A thoughtful bunny

Don't worry, it only seems kinky the first time.

[hatake]

me: (has super negative thought)

me: thank you Captain Edge Lord can we please hear from someone else today

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

actually I don't particularly give a damn if people do good things for the "wrong" reasons

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

donating just to feel good about yourself? awesome every penny is still present and helpful

doing volunteer work just to post about it on social media? cool I wish more people would, those volunteer hours really add up

being nice to people to "trick" them into thinking you're a good person? buddy you just accidentally marie kondoed your own personality.

feeding the hungry, housing the unhoused, healing the injured? do you think the hungry, the poor, the sick and the exhausted give a damn about your moral dilemmas? do you think for one second that something as flimsy as your intentions makes warm food, a safe bed, and the abscence of pain any less real to those who receive them?

doing nice things for "selfish" reasons is fine actually. especially if it encourages more people to do those things. if you are making the world a slightly better place to live in, I really don't care what your motivation is; the rest of us still have to live here.

[acehardys]

i have been laughing for 10 mins

[stutterhug]

Just Like the First Time.

[wickedwonderlandd]

[owlmylove]

not 2 be controversial on main but i think it’s pretty sad the first major generation to grow up online is projecting their adolescent self-hatred onto the “cringe” generation of tiktokkers

[owlmylove]

did zillennials seriously spend their youth making OC fanart on devart and livejournal and being told “oh look, they finally emerge” by their parents whenever they risked leaving their room only to turn around 10 years later and say “ewwwh you spent hours cosplaying an OC & learning a viral dance in your bedroom? fuckin cringe”

[owlmylove]

like….. did we truly lose sight so quickly of how it was to feel young and disconnected and desperate for someone, anyone, to really listen to you? to feel close to you? how quickly have we become jaded to the joys of carefully, earnestly crafting something alone in a dark bedroom and sharing it with the world, hoping for just one other person to say “that’s how i feel, too”? how much must we hate our younger selves in order to blame the teenagers of the world for creating costumes and dances and dreams for themselves???

[noorskitchen]

One of the most challenging things I’ve had to learn is that healing must be intentional. There is no one golden day that comes and saves you from all your misery. Healing is a practice. You have to decide that it’s what you want to do and actively do it. You have to make a habit out of it. Once I learned that, I only looked back to see how far I came.

[saintemiliosandoz]

i understand the point of being like “be critical with everything you consume” but man sometimes i just wanna consume things without a single thought in my brain. arent yall tired

[this-is-psychosis]

Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself

[voce-morti]

Me: I am violently depressed.

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*

[mx-mythical-deactivated20260319]

Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.

[kcsplace]

FUCKING THIS.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE

STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS

[potrix-the-queerschlaeger]

^This!!!!!

[aestheticallypleasingurmom]

The stigma that therapy isn’t worth it if you don’t feel better after the first couple sessions is such bullshit. It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal but I kept going because I wanted to get better. I thought it was bs too when she kept telling me to think about other things and to distract myself when I have intrusive thoughts (not exact words whatsoever). Now it’s 2 and a half years later and I can successfully switch from thinking about all the ways I could kill myself to the song Slippery by Migos and immediately start laughing. You need to let it help you.

[sonisis]

My therapist telling me to get a normal sleep pattern in was because I later learned my anxiety worsened if I didn’t get a full 8 hours in. After fighting that hill she later helped me focus on other things that were bothering me from keeping clean to trying to battle irrational thoughts, then I finally took the meds she recommended. It took me 4 years to change these behaviors.

[coffee-khaleesi-deactivated2020]

When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:

“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”

Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either. 

[bogfox]

Op I’d like to thank you for sharing this. Ever since the first time I’ve read it I’ve held it in my mind and it really has helped me to be kinder to others and to myself.

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[with-my-murder-flute]

Thoughts after a shittastic 24 hours:

My experience in groups that experience a lot of oppression, like the LGBTQ+ community, is that you basically have a lot of trauma survivors all in the same space, and theoretically being together in this space will all help us somehow with our trauma. But a lot of times that trauma just ends up running up against other peoples’ with the ragged edges out 

It is really hard to tell the difference between what will help one, single individual person, what will help a different person, and what will help an entire community. Especially because if you’ve been systematically taught by the world that you, as a person, do not matter, that your individual thoughts and feelings do not matter, it can be easier to identify with a group and focus on what that group needs, because it will often result in you getting what you need.

But when what you need is different from what other people need… oh boy. That’s tough. I say “you just need to focus on making yourself feel safe and curating your own experience” but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Sometimes it’s like regrowing a burned-over forest.

And for people who are very used to there being Good vs Evil situations, it can be really hard to deal with the fact that something may be Good vs Equal But Contradictory Good.

In the disability community, this is what we call Competing Access Needs. It’s well-known to be a difficult problem with no easy solutions. Different people need different things (and sometimes an INDIVIDUAL person can need competing things). 

The one consistent rule of competing access needs is: Nobody in this situation is inherently wrong. The answer is not for one of the people in question to swallow their needs and give up being important as a person. The answer is about engineering a solution that can respect and address the competing needs equally.

It’s okay to need to be sheltered from types of trans rep that are upsetting and harmful. It’s also okay to need to be able to explore things that might upset other people. This is not mindbending and contradictory–this is “some people need a quiet room, and some people need things to be loud enough that they can hear.” If we approach the situation with the assumption that this is a solvable problem, we’ll start getting places.

[findingfeather]

If I could get “competing access needs are a THING and you can’t erase that, you can only negotiate it” through people’s heads I would be a much happier person. Theoretically. 

[memecage]

It do be like that.

[oarfjsh]

things i realized in therapy:

i am allowed to be angry with people when they hurt me, even if they are sensitive and cant cope well with being told they did something wrong. their sensitivity does not mean i have to bottle up my feelings & their lack of coping skills does not make me expressing my anger abusive.

shocking, i know. truly shocking.

[mysterymeat6649127739816]

why is everything so hard but not actually that hard just i cant do it

[swarnpert]

i dont self depreciate anymore. i am hot and sexy and my meat is huge and i dont care about anyone elses opinion on the matter except my own because i am the smartest person on earth

[1st-1]

85% tired 15% also tired

[unsends-deactivated20170829]

im permanently emotionally damaged but it’s chill, I’m chill