a little bit of quiet desperation

long-time writer and kitty minion. they/them bmc | kofi

[tirsynni]

My baby boy is sick, so he has a vet appt for this afternoon. He has a history of hairball issues, and it looks like he's struggling to cough one up. Here's hoping that's all it is. Of course his appt with the groomer is at the end of the month...

April is also the month when both Missy (2024) and Calypso (2025) passed away, so I might be panicking. Just a tad.

If anyone wants to throw a penny or two my way just in case medication or... well, other medical steps are necessary, that would be great. I meant to pay my bills today, but I'm holding off until I see what happens with the vet.

Here's the pet tax with him and KitKat. i'm really hoping this is an easy fix and there are no serious medical issues. This would be far less frightening if it was happening any other month.

Ko-fi & BMC

[tirsynni]

After a full work day of panicking, tests, x-ray, and a slightly painful vet bill...

Dresden is an over-dramatic baby who has no idea how to deal with mild discomfort and is happy to make it everyone's problem. He has some stuff that he hates and he is safely home.

[tirsynni]

My baby boy is sick, so he has a vet appt for this afternoon. He has a history of hairball issues, and it looks like he's struggling to cough one up. Here's hoping that's all it is. Of course his appt with the groomer is at the end of the month...

April is also the month when both Missy (2024) and Calypso (2025) passed away, so I might be panicking. Just a tad.

If anyone wants to throw a penny or two my way just in case medication or... well, other medical steps are necessary, that would be great. I meant to pay my bills today, but I'm holding off until I see what happens with the vet.

Here's the pet tax with him and KitKat. i'm really hoping this is an easy fix and there are no serious medical issues. This would be far less frightening if it was happening any other month.

Ko-fi & BMC

[pom-pom-cherry]

”Um… the person you reblogged that from is a proshipper…”

Oh shit really!? Looks like I’ll have to do nothing because I don’t care 😔

[blueboxfive]

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[fulmionce]

I see we're learning about the flaming hot cheeto earthquake proof sarcophagus again

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[robinthered26]

I've never heard the sound of a gorilla before, but I assume it was a good impression. the chest thing convinced me.

[sandersstudies]

A lot of you on here sure don’t like the idea of making any kind of sacrifice for the benefit of others huh

[sandersstudies]

Some of you act like doing minor inconvenient acts of kindness is equivalent to donating a kidney as if it’s not those acts that form our communities and make the world go around.

[sandersstudies]

Return your grocery cart. If you’re able-bodied offer your seat to someone who is not. Help your friend move. Drive your sister to the airport. Make sure drunk people have a safe ride or walk home. Pet-sit for your coworker. Participate in a meal train. Volunteer in your area. That’s what friendship and community is about.

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

not my tweet or my fic (and there’s a good chance of this comment being a bot) but yeah, don’t do this. sure, some writers wouldn’t mind having fanfics (or direct continuation) of their fanfics written by someone else. some may even be thrilled and happy. but the fandom etiquette is that if you want to write a fanfic or a continuation of someone’s fanfic, YOU POLITELY ASK THE WRITER FOR THEIR PERMISSION. not their readers.

also 5 months isn’t long at all. 5 months is 5 minutes when it comes to fanfics. I’ve waited years for my favorite fics to get updated (one of my favorite fanfics was updated by the author after 13 years) and I’ve never said anything to them about “it’s been ___ years, I don’t think it will get updated anymore”. because another fandom / fanfic etiquette is that fanfic writers write for free in their free time, they don’t owe you anything. maybe they will update one day. maybe they won’t. if you want your favorite fic to get updated, you comment something like “this is good!! I’m excited for what happens next” and maybe your positive comment will motivate the author to update. but you don’t say “it’s been ___ months or years”. fanfics writers write for themselves and their own enjoyment. they’re just kind enough to let you read their works for free. stop being rude and entitled to fanfic writers.

[annaoi]

[butchfriend]

Everyone Is Cheating Their Way Through College

[cognitiveinequality]

[sturionic]

For anyone unfamiliar with Paulo Freire's Pedagogy of the Oppressed, the entire thesis is that traditional educational models promote oppression by removing students' agency in their own learning. Freire argues that currently education functions as a "banking model" - teachers are the holders of knowledge, and students are empty vessels, waiting to have that knowledge put into their heads like a piggy bank. This reinforces a passive attitude towards information, not seeking and understanding it on your own terms, but waiting for a "banker" to deposit it into your head.

Instead, Freire proposes that teachers and students act as co-creators of knowledge, where students become active participants in their own learning through questions and dialogue. Teachers are also open to changing their understanding of topics in the process of critical dialogue - the goal is not "student learns Fact A and memorizes it as presented," but instead the goal is the knowledge itself, discovered collaboratively by teacher and student, who are acting with empathy and respect towards each other. This also starts the process of the oppressed being able and empowered to question structures of power, take agency, and actively participate in the transformation of society.

So, the irony of writing an AI essay on critical pedagogy is actually insane; because it's essentially the extrapolated endpoint of Freire's arguments that our current educational system creates passive receptacles who not only can't think critically in an educational context, but also become the perfect citizens for a world that doesn't want us questioning structures of power, to view those in power as we viewed our teachers - deliverers of indisputable facts that must be memorized and regurgitated because they command it, and not co-creators of true understanding.

[king-carnivore]

what really fucks me up about watching the truman show in 2025 is how it's not fictional. truman is fictional, but the truman show isn't.

there's thousands of truman shows. you find them on youtube, tiktok, instagram... family and mommy vloggers, sad beige moms and now the trend of neglectful moms showing the "reality" of parenting. all of them using their kids for entertainment. each child their own truman; living a life manufactured by their parents, a camera watching their every moment, broadcasted for the entire world to see.

[king-carnivore]

tbh, i didn't even think about that when i made my post and holy shit you're so fucking right

[elierlick]

The Department of Education worked with the far-right Family Research Council to officially designate March 12th as Detrans Awareness Day last year. But what actually leads people to detransition? It's not regret, but social stigma, incited by the very figures who claim to protect detransitioners. I want to hear their stories describing how the current moral panic influenced their decisions.

[luminouslumity]

Beautiful!

[kropotkindersurprise]

April 7, 2026 - "All you had to do was pay us enough to live, all you had to do was pay us enough to fucking live"

A worker in Ontario, California, USA, set his company’s warehouse on fire and has a message for the CEO:

“There goes your inventory. You know we may not get paid enough to fucking live, but these bitches (lighters) dirt cheap. All you had to do was pay us enough to fucking live.”[article]/[video]

[theweirdwideweb]

Dudes healthcare is so fake. My ADHD meds are $940 without insurance. But they gave me a website of "coupons" which straight up looks like a scam website, and I got it today for $60! Just a coupon from a random website and it was $900 cheaper. America, I am confusion!! America explain!!

[theweirdwideweb]

For all my uninsured judys out there it's for Walgreens only: walgreens.rxsense.com

[theweirdwideweb]

[handsmotif]

as a pharmacy technician i can share with you some websites that give you those "coupons" for your meds!

goodrx is the most well known one, but if i'm trying to find the cheapest price for a patient i compare it to scriptcycle, and use whichever is offering the best price. you just type in the medication (PLEASE make sure you're getting the right drug, dosage, and quantity) and your zip code and they will spit out some offers for you

some pharmacies may have their own discount card to compare to as well!

if you are getting a name brand medication, you can also look at the manufacturer's website to see if they offer any evouchers for you to use too

good luck out there 👍

[bitchesgetriches]

How to Pay Hospital Bills When You’re Flat Broke

[rayneydayss]

another one is singlecare.com, brought my duloxetine from $240 a month to $20

and there are coupons for hrt on there as well :) different options for different pharmacies

[hereissomething]

dollarfor.org saved my broke ass, it can save urs too

[sisterdomina]

I think a Negative Kudos button is really pointless first off (ao3 is an archive not a social media site! we don't need upvotes/downvotes to drive some nonexistent algorithm) but also it feels cowardly. like, there already is a way to share your dislike of a fic with the author. it's called commenting 'your fic is bad and I didn't like it.' but then you might look like an ass, and people might say hey that's mean, and you might have to defend your position of unkindness + consider why you feel the need to be rude to a stranger on the internet writing for fun and for free. a quick, impersonal, site-sanctioned Mean Kudos is really just a weenie move

[tmblrapprovedtiktoks]