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Hello, dear friends <3

Welcome to transandrophobia-support. This blog is (currently) run by two mods, mod 💿, and mod 🛼. **

**more info about the mods below the cut

This is a safe space for you to talk about your experiences, vent, and spread positivity about transmasculinity/transandrophobia. You can do this by either sending an ask on/off anon (up to you), or submitting a post. You can also to tag us in anything transandrophobia/transmasculinity related.

Rules

no discourse. Any hate comments/asks/submissions will be deleted. Please do not send anything that will cause discourse. Not sure? Assume it will, or ask a mod.

Don’t ask for a specific mod to answer your ask. Doing this will just make it harder for us to do so.

No NSFW. Minors will be interacting with this blog. I repeat. MINORS WILL BE INTERACTING WITH THIS BLOG. (references/discussions related to bodies in a non-sexual manner is fine! this may include talk about dysphoria, euphoria, or intersex issues.)

Stay on topic please!! Anything you send should be on the topic of transmasculinity/transandrophobia.

Don’t ask us for advice. We are in no way qualified to talk about tips for coming out, transitioning, finding gender euphoria, etc.

While this blog is focused on transmasculinity, people of other genders are completely welcome as long as they're here to learn and support transmascs.

Absolutely no (trans)misogyny, exorsexism, intersexism, or other forms of bigotry are welcome here.

#mod 🛼#mod 💿#transandrophobia #trans #transgender #transmasc #transandromisia #transmisandry #transmasculine #trans man

Faggots

what’s up!

#asks #anon #mod 💿

slutdge

if youre trans and getting misgendered/deadnamed by your family during holiday gatherings im giving you a hug over the internet rn

#mod 💿

tboyreject

[shaking a transmasc egg by his shoulders] your existence as a man is not anti-feminist, the world is a brighter place with you in it. nothing of value will be lost, you don't deserve to spend your life in a closet, the most radical thing you can do is to exist authentically. i will always cheer for you, i will always celebrate you.

wokeleftistmob

If you see a post about how transmasculine people in ICE facilities were sexually abused specifically for being transmasculine and your main issue is that people were tagging it with "transandrophobia"? It sounds like you are more concerned about the language people use to describe the abuses going on rather than the actual abuse

kaninchen-reblogs

Be kind to trans women or die by my sword

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Respect trans men or die by my axe

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Include nonbinary people or die by my morningstar

kaninchen-reblogs

listen to intersex people or die by my longbow

kaninchen-reblogs

love he/him butches and she/her femboys and neopronoun queers and all kinds of gnc folks or die by my arquebus

kaninchen-reblogs

don’t just see multi-gender and two spirit and third gender and agender people as “gotchas” in your debates or die by my trebuchet

kaninchen-reblogs

“Kanny where did you get all these medieval weapons” well you see I defeated the Duke of Worsestkingshireton-upon-avon in glorious battle and claimed his lands as my own and I broke into his castle armory and now I’ve got all these cool toys to use on bigots. I do this every Monday.

smorkulon

I need the people who talk a lot about transandrophobia in the tags to actually read @/st-dionysus's, the person who coined the term in the word in the first place, description on transandrophobia, because it's starting to mean the exact opposite of what it actually means and structurally losing its meaning.

No. It is not trans men/mascs experiencing misogyny, but the fear/hatred of masculinity in non-cis context. At least, that's a shitty description of it.

Here's a link:

💬 4 🔁 1298 ❤️ 1620 · What is transandrophobia and why is it called that? By the guy who coined it and is kind of tired of seeing it define

I’m late but hi I’m bomb anon

Someone joked about killing all transmascs with a bomb because it’s feminist somehow and people kept trying to defend joking about killing trans people and still are

I don’t see the joke. It’s just transandrophobia.

jesus fuck that’s horrible. I’m sorry you had to see something like that

#asks #anon #mod 💿

How are people still defending “bomb that kills all transmascs????” how is saying you want to murder trans people not transphobia? hello????

what’s this referencing ? /genq

#asks #anon #mod 💿

at this point I wouldn't be surprised if a so called "trans activitist" said something like "trans men should be renamed to cis men with pussies they literally don't go through the trans experience at all"

My hope is that no one thinks like that :(

#asks #anon #mod 💿

[vent, additional cws for medical talk, death talk and antivax talk, comments are allowed but don't clown on the post]

so my uncle is a great guy and we generally get along but he's very much down the anti-bigpharma rabbit hole in a conspiracy theorist way. bought his own expensive microscope to look for nanobots in his food kind of stuff. he identifies as leftwing and is generally accepting of trans men because we have other queer people in the family including my aunt and cousin, and he's quite a softspoken and effeminate man at times himself. anyway, i briefly mention in passing that my endocrinologist wants me to get an MRI to check for aneurysm potential (my father passed away from one - something that was quite a trauma for me - and it's something that can be passed down the family line, and testosterone can change blood pressure etc, tldr it's a fairly standard medical test). my uncle kneejerks a bit because of something he read in his social circles about MRIs being dangerous - totally understandable kind of thing from a guy who doesn't trust 5G or anything to do with radiation - but when my usual neutral response is "well it's just part of the process if I want to go on testosterone" his immediate kneejerk was "oh no don't go on testosterone" in the same vein as the usual "you don't know what they sneak into those needles" kind of antivax talk. i deflected with "well as a trans man, if i want gender affirming care that can prevent me from dying the same way my father did, i'm going to get it" before my mother/his sister tried to silence the conversation, but she also leans into some of his conspiracies lately (she still believes microwaving your food is unhealthy, as an example). i'm just rolling my eyes for the most part because like... i'm socially out as a nonbinary pre-t trans man, my cousin already had top surgery and that was generally accepted without questioning, but because it involves radiation and a Big Scary Injection Needle, it's suddenly okay to let your fear of Big Pharma get in the way of supporting your nephew in his transition? i'm 30 years old in a country that has legal protections for queer people and i have every right over my own self autonomy, so i'm going to go ahead and do my medical stuff anyway including the MRI for non-trans reasons as well as trans reasons, but i'm just incredibly frustrated because his attitudes around the Can't Trust Anyone Or Anything mindset are getting in the way of our friendship and this comment, which he's probably already forgotten about, was just a step too far for me. How do I put my foot down about my identity and medical choices while also acknowledging his concerns, especially when he's someone who "doesn't trust mainstream news" and "does his own research"?

i’m not really qualified to give advice, but if i had to guess, I’d say maybe send him research papers on radiation and vaccinations and such. it could also be helpful to explain to him how testosterone is a life-saving treatment for many people. maybe it’ll make him more understanding of your situation if he knows that it could save your life.

Would also like to add that you are very much a legal adult, and it’s ultimately your decision. (of course, I don’t know what your living situation is like, so maybe that’s not true.)

Good luck anon, I hope things go your way and your uncle learns 🫂

#asks #anon #mod 💿

Yesterday we talked to our mom n agreed that calling anyone a bitch is misogyny n that to transmascs is misgendering. Today we argued n she said that we're bitching n acting bitchy. She apologized for yelling n we asked if she'd not say that we're bitching n she yelled at us for "assigning gender to random words" n "only thinking about gender" (it's our spin) n such. Shes been weird about our gender in general lately? Yesterday we said "ew why are my hands greasy" n she said "cause youre a boy"

that’s not good! i’m sorry that happened, feel free to come back to vent more or give any updates 🫂 /not forced

#asks #anon #vent #mod 💿

why are you so misogynistic?

i’m not sure what exactly about supporting people who are affected negatively by the patriarchy reads as “misogynistic” but ok anon

#SORRY GUYS I KNOW IM NOT SUPPOSED TO POST HATE ANONS BUT THIS WAS TOO FUNNY NOT TO POST #asks #anon #mod 💿

most of my irl friends refuse to call me by he/him, I'm out and have been out for ages but every time it's they. I don't want to be called they!! I'm a guy please oh my God. But bringing it up I feel like I'm one of those conservative "they is plural!1!1!1!" people eugh

[anon specified that this was a vent but that replies are okay]

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i totally get that anon, its genuinely so frustrating when misgendering is subtle enough that you feel weird calling it out :( i really hope your friends realize that theyre hurting you and start using the correct pronouns <3

#mod 🛼#transandrophobia #vent #asks #anon

fall-of-efrafa

we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

fall-of-efrafa

like people make that joke like 'why go to a doctor for an autism diagnosis over years when a highschool bully can do it in 10 minutes' and like that's my exact experience of being a trans man. since primary school i got bullied for being too boyish by girls and boys alike, teachers knew i was distinctly Boy in a not-just-a-tomboy way (cos 'just' tomboys never got the same flack i specifically did). and i'm british so we had school uniforms so i didn't dress particularly 'boy' and cos my parents were still buying all my clothes without my input i didn't dress very 'boy' anyway. that only happened when i was 14 or so (where it all got worse, too).

like, no one was surprised when i initially came out as a lesbian, cos of course i was a lesbian. look at me. then, no one was surprised when i came out as a trans man, cos of course i was. look at me. but coming out as a trans man didn't immediately stop people treating me like a woman/girl, either. i was Just A Tranny. i was a freak. i wasn't girl enough and i wasn't boy enough. my actions of being a 'manly woman' made sense but they were not enough to be seen As A Man.

even as an adult who passes as cis 100% of the time (given i don't take my shirt off or something) people still clock me as queer. i've been told my mannerisms are not very 'man' except for certain contexts. my voice is still higher-sounding, i speak from my throat most of the time, i never did voice training. i've been told i 'talk like a woman' with the words and phrases i use (and the logic i use. which is. baffling. but whatever)

like, even when i pass as cis, i don't pass as cishet, i pass as queer, i pass as different, i pass as strange. i am uncanny to cis men who have extended conversations with me. and i passed as strange as a young girl repressing her transness and trying to be a girl fully. women have always said i am 'different' to other [cis] men cos i 'get it' even without letting them in on me being trans. i have never been 'cis' to anyone; i have always been distinctly different, my gender a big ??? to strangers who have longer conversations with me; not woman enough, not man enough. people always know something is wrong. people have always known i am queer, and a lot of them were a stone's throw away from knowing i am trans.

#mod 💿

luxiomahariel

I'm part of a racial minority (not gonna get in details because I know only two whole other people on tumblr who are part of it and I don't wanna doxx myself) that gets a similar treatment to other minorities that are seen as dangerous. The women are often hyper-sexualized and treated as uncivilized, loud and scandalous. The men are seen as extremely dangerous and are often associated to gang activity, drug trafficking, etc. I feel like we can all agree on that both stereotypes can be very harmful and make us vulnerable. I've had several family members get in trouble with the law. I've had family thrown in prison. It's always been the men. Even when the reason they caught trouble were also being done by the women in the family.

But yeah, there's absolutely no intersection going on on how being a men of any minority (racial, queer, or anything else) could somehow bring up unique types of oppressions that can't be separated one from the other, no sir /s. I'm not black, but black men are disproportionately targeted by cops in the US, for example. You can't erase the "men" from "black men" there. A passing trans black man will be subjected to the same kind of violence black men face (and even further for being trans). And you CAN'T ERASE THAT

but why would radfems or transradfems or whatever care about that when they're all trying to find the best way to word shit like "it's okay to hate men of color because they're way more barbaric" in ways that seem progressive anyhow

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I just left a group chat that was the closest thing I had to a friend group because the owner didn't believe in transandrophobia and at first I was like "Oh okay well we don't have to agree on everything" but she made it a rule to not bring it up and then?? She's brought it up twice since?? So I guess it's okay to openly deny it but im not allowed to talk about it existing, ugh, I don't get why non-transmascs think they get such a say in how we talk about our oppression. Anyways now the only friend I have is my gf and I feel so alone lmao /vent /u can reply if you want but don't feel pressured to

That's really awful you had to do that, I'm sorry :( I hope you're able to find a more supportive group

#asks #anon #vent #mod 💿

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