I wanna talk about the vid this is from but
this comment in particular I think really articulates why I am not against trans men seeing characters who are headcanoned as trans women as maybe being trans men
(and vice versa but I've only seen the reverse, like, twice. Like some trans women who thought mettaton was a trans woman kinda thing yknow)
Because its not (necessarily) someone seeing a trans woman as a man, its someone seeing their own autistic *perception of* masculine traits in her *expression of* femininity.
"Autistic femininity can look like neurotypical masculinity to the untrained eye"
Yeah! Exactly! The way in which gender interacts with neurodivergence, in this case autism, overwhelmingly presents as someone acting the opposite. Clumsy, unclean girls who dont care how dirty their clothes are, vs. Overly sensitive, easily frightened boys, who dont pick up on the expected social repulsion to boys and girls respectively.
Think of parents who think their child acts perfectly normal, because his way of being masculine is autistic femininity, how being queer, strange, seems normal from a queer, strange perspective.
...I find this, so hard to put into words without it sounding like I'm saying trans women are masculine and trans men are feminine, you know?
Because what I mean is the exact opposite: The traits that make trans women subject to misogyny before they know they're trans, at least, if you're autistic, would be 'normal behaviour (still stigmatised, but 'normal') for women.
While their traits that 'match up' to cis manhood are, in fact more similar to how women with autism act (well, how their actions are evaluated according to their perceived gender) and so are ironically gender-coherent.
Autistic women are too blunt, too loud, interrupt too much, but if they were a neurotypical man these things are called 'being assertive' and discussed as 'dominant' behaviour.
Hmmmm curious, I wonder how trans women are attacked even by progressive spaces, what low hanging fruit can be used to deny a girl her place based on how people think a woman should act?
Trans women are too loud, trans men are too whiny... The ways in which we conform to gender are fundamentally opposed to how we see our gender. The traits that align with our gender are the ones that are seen as in opposition to it.
The things that make me dysphoric are masculine, the things that make me euphoric are feminine, because the way I have been evaluated has always been flipped. My femininity is autistic masculinity.
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