I’m losing my goddamn mind here.
I’ve been poly for at least 20 years, my wife (trans woman) only got into it in the last few years. She’s had a couple of long-distance girlfriends, and about a month ago she drove to another state to spend a week with the current one. (Not for romantic reasons, she was honestly in a bad way and needed help.) While she was gone, I decided I was going to get back on the horse, so to speak, and go back to dating apps.
Once she got back, I downloaded Bumble again and started looking at local guys. For a few days, it constantly ran out of guys, cuz I’m incredibly picky and kept swiping left. Eventually it started looking outside my age and distance ranges.
That’s when I saw Aaron. He checked all my boxes: big boy with a beard, piercings, tattoos, liberal/atheist, loves pinball and the same video games I play, HUGE Ghost fan.
He’s also only 36. I’m gonna be 44 in April.
I decided not to swipe right immediately, since I knew the holidays are super stressful for everybody, and who wants to think about potentially dating during that whole mess? I waited until January 2nd.
It was an immediate match.
He messaged me about 20 minutes later, with a silly 60’s Batman gif. The conversation was a little slow going at first, but the next morning we started talking about Ghost and Final Fantasy 14, and we were off to the races. He very quickly said he thought I was cute, and that he loved my photo where I was wearing one of my Ghost shirts (the Few Dates Called Death one). He asked for a selfie that night; I sent him a non-dirty one and he said I was “so fucking cute” with heart emojis. He asked for my number after I went to sleep.
We’ve been texting every day since, and we have our first date scheduled for this Thursday. He’s driving all the way over here after work so we can go play pinball and have a few beers.
The part that’s driving me crazy is that, he already has 2 partners. He told me the other night that he wasn’t looking for a 3rd, but he has a tendency to fall quickly for people. We’ve more or less already accepted that I’m going to be the 3rd. It makes me feel a bit selfish, because I would’ve been fine just being friends, despite already having a massive crush on him. I know it’ll be difficult for him to find time for me, and I certainly don’t want to keep him from spending time with the others. He’s just so fucking cute and sweet; he already asked if he can kiss me on our first date, of course I said yes. I’m about to watch fucking Monday Night Football because he’s a Vikings fan, and I know he’ll be watching too.
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