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Since I know none of yall have lost your energy for supporting black people right now, you should check out this blog with over 1000 black-owned online shops.
https://themadmommy.com/black-owned-etsy-shops/
It’s organized by category (so it’s not as overwhelming as it sounds) and there’s an LGBT section!
i hope this doesn’t sound really weird but i feel really bad for the lady who came up with gender reveal parties. she had a very legitimate reason for throwing herself one–she’d had a few miscarriages, all of them miscarrying before she was able to find out the sex of her baby and due to really wanting to have children she was distraught, so when her pregnancy made it to the milestone of being able to find out her baby’s sex, she was understandably incredibly excited and threw a party to celebrate it. honestly she had every right to do so and was more celebrating the fact that she’d carried her baby to that point rather than celebrating if it was a girl or a boy
and now she’s the inventor of this horrible thing that makes stupid people cause wildfires. all this lady wanted to do was have some cake and celebrate her pregnancy after a few miscarriages. i feel fucking terrible for her.
she’s slamming elaborate gender reveal parties with over the top shit like pyrotechnics on facebook which is good bc she obviously doesn’t support the crazy shit these parties have become but i kinda hate that she has to because this very calm party she threw for herself years ago to celebrate passing the points she’d miscarried before has obviously become tainted and a bad memory for her and now she’s labelled as the lady who “started” these parties even though hers was literally like. a cake that you cut into and the color tells you what the baby is.
I saw an article saying that she has learned more about gender and her kid came out as nonbinary and she feels bad about how the whole thing hurts the trans communities and her official stance is “There are plenty of other reasons to eat cake” and that we should pick a different one Tbh she seems like a really nice person who is just sort of in the crosshairs of a really big thing she didn’t expect
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🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 not usually the type of thing I post on here. But now more than ever we need to support content creators, artists, self employed people everywhere and small businesses alike. Give this girl some love she’s wonderful! Such a sweetheart.
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1) This is a very good twitter thread.
2) the notes are full of terfs (in part bc OP put it on terf tags intentionally) and it’s gross af but it makes a damn good blocklist
Reblogging the good stuff from Laura Kate Dale, the gay autistic transwoman gamer we deserve.
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Being stone can be hard when other women insist on trying to melt us, to break us, to be the exception to our boundaries. Being stone is the core of me, and I will not change that for anyone.
If you approach a stone butch with the idea that you want to touch her in ways that she does not like, if you are fixated on that, if you want to prove her wrong, if you see changing her as romantic, if you see her as an accomplishment or achievement, that is wrong.
Stone butches are whole, are good, are natural.
I had to stop dating a girl once because this had become such an issue. Please don’t try to change us.
Could someone explain what a stone butch is?
asexual butch lesbian
that’s not what stone means.
Stone (or stone top) refers to someone who does not desire or enjoy penetration during sex. It can also refer to someone who doesn’t like to be touched at all during sex, or doesn’t like to be the “receiving” partner.
Stone (bottoms) are those who do not desire or enjoy penetrating their partners during sex. It can also refer to those who don’t want to sexually touch their partner or take on the“giving” role.
(These sexual boundaries often are born through trauma and even when they aren’t, they’re deeply personal and shouldn’t be trivialized. They can also be born from coping with gender dysphoria, esp with trans and non-binary butches and femmes)
Usually when people talk about stone butches and stone femmes, the butch is assumed to be the stone top and femme stone bottom, but sometimes it’s visa versa. Some stones date people who aren’t stone themselves, which is okay as long as the other person respects their sexual boundaries.
Stone identity is not the same as ace identity, because stone specifically has to due with sexual boundaries, not attraction. Ace identity is not being attracted to anyone, and stone is a specific desire for specific roles and boundaries in sexual relationships.
This is a really good breakdown, thank you.
Solid breakdown
idk what shit-eating truscum needs to hear this, but your rhetoric directly harms people with culturally-specific genders. i’m native and two-spirit, that label describes my gender and my attraction. i use they/them pronouns and your “nonbinaries and cringey stargender trenders aren’t valid” bullshit is getting old. our languages were demonized and erased, our gender and attraction labels along with them. my experiences with dysphoria exist because of colonialist ideas of gender. we have been forced into arbitrary ‘male’ and ‘female’ categories by colonizers for centuries and truscum rhetoric perpetuates racist colonialist violence against natives.
your experiences are not universal, you’re not forwarding justice for trans people, and you’re definitely not an ally to natives or other people of color. you’re just a fucking colonizer.
non-natives, reblog this post
One of the most exhausting things I've seen recently is the assertion that "TERF doesn't mean anything anymore but 'lesbian who doesn't agree with me'" or its friend "I can't be a TERF, I'm trans, how dare."
These are two related things, but not the same thing, obviously, and they're generally two deflections from people who don't want to hear that what they're saying are the same things TERFs say, or that what they're saying are talking points originated by, and pushed by, TERFs.
Are there people who just fling the label TERF around carelessly? Yeah, I'm sure there are. I generally don't find people actually calling other people TERFs unless those people are espousing trans-exclusionary beliefs, but I'm sure it does happen.
However, that's not generally what's happening when the previous reactions occur. Generally what's happening is that someone who doesn't want to agree with TERFs and wants to be someone who isn't associated with TERFs is repeating TERF talking points, and a second person is saying "what you are saying is the things that TERFs say, maybe you want to reconsider, because you're not a person who wants to say the same things TERFs say."
(For the record, there are self-identified trans TERFs, but those are rare and strange and honestly irrelevant to this conversation. I don't get it either.)
TERFs have led the push against "queer," because it doesn't allow them to sniff out the "wrong" people, like trans people and bi people and pan people. It's too inclusive for them.
TERFs have openly admitted that they use anti-ace rhetoric to recruit TERFs, and they've been successful at it.
TERFs push the idea that bi and pan women shouldn't be allowed to talk about their non-woman partners in LGBTQ spaces, as a means of marginalizing and pushing those women out.
And on and on. There is a distinct and continual effort by TERFs to prey on the insecurity and loneliness of young LGBTQ women online, especially young lesbians.
Is every piece of harmful discussion on Tumblr able to be sourced to TERFs? No, of course not. Not even every piece of harmful and divisive discussion in Tumblr's LGBTQ and queer communities (and yes, they're different, though they can overlap) comes from TERFs. However, some of the most virulent pieces of ugliness come from TERFs.
So when someone says "you're saying what TERFs say," the answer isn't "you are saying I'm a TERF, how dare!" It's "I should re-examine the things I'm saying, because I am not a TERF and don't want to agree with them."
If someone tells me that I sound like their racist uncle, I don't say "I could never!" I pause and consider how I got to that point, and change my behavior accordingly.
I know that a lot of discussion on Tumblr also doesn't take into account the idea of changing one's mind and one's behaviour, but that's an entirely different topic.
Splitting the community is one of the literal goals of TERFs. When someone says to you "don't say what TERFs say," they're asking you to walk your talk, to not just put "no TERFs" in your header but to actively reject their divisive rhetoric. It's a lot harder than just putting something in your header, but the necessary work is usually difficult. That's why it's still necessary: the easy work is already done.
I'm a transmed, and think you need dysphoria to be trans, but that artical has a lot of good points
Nope! The requirement for dysphoria in order to be trans is inherently Western and completely erases indigenous and non-white experience of trans experience.
I know the compulsion to say that some people are trans and some people aren't is very strong! And that's because you've likely suffered for your identity if you're trans. Any idea that someone could just be trying it on for size feels insulting. But all you're really doing it's just discriminating against people because you think you know their own gender better than they do. If that sounds familiar to what transphobe say, that's because it is. You are no less valid just because someone hasn't suffered as much for their trans identity as he might have or as others might have. A certain level of suffering is not necessary in order to be trans, and the idea that it is is rooted in Western medical systems that were put in place to discriminate against us, institutionalize us, sterilize us, and kill us.
I know your intent is to protect the community, and perhaps more subconsciously defend the validity of your own identity. But what you're doing is wrong and harmful, and you've internalized messages that transphobes have said, like the idea that people are faking it for attention or that they're just making stuff up. Work on the stuff you've internalised, I implore you. I can see it from here how much you've internalised, and I implore you to see the similarities between what you're saying and what other transphobes are saying.
Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I’m having.”
And then I met Dominic when I was 12, and people could see how in love we were. And we got the shit beat out of us. The year I met him, some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke. Instead of sending me to the nurse, the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation. She asked why the kids had beat me up. I said, “They were calling me gay.”
Her response was, “Well, are you?”
My, “I don’t know,” earned a call to my parents, and I was outed. Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom. Throughout high school, Dom’s stepmother intensified these efforts. He slept in the basement of the house. Although he was an incredibly talented student, he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars. He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years.
The day he turned 18, he packed up everything he had and walked to my house, and we’ve lived together ever since. Things are better, but they’re not perfect. I’ve had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and, seeing the pride sticker on my car, through old drinks and garbage into my window. I no longer speak to my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years. One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said, “I’m not going to judge you, but I’d be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner.”
I joined a support group for trans and intersex people. When I joined, 40 people attended regularly. Within the year, the group was half the size it had been. Some couldn’t make it anymore, because they were staying at the shelter, where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons. Some were put in correctional therapy. Five of them died. Three of those, I didn’t know, but I knew Alex, the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital, and I knew Stephanie, who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom’s boyfriend.
Tumblr is not reality. The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there. Here’s the part where I finally make a point, and it might be extremely unpopular - but guys, value your allies. Value each other. We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own, over petty things. Don’t go after one another over every little thing you find problematic.
Learn to see nuance. Maybe the word “queer” bothers you, and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term. Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they’re confused about terminology, but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community. Maybe someone is just asking a question, wanting to learn more. Stop. Attacking. These. People.
Allies are being driven away. Members of our own community are being ostracized. Others are feeling nervous and estranged, and it’s largely because of places like Tumblr, where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical. I am begging you, stop nitpicking “problematic” things and start directing your efforts to create real change. When it comes to comes to your allies, forget the “social justice warrior” mentality and put down your torch. Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving. And I’m certainly not saying that your anger doesn’t have a good place - when you are met with bigots on the street, congress members who want to pass hateful laws, violent protesters, abusive parents, prejudiced teachers, that is when you need to be a warrior. That’s when it counts. In the real world. When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm. Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run. And we don’t have time for that, not when trans women of color are being murdered every day, not when states are still fighting against marriage equality, not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons, not when we’ve just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman, not when the media won’t even admit that the attack was homophobic.
Please step back. Look at the big picture. Look at where we are, globally. Don’t just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps. That’s like washing the dishes in a house that’s on fire, kids. Let’s fight on the battlefield, and when we come home to each other, let’s just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war.
Signal boost to this unbelievably important message.
I’d reblog this a thousand times if I could.
Stop attacking allies. Educate. Not hate.
This is incredibly important. Please read!
Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving.
Gonna Reblog this every time
This seems even more relevant today given that I just read an article about how acceptance of LGBT+ people seems to be dropping among young people. That’s a horrifying and embarrassing statistic when apparently it’s gone up steadily for the last several years. Driving people who want to help and support away is literally the last thing that should be happening- and it will happen, if the experience these people have with the community is hostility.
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Planned Parenthood is fucking amazing, y’all. I haven’t been there yet…but just talking to their HRT line on the phone…
They used my respected name right off the bat. Called me Riley all the way through. Used he/him pronouns. Didn’t slip up once. Asked me and “What’s your legal name? I’m sorry I have to ask that.”
Then asked me “Now is it okay if I send things with Riley Roswell to your home?” not wanting to out me accidentally and then “Is it okay if I send stuff with planned parenthood labels on them or do you want me to be discreet about it?” knowing there are people who could get in trouble with family or partners or others for going there.
OH MY GOD I’M GOING TO CRY AND THEY DIDN’T JUDGE ME AT ALL
THEY WERE TOTALLY ACCEPTING AND ANSWERED ALL MY STUPID FUCKING BASIC QUESTIONS ABOUT HRT ABOUT WHAT THE APPT WAS GONNA BE LIKE
AND SHE WAS SO KIND AND SO UNDERSTANDING
AND SHE RESPECTED ME SO MUCH AND I WAS SO HAPPY
I CAN’T BELIEVE PEOPLE LIKE THAT EXIST IN OUR WORLD.
OH MY GOD.
AND I’M GOING TO BE GOING TO THIS WONDERFUL PLACE ON THE 29TH!!!!!!!!
This is so good! This makes us so happy! Here are Planned Parenthoods that offer HRT!
Reblog for those who need it. Thank you Planned Parenthood!
Got a new lil jammer on my chest over some old stuff. Hearts for my heart!! Almost 2.5 years post op and 3.5 years on T.
I am so proud of him. I love Terry so much. He is doing what other men are too afraid to do he is really risking so much by doing this.
if you are under 18:
your nudes are child pornography
people you send them to can be charged with possession of child pornography
you can be charged with distribution of child pornography
don’t take nudes
This is not about body shaming, this is not about ‘telling you what to do with your sexuality’ this is literally a federal crime don’t fuck with the law okay.
I hate people who encourage underage girls on this site to share their bodies. Please report it to tumblr support if you see this. It’s not about “dobbing” people in, it’s a legal issue and is harmful to minors.
Listen if I want to fucking send a nude to my boyfriend of over a year I fucking will I’m pretty god damn sure the government doesn’t have my phone tapped.
the government literally does have your phone tapped… and if you break up with your boyfriend he can ruin your life with those pictures… long story short don’t send underage nudes
if you’re not mature enough to recognize this post as a message to help protect you and educate you then you’re not mature enough to send those nudes in the first place no matter how long you’ve been with your partner. if you view this post as something offensive rather than informative then you need to sit down and think about that. think real hard.
Also note that this isn’t just some hypothetical scaremongering post—there are multiple cases of teenagers who have been arrested, jailed and even put on the sex offender registry for this. It’s a very real danger that could absolutely ruin you life if you’re caught with these pictures of yourselves on your phone or if you send them to someone else who is caught with them on their phone or who, even worse, posts them publicly online.
