Ugh

Why are we still here. Just to suffer?

[prof-grace-aspen]

Actually feminists want you to shut the fuck up about how much you hate men and males. Yeah we voted. We decided it's actually super uncool to hate half of humanity due to something beyond their control.

[intersexelphie]

this is lara, a cisgender butch woman who was hate-crimed by other women for trying to use a “female-only space”. a space, by their logic, she should have been able to use and is apparently meant to be her safe space.

this is the result of terf transphobia. please remember lara and others like her next time terfs claim that they care about butch women or that you can “always tell”.

I’m so sorry this happened to you, lara 💔 🫂

[satyrradio-deactivated20250513]

TERFs: oh you poor sexually disordered people being used by tras... we'll accept you tho :)

Intersex ppl: hey don't fucking say we're sexually disordered tf

TERFs: stupid fucking herms i bet you aren't even a real intersex person why don't you just kill yourself

[status-quo-hater]

When TERFs say "noooo we don't support mutilating intersex people obviously" they're fucking lying. TERFs full-throatedly support a binary model of gonochoristic sex, which is enforced with violence against intersex people. If intersex people weren't being mutilated and killed on a massive scale, we would violate the sex binary by our mere presence and visibility. You can't say "I don't support crushing orphans" while wearing an "I ❤️ the orphan crushing machine" shirt.

When you say we are ~2% of the population, that is AFTER the intersex infanticide, exclusion of certain variations, and expecting parents being urged by doctors to abort fetuses found to be intersex. Not to mention the unaccounted for intersex people, hospitals are not required to track intersex births in plenty of places. Even ontologically evil child abuser John Fucking Money estimated the prevalence of intersexuality to be over 5% of the population during his experiments regarding "fixing" intersex children. If Intersexuality wasn't societally suppressed, we would be an everyday sight. You NEED to understand that if you want to be an ally to us.

The "rarity" of intersex people is engineered. It is visceral evidence of the violence against us, hidden in plain fucking sight.

[intersexelphie]

elon musk’s trans daughter vivian has confirmed that elon has been for sex-specific ivf to only have amab children. she herself was one of those babies.

people could already tell because having the amount of children that he does and the majority (all? I think he had maybe one that was afab but I could be wrong) of them being amab is incredibly unusual without going out of your way to ensure that’s the case.

the dude fucking hates women and it’s also why he hates vivian as much as he does. because he hates trans people generally but he hates women and he paid for her to be one way and she isn’t that. his misogyny literally radicalised him into being a transphobe and saying his own daughter was dead. and that shows why all oppression will forever be interlinked.

[our-queer-experience]

helen “trans people are perpetuating gender steriotypes” joyce is now upset that the scientific american is writing about how women were hunters too back in the day, not just mothers and caretakers. feminist win!

[transsideagain]

Terfs are so stupid.

First off, consent is important. Idk why I have to point that out.

Secondly, it would be more like being made to work in dangerous conditions, without your consent, for no pay. Like yeah, that would piss people off too.

Thirdly, partially because of people like terfs, porn and sex work is stigmatized. It’s much harder for people to enter safely, because it means being seen as dirty. It’s not seen as a job, it’s seen as acting subhuman. Being anti porn and anti kink altogether contributes to that.

[xxactlyperfect]

Saying sex work is real work implies consent is something you can buy, which implies you can buy access to someone's body. Especially the female body. If you don't consent to sex without money, that's not work. That is coercion. Hope this helps, dummy.

Once again you prove to not know a flying fuck about what TERFs stand for (not "what TERF stands for", since you also proved to have no reading comprehensions last time we talked), or even the history and behind-the-scenes of the porn industry. Being anti porn and anti kink contributes to spreading awareness of the gruesome things that no one wants to talk about. Except for radical feminists. Trafficking, rape, pedophilia, abuse, appropriating violence against women, etc. etc.. These things are real, but you don't care. And if you claim that such cases are rare; congrats, you've been brainwashed.

[transsideagain]

Once again proving you’re a fucking moron.

You have to consent to sex work for it to be sex work. If someone rapes you and tosses you money, that’s still rape.

Sex workers have a right to set limits and boundaries.

You just think women doing anything sexual other than masturbating with the lights of is exploitative.

Also, you aren’t the only ones talking about the dangers of the porn industry and sex work, you just think it should be illegal because you know people won’t make the choices you agree with (eg not doing it). You’re making it worse.

Don’t pretend this is about anything but control.

[theconcealedweapon]

[jessesajoke]

yea your right ive noticed that not a single man has ever done porn ever. and gay male prostitutes definitely dont exist. And ive never heard of a gigolo. actually lesbian porn is the only type of porn to ever be made. a man has never been naked doing a sex act on film. and gay porn doesnt exist. jonny sins is cgi.

anyway

[leftiedinolover]

Suddenly, all the cishet/gay/trans men doing porn have disappeared like in Infinity War.

I really wish I could've seen this goofy take sooner because swerfs and other so-called "radfems" tend to be a special kind of anti-intellectualism. For all their fair criticisms about the porn industry or how exploited sex workers can be, it's all muddied by their simplistic, often heterocentric worldview. And I say this as a cishet dino lover.

[jessesajoke]

very good point, also i want to add that lots of men are fighting to prevent women from doing it at all. especially here in the US.

[leftiedinolover]

I remember some "pinkpilled" Redditor upset that anti-porn/anti-sex work discourse often attracts men doing it for religious or moral reasons and are too conservative for her taste. They're so close to realizing that the only other people who agree with them are rightwing fundies, but they really don't care in the end. The fact they don't acknowledge men stopping women from doing even something as simple as an OF account (a thing that happened to my former colleague at work, btw) shows how detached they are from reality.

[transsideagain]

Terfs are so stupid.

First off, consent is important. Idk why I have to point that out.

Secondly, it would be more like being made to work in dangerous conditions, without your consent, for no pay. Like yeah, that would piss people off too.

Thirdly, partially because of people like terfs, porn and sex work is stigmatized. It’s much harder for people to enter safely, because it means being seen as dirty. It’s not seen as a job, it’s seen as acting subhuman. Being anti porn and anti kink altogether contributes to that.

[jessesajoke]

yea your right ive noticed that not a single man has ever done porn ever. and gay male prostitutes definitely dont exist. And ive never heard of a gigolo. actually lesbian porn is the only type of porn to ever be made. a man has never been naked doing a sex act on film. and gay porn doesnt exist. jonny sins is cgi.

anyway

[leftiedinolover]

Suddenly, all the cishet/gay/trans men doing porn have disappeared like in Infinity War.

I really wish I could've seen this goofy take sooner because swerfs and other so-called "radfems" tend to be a special kind of anti-intellectualism. For all their fair criticisms about the porn industry or how exploited sex workers can be, it's all muddied by their simplistic, often heterocentric worldview. And I say this as a cishet dino lover.

[hellforaloser]

yk terfs rave on and on about how top surgery is "mutilation" and "cutting off healthy tissue" and "self harm" and preach about how hrt makes you evil and ugly, and how transmascs/men are actually just confused and/or stupid autistic girls who can't think for themselves? that behaviour has a loooot of parallels with pro-lifers raving about how abortions are just killing babies and how people who get abortions are stupid for not preparing more and are just whores who want to end an innocent little baby's life.

does it not rub you the wrong way that your argument could easily be changed to sound exactly like the group you claim to hate so much? or do you really just not care because you wanna own the gendies by being hypocrites?

you preach for bodily autonomy, you preach for your right to choose, you preach for not judging what a person does with their own body... until it's a masectomy.

until its hrt.

until its a phallastopy.

until its something you deem "predatory" or "wrong" or "stupid" or "harmful".

do you not see the parallels?

[transsideagain]

It’s because they see us as unable of making the “right” choice, so they want to same sure it’s the only choice.

There’s a better way to put it In site, but I’m tired lol

[etakeh]

I'm sure tumblr would never, but hey. No sense tempting fate.

[wumblr]

Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

they do

[smugpuffin]

Social media is not private, emails are not private, internet searches are not private, your text messages are not private.

"I use a VPN!" Your ISP can see when you initially connect to a VPN. The VPN company will comply with a subpoena.

"My socials don't have my real name!" What about the email to register that social? What about your wifi provider? They provide the IP address from which you're frequently logging in. Don't they have your information?

Your cell carrier will comply with a subpoena.

You ISP will comply with a subpoena.

So will Google, Apple, Yahoo, Meta, Tumblr, Twitter, you name it. None of them will fight the government on behalf of a random person they don't care about.

This is why fighting for online privacy laws, real actual privacy laws, is so important. It's why using services with end-to-end encryption is so important. It's why if you don't want any chance of law enforcement to know about something, you cannot post about it online in any way.

The messages we recieved growing up about being very careful about what you post online wasn't fear mongering. They just picked a different villain.

[our-queer-experience]

My transmasculine experience is a bit controversial, I don't share it off anon.. but, I was AMAB. I am intersex, and have always been viewed femininely for a boy.. I have boobs and curves, I pass as a woman and I don't want to. I don't want femininity forced onto me, but it has been by my puberty and even by the world around me. I've shared pictures of my body online and even had people tell me to just "give up and be a woman at that point". The only support I get from cis people is pity, and only if I try to call my intersex variation a disease in need of a cure.. but I don't think it's a disease. I just wish I looked more masculine, (but testosterone would have little effect on me, so I don't even bother). I hope someone like me would be welcomed into the transmasc community, despite not being ftm.. I don't want to be a failed cis man. Being transmasculine but not ftm is the only way I've found I can take pride in myself. I generally don't share my AGAB or my intersexuality with other trans people because I'm afraid of being excluded from my only community for being "a cis man pretending to be trans", I don't want people to think that of me.

your experience is so similar to mine and other transmascs, as well as the experiences of other intersex people i’ve heard from, and honestly i can think of no real reason you shouldn’t be welcomed here

[rebellum]

As someone on the edge of the trans masc community, who's relation to transmasculinity is "i mean sort of? I guess? Idk man, but I fit in this community best", I can tell you the trans masc community (or at least, how i experience it) would ABSOLUTELY accept you. You aren't a cis man pretending to be trans, if you want to identify as trans masc then that's absolutely okay. Do what makes you feel comfortable and confident in yourself, and we will welcome you with open arms.

[queerautism]

You're absolutely welcome here 💜

[oopsallvulnerabilities]

I was literally just thinking about how this kind of experience needs more representation, and how people's perception of the trans experience needs to include more than just mtf and ftm contexts. Thank you for sharing this, I know this probably means a lot for some folks to see it.

[transsideagain]

Hey anon? You’re just as much of a transmasc as any of us. Your agab doesn’t matter. Welcome home, man

[our-queer-experience]

I saw the anon you got from an amab intersex man who wants to identify as transmasc, and the notes on that post made me really genuinely upset.

I am intersex (5-ARD) as well, I am a girl, I'm afab, but I have internal testicles. I am over 6' tall. My voice dropped at 13 and i have been called he by every new person i meet. I have even had trans people misgender me when they find out i am "actually just cis" and not transfemme.. or at least what they think a transfemme should be. I lurk in transfemme spaces online and have for a long time, especially regarding voice training when I was younger. I called myself transfem with a note that I am afab intersex briefly on discord after seeing intersex activists on here advocate for people like me doing so, it felt right, it felt like me, but I was harassed and banned from servers for it. I even had a document made about me for it. I was told that what I was doing was violating and a betrayal to the real transfemmes, and that I was a terf psyop.

For that reason I just can't identify with the term transfemme anymore. There's too much pain there. So I am just an intersex femme. And, I'm just so upset that the opposite of my situation, an amab transmasc intersex person, was accepted into that space with open arms and I was spat on. It feels like transmisogyny and intersexism had a horrible demon baby that only I can see and it lives in the community I thought I might have actually allowed to be part of. I wish I could be trans but I am just too wrong, i must be a terf plot. I can't be a cis girl either. I am a male with a dsd that made it be assigned the wrong sex. Not a woman. Never a woman. Only ever a mockery of a woman. And I hear this from all sorts of women. Cis and trans. Even by other intersex women with CAH or PCOS. I'm too intersex. Even my own mother thinks I was assigned the wrong sex and I don't think she ever saw me as a girl.

It feels like I can't be a woman, I'm not allowed in any way shape or form. It feels like my choice is between this and just giving up on living completely. Why was that other anon allowed to be trans but I am not? Why are only the evil afab transfems the ones being targeted in posts that get thousands of notes, but that guy gets nothing but love. It isn't fair. It's just not fair. I wish him well but I am just so frustrated.

i mean. listen. you are also allowed to be trans. that anon also did not have a good time. im sorry you’re suffering it really sucks but that’s 1. not his fault and also 2. you could get the same exact love and affirmation here but like. listen to me. why is that this one guy’s fault.

you can always come here for love and affirmation. you will always be welcome. i do think it sucks that afab transfem intersex folks receive the brunt of violence within the community. but you cant come here mad that other people were affirmed because you feel more misaligned.

(also i have a long ass fucking block list, deleted shitty replies, and generally my posts hit healthy circles. do you think if some other blog got that ask the replies woukd be the same?🎤?)

[hi-fi-planetoid]

It makes me so mad when I see people get treated like this in queer spaces, it's the absolute antithesis of queer liberation yet people somehow think it's okay. A person can have an almost identical experience growing up to most perisex amab trans women, could benefit from gender affirming resources that are typically considered for transfems/trans women but be shunned, mocked and dehumanized in queer spaces because the decision of one doctor who looked at their genitals 20 years ago; because that part of the community thinks you need to have been assigned the wrong gender at birth to "validly" trans. The gender you're assigned doesn't mean shit if no one will socially accept you as that gender, and if gender affirming care makes you feel more like the gender you identify with, who cares what you were assigned at birth, who cares period, it's so arbitrary. You're just aiding bigots when you make arbitrary rules for what people can be. Gender should not be based on genitals, period. You can say you were afab or amab or cafab or camab if you think it adds context to your experience but trying to apply them as hard and fast rules for who is and isn't trans is basing transness on genitals and some random doctor's opinion on those genitals. It's such a fucked up and bigoted mentality to go by. It needs to stop. We just need to accept that sometimes people who aren't exactly like you will benefit from the same resources you do and STOP REINFORCING THE SYSTEM WE'RE LITERALLY TRYING TO FIGHT AGAINST.

God I swear some people only want to progress away from right wing ideology only enough so that covers their personal identity and then they just say fuck everyone else. That's not activism, that's not fighting for equal rights, I'm not gonna listen to your opinion if you disregard entire ass groups of people.

[hail-dondus]

…I ratioed JK Rowling?!? 💀

[i-just-like-commenting]

Text: decoupling pregnancy from femininity means accurate and more inclusive language and treatment, but it also allows cis women to refuse motherhood without refusing womanhood, which is great for feminism and terrifying for misogyny.

–THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIS. As a sterile cis woman who doesn’t want to have children anyway I feel this is every ounce of my being. “Define woman” types tend to do so in a way that excludes me too, so I got to stand with my trans sisters.

[chirpasaurus]

Your periodic reminder that “divine feminine” this “magic womb” that is just patriarchy in gauze and glitter. REJECT THE BOX even when it has a makeover.

[commersons-fucking-dolphin]

Yes, and having the ability to get pregnant/pregnancy/childbirth be decoupled from womanhood and femininity is ESSENTIAL for the health and well-being of trans men, trans masculine folks, non-binary folks, and basically just anyone ANYONE who has the ability to get pregnant or give birth. We ALL need to stand together on this, among other things.