unspoken

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[unspokensuggestion]

you are allowed to be wrong you are allowed to mess up you are allowed to be embarrassing.

[k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl]

what if we promised to keep living? would you do that for me? would you do that for yourself?

[k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl]

even if you're scared, just promise me tomorrow?

[k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl]

you made it and im so proud of you, I'll see you tomorrow?

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

you'll feel like a total dipshit train wreck and no matter what some girl is gonna see you and think "role model". you can't kill yourself you have to go be clocky in the gas station so a 14 year old can have the trajectory of her life altered forever

[duchessvongooseberg]

as annoying as it is to work fast food, at my previous job one time a kid recognized the theta delta pin on my hat and was so fucking excited because i was the first other therian they had ever encountered offline.

"hey....are you a therian?" "yeah!" "what kind of animal?" "eh, some kinda dog" "😲😀 im like a wolf coyote hybrid" "that's fuckin awesome"

to be weird is to cast lifelines all around you

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

tags from @k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl

what really drives me nuts is that like. this happens an average of x times per year as a visibly weird person, but we only get made aware of it a small fraction of the time. you can't kill yourself you have to be clocky in the gas station.

[analogdelight]

Being clocky when i was working as a barista was one of my big joys. Being clocky when i was teaching high schoolers how to play the marimba was my reason for being for half a decade. It sucks how scared I am to leave the house I live in now. But I still need to try and be clocky at the grocery store. I wish i had a job to be clocky at. Being visibly me is one of the most radical acts I'm capable of, and I hope that one day we live in a world where it isn't radical at all.

[th3vi0linist]

I was a tutor really early in my transition. Pre-HRT, really terrible at makeup, entirely unsure how to dress myself. And while, as far as I know, I was never that sort of role model to a student, I do know that after a few months, even the sort of wary, very conservative parents were so much more... comfortable around me, so much more normal, and I can't imagine a world where that didn't have an impact. And if I didn't have the courage to correct a parent who misgendered me, looking the way I did at the time, that wouldn't have happened!

And if I didn't have the courage to do my job every day, I think that even though I wasn't a role model for gender reasons, there absolutely are people out there now who have a little bit better perception of their abilities because I was able to meet them where they were at, and play a small part in building a kinder world.

Do the scary thing, it's worth it.

[cyprozombiegirl]

if you're a trans woman it is very important that you're friends with people who are interested in living and living well. Find gym rats, painters, academics, devoted gardeners, gourmands, cinephiles, audiophiles, wine snobs, fashionistas... anyone who is deeply devoted to something in life, that fascinates them, brings them peace, and compels them to live. Learn from them, ask them to show you what's so good about ____. Imagine yourself as one of those anime slice of life characters who've learned that they can be satisfied (fulfilled even) with life as long as they pursue their love of __. The world is full of so much misery for us, and so many of us let that misery and hatred eat away at us until we're depressed, angry shells of people. Refuse that, choose life, choose learning how to live well. Choose enriching your senses by training them.

[pastperfectcontinuous]

bell hooks mentioned going through a time in her life where she was severely depressed and suicidal and how the only way she got through it was through changing her environment: She surrounded her home with buddhas of all colors, Audre Lorde’s A Litany for Survival facing her as she wakes up, and filling the space she saw everyday with reinforcing objects and meaningful books. She asks herself each day, “What are you going to do today to resist domination?” I also really liked it when she said that in order to move from pain to power, it is crucial to engage in “an active rewriting of our lives.”

[ritavonbees]

I have come to think of the suicidal impulse as the brain waving a flag to say three things:

something needs to change here

this is urgent

I don’t know how to do it

death is the ultimate metaphor for drastic change. it’s a general specific. whatever your problems are, it is very likely that dead people don’t have to deal with them. a real solution to your problems may demand a very narrow range of action that’s likely to be out of reach at this moment, but death is sold on every street corner, so it feels like a more realistic fantasy than happiness.

you don’t really want to die per se but it’s also not completely random chemicals swamping your brain for no reason. you want the pain to stop, you want to be somewhere else, you want to be someone else. it’s urgent. you don’t know how to do it. the end is not the end but a means that feels within your reach right now.

this is the wisdom of bell hooks: daily rituals of meaning and resistance and solidarity are part of slowly building a future where you can make the change you really need. and only alive people can do that. every step you take towards change and power is another step away from death.

[kosmogrl]

you can begin again and again and again for the rest of your life

[lovewithagirl]

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[flying-potato2]

"the world isn't kind" we are the world. lets make it kind.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

this post will find you when it needs to find you.

just some facts: you are loved. you are not alone. you are valuable. you are worthy of good things. you are deserving of self love and forgiveness. i’m glad you’re still here.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

someone in your life wants you to be safe right now

[stolenchapstick]

i have to remind myself everyday

[margoliath]

I LOVE LIVING

[margoliath]

AND THE SUN IS SHINING AND I LOVE YOU

[flowrrs4u]

I am good. I am loved.

[nonaferatu]

This would have had me crucified on tumblr 10 years ago but maybe we are ready for this conversation now:

If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.

This is a PSA to about 3/4s of the Portland Youth populace

[nonaferatu]

everyone who reblogs this and is like "I ordered my own tea this week" or "I only barfed once when I had to give a presentation'- you are doing amazing sweetie. Have patience with yourself, you are relearning a skill so difficult that people get 4 year degrees to do it professionally.

[andreablog2]

Never talk bad about yourself to other people they’ll either agree or tell you some flattering nonsense that won’t help whatever problem you’re trying to solve. Honestly just be delusional

[tumbwr]

i love you and never ever kill yourself

[guooey]

Patrick Ness, More Than This

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

life is too short to dwell on every little mistake you make. people make mistakes. the important part is growing from them.