixeninity]

For all of my followers, I do apologize for you all having to see this. Please block the user that Ari is reblogging from. No harassment. Just block.

Thank Apollon I have the above user (not you Ari, the one you're reblogging from) blocked on my main account. Looks like I need to block him from here as well.

Ari, if you're uncomfortable with my reblog of this, please let me know and I'll take it down.

[this-is-antixeninity]

Decided to make something.

[image description: a 7 stripe flag. The colors from top to bottom are: grey, pale mint, mint, blueish purple grey, purple, dark purple, black. end ID]

Cistrans/transcis/trisxenine; for anyone who identifies as both trans and cis xenine. Made by me, based off of pvpmogai's transxenine flag. Made with intersexuality in mind (as I'm intersex and cistrans xenine), but not exclusive to those who are intersex.

@radiomogai

[this-is-antixeninity]

The fact that I once upon a time felt the need to put after saying my pronouns "You don't have to use them if it makes you uncomfortable, you can just use any" when I didn't like any other pronoun besides the one I had put before!!! :[

This is antixeninity. We should never feel the need to compromise any part of who we are just because others may not like it (and I'm glad you no longer do, anon.)

[this-is-antixeninity]

I'm so sorry for dropping this all in your inbox but I really need to vent and bit about this bc it's frustrating and i don't know where else to go. Basically, my friendgroup is two systems (me and less call him A as a collective) and three singlets. One of A's headmates is really really rude. He's made fun of xenogenders and neopronouns multiple times, scrolling through the lgbt wiki for hours and sending genders he finds "stupid" to make fun of on our groupchat. He's indulged and made fun of as if they were genuine multiple bait posts about xenogenders. He's mocked neopronouns. It's especially annoying bc some of the members in his system also use neopronouns and are xenogender. Hell, *I* use neopronouns and are xenogender! And he knows that!

He's done way more really rude stuff i'll mention later too. Anyways, i can't call him out on his bs because the rest of my friendgroup, despite refusing to realise it, is practically orbiting around him. Laughing at all his mean "jokes", repeating all his nonsense, etc etc. They're all very accepting people, but suddenly when he's in the picture they parrot every one of his actions.

And i also can't idk. Tell him to stop and that he's rude, or drop him or something, bc i'm great and very close friends with other members of his system (and yes, there are a few other assholes there, but a lot of them are great friends) and if he, idk. Got pissed and cut contact with me, i'd lose them too.

This also goes for my other friends. They just. Orbit all around him. Whenever he says something funny, they'll be repeating it for the next month. He want's to vc with his other friends? Okay lets all drop what we were doing together and do that. And they keep insisting it's not like that, and say that the friend is a "bit rude" behind his back to me, but then turn around and continue copying all his bad behaviour.

(And it's not just being anti xenogender. He's been calling me the r-slur as a joke since we met, and now all of my friends use the slur as a joke. He always ignores me, even when i'm venting or something, and constantly speaks over me. He's insulted me so much. If i sat here and typed out all the shit he's done we'd be here all day. And all my friends like him! Because of him i started avoiding joining calls and talking in the group and now they're kinda pissed that i'm not active! Even if i wasn't in a depressive episode i still wouldn't wanna hang out with your fuckass friend!)

Sorry this is so long and off topic, but i really didn't know where else to go. I suppose you might wanna tag "this-is-ableism" too.

This is antixeninity and ableism. Don't apologize for venting; that is what this blog is here for. I'm sorry you're going through this, anon. This is an awful situation to be in. I understand not wanting to lose the good friends you do have, but it may be healthier in the long run. That group of people sounds rather toxic at best and seriously hurtful.

@this-is-ableism

[this-is-antixeninity]

These aren't huge experiences like everyone else I've seen on here but when I was really happy to explain my neos (ceiling/fan/bro , any other neo too I just prefer those) to some of my queer friends they stared at me weirdly as if I just said something utterly stupid :(

That made me kinda upset so I just don't mention those around them anymore

I have been made fun of for my ceiling/fan pronouns on Pinterest too , in reality I actually just use them because my sona used to be called that so I made pronouns to match him and it stuck to me when I got used to them

This is antixeninity.

Your experience is not "less than", you are still being demeaned and diminished for your identity. It is still important. You deserve respect, and I'm sorry those people refused it.

I quite like those pronouns, they're cool! I hope you find people who respect you soon.

[this-is-antixeninity]

Fandom shutting down the gender wiki without a clear explanation of what we did wrong. They just said we don't handle things responsibly and that they're no longer comfortable hosting us, and they gave us 2 weeks to figure out what we're doing and move the wiki. (Also we've moved to wiki oasis, but the wiki's kind of a mess rn. The infobox is broken and we don't have images, but we're working on fixing those things soon. Our new url is gender.wikioasis.org)

This is antixeninity. I wish I could've done more to help personally, and I'm sorry.

[this-is-antixeninity]

xenic solidarity is my friend knowing that i use xenos/neos but NOT she/her or they/them (i'm transmasc and it gives me insane dysphoria) and despite having a they/them default due to my plurality, they always go out of their way to ask if i'm in front to avoid misgendering me.

This is xenic solidarity!! Wonderful on your friend's part. Shoutout to them.

[this-is-antixeninity]

Seeing people mock their early 2020s phase but all they do is make fun of neopronouns and xenogenders. Like okay cool for you that you didn't end up identifying as that long-term ig but now constantly seeing the concept of triggers and xenogenders being synonymous with ""chronically online"" people is exhausting

This is antixeninity and ableism. Sorry I'm xenic and can't leave the house for anything more than work for weeks at a time because of chronic fatigue (not at you anon).

[this-is-antixeninity]

(🌌🧝‍♀️ - to find)

This is kinda a vent? Feel free to ignore.

I've been out as nonbinary for. Like. 5 years. And I've always just left it at that, but recently I found I might be faegender? Like. Yeah that fits me exactly, it gives so much euphoria. But I'm probably going to keep going as nonbinary cause i don't think a lot of people irl know about faegender and I have no idea what my online friends feel about xenogenders (they are very likely cool! They're lovely people. We've just never talked about it and I am made of anxiety), I really just wanted to come out somewhere cause it brings me so much joy.

Love your blog btw 🩵

This is a response to antixeninity. I'm proud of you anon! I hope you soon find more people to come out to.

[this-is-antixeninity]

What the gender wiki said about xenogenders

This is antixeninity.

[this-is-antixeninity]

hii idk if ur the right person to ask this but, I THINK I may be xenogender, but also I'm not...exactly sure what xenogenders are?? From the explanations I read, I think I'd technically fit??? Maybe??? But I don't fully understand the explanations I've I've so

Idk if you can break it down simple style I'd appreciate that

Also btw sorry if uve answered this I tried to see but I couldn't find it sorry

~𓆦𓆦

Essentially any gender that people don't typically associate with genders. Such as plants, animals, colors, games, etc.

Don't be afraid to experiment! The world is more wonderful for every xenan in it! :D