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sarah | she/he/they | 21 dumb of heart, dumb of ass draws sometimes | tim stoker pls dm me back

[nyxfaei]

My partner kept talking about Cat Will Wood and the image wouldn’t leave my head

[jahminican]

Praying for the woman I’ll be in 5+yrs I hope she’s happy, and loved, living life unapologetically, doing what she loves.

[anthonycrowleymoved]

I'm sorry if you've answered this or something like this elsewhere, but watching you talking about spn and destiel has made me want to experience some of this for myself, but like not enough to actually watch all of spn, I only want to be hate crimed a little, so off the top of your head, what would be the best episodes to scratch the itch? just like 3-5ish episodes that really say this is the supernatural experience if that makes sense

five episode spn speedrun to Get The Feel For It (disclaimer: dean’s my favorite character so i’m biased). pick one from each category. i’m putting these episodes from most recommended to least recommended in each category, if you want to know my personal taste. or just watch all of them from one category i’m not the boss of you:

EPISODE THAT ACTUALLY GIVES YOU A FEEL FOR THE OVERALL VIBE WITHOUT NEEDING THE CONTEXT OF WATCHING FIFTEEN FUCKING SEASONS: jus in bello (3x12), lazarus rising (4x1)*, pilot (1x1)

EPISODE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL SHIT**: what is and what should never be (2x20), faith (1x12), all hell breaks loose (2x21-22)

EPISODE THAT IS JUST OFF THE WALL BONKERS WHY DID THEY DO THIS: mystery spot (3x11), changing channels (5x8), yellow fever (4x6), scoobynatural (13x16), the one you’ve been waiting for (12x5), ghostfacers (3x13), LARP and the real girl (8x11)***

EPISODE WITH META CONTENT: the french mistake (6x15), the monster at the end of this book (4x18), fan fiction**** (10x5), the real ghostbusters (5x9)

EPISODE THAT HATECRIMES YOU ACTIVELY: clap your hands if you believe (6x9) is the one you NEED to watch if you want to be hatecrimed but if you want other moments to be hatecrimed SPECIFICALLY off the top of my head we have - sex and violence (4x14), playthings (2x11), the girl with the dungeons and dragons tattoo (7x20) and something wicked (1x18), as well as, if i remember correctly, all of season 8. note that this is a non-exhaustive list.

*watch lazarus rising no matter what because frankly if i don’t say this cas fans will come for me. also it’s really good i just have a weird attachment to jus in bello

**this is the most biased section because all of these make me feel things for dean in particular

***yes i know there are a lot and it’s because i like this particular category of episodes they are objectively the best type of spn episodes

****yes this is the real name of the episode

[teaboot]

Just passed a group of teenage girls walking downtown.... wearing cargo pants and platform crocs.... nature really is healing......

[teaboot]

Cannot stress enough that this is NOT a condemnation, this is genuine delight that young girls in my town have stopped dressing up like Kardashians and are finally just goofing around on summer break in comfortable shoes and funky graphic shirts.

15 year olds should not be worries about having a thigh gap, they should be trying on SpongeBob bucket hats at the pier and drinking twice their weight in corn syrup like hummingbirds

[asterkid-deactivated20150106]

tomorrow……… is august„„„„,?????

its augu…….st?? tomorrW???????????

8th monTH???????? 4 ,more mont hs of 2013?????????????

what??????????????????????????????………………………..

[three--rings]

Okay, Gen Z, younger millennials, please tell me, are you aware of what the title Ms. means? And how to pronounce it?

Because I just listened to several young 20-somethings pronounce it Miss and talk about how it means you’re not married. And…I’m feeling weird about it, considering that’s the title I use.

(It means my marital status is none of your business. I use it because I’m married but I kept my maiden name so I’m not Mrs. anyone.)

[three--rings]

These comments really are fascinating and it seems especially people whose first language isn’t English aren’t sure about this, which is fair. But as I suspected some young folks aren’t clear either?

It seems like Ms. has been conflated with Miss and Miss has fallen out of favor, which is fair, but the meanings have been confused.

So here:

Ms. has some antique origins similar to Mrs. and Miss (all short for Mistress) but was revived in the 20th century (mostly in the 60s and 70s) by feminists as an all-purpose female title.

The problem with Miss and Mrs. is that they are tied specifically to marital status. (Miss is SPECIFICALLY an unmarried woman and Mrs. is a woman who is married or has been married. Yes, even older women can be Miss and a widow is still Mrs. (of course if they so choose).

While Mr. isn’t tied to marital status for men, of course. So Ms. is the female equivalent to Mr., intended to be used both as a default term when you don’t know someone’s marital status and ALSO as a term of choice when you don’t wish to be defined by your relationship to a man.

This was very much a political thing, part of second-wave feminism (which of course has it’s flaws). (Ms. magazine was a feminist women’s magazine which popularized the term.)

It’s pronounced something like Miz or Mzz.

So for me, I’ve used Ms. basically since I got out of college anytime I’m asked for a title. First because I didn’t want my marital status to be a thing of concern in professional settings. And when I was living with my now-husband but we weren’t married. And then after we were married and I kept my own last name because IMO neither of the other options was relevant.

(The keeping your own name thing is a different discussion probably, but I did it partly out of desire to stay the same “person” and partly out of apathy. Also my husband’s last name isn’t even the same as his parents (because remarriage) so there was no pressure there to change it and he gave no fucks about it. In fact, he’s almost seriously thought about changing his name to mine because he likes my family better, lol.)

But anyway, I feel like it’s important to keep the intention of Ms. alive because it’s so very useful and needed to have an equal partner to Mr. And more useful than ever with so many situations where you may be married/committed but not using your partner’s name (ie. gay married, poly relationships, not legally married for reasons of disability, idk whatever).

But Ms. does NOT mean unmarried. It means someone could be of ANY marital status: never married, currently married, divorced, widowed, etc. It means “it’s not your business because you don’t ask a man his marital status the first second you meet him so buzz off.”

[postilionstruckbylightning]

I’m an older millennial, and I remember the battle for “Ms” was still happening in the 90s. Lots of smug old fuckers asking women “Are you a Miss or a Mrs? We don’t use ‘Ms’ here.” It was so similar to the “they/them” pushback of today, with the same “You can’t expect me to learn a *third* word!” histrionics. As a (then) man I found the whole thing so bizarre, and it’s weird to think it’s already been kind of forgotten.

[faggotri]

honestly the best thing i’ve done in the past year was replacing “i wanna die” with “i wanna commit a crime.” same humor and sentiment without the suicidal ideation

[faggotri]

thank you SO much for this tag

[100493503004422]

I should be less worried about seeming annoying. plenty of people are annoying and they all seem to be doing fine

[valtsv]

forgot i was working in the meat section at my workplace today and briefly experienced what it's like to be an indie horror game protagonist

[valtsv]

coworker: uhhh there's some blood leaking out from under the storeroom door can you go check that out

me:

me, remembering that i'm working on the raw meats counter and not about to meet jeff the killer at the fridge:

[newsfromstolenland]

you know you're allowed to reflect on and change your positions/opinions on things, right? every day people double down on some bullshit they said in the past and it blows my mind that people act like that's the only option.

we've all believed things that turn out to be untrue or morally wrong, that's normal and human, and we're all capable of acknowledging our faults and doing better in the future. swallow your fucking pride and start acting better!

[consecuences]

[chemicalheart-deactivated202009]

Protecting people who are seen as worthless in society - drug addicts, sex workers, homeless people etc - is absolutely central to antifascism because their destruction is central to fascism

[ink-phoenix]

Radical care is antifa. Protect the most vulnerable members of your community.

[sojaaoyaar]

i miss the math that was like x+9=18 like yea girl its 9

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

I stopped reading DNIs because 90% of the time they were just fucking inscrutable to me. I’d go to somebody’s page and it would be like “DNI if you’re a COSLA apologist,” so then I would Google COSLA and it was just like “Welp, either things are really heating up in the Convention of Scottish Local Authorities fandom or I still have no idea what the fuck this person is talking about.” Or “DNI if you identify as ANFO.” Okay, well, I definitely don’t identify as Ammonium Nitrate/Fuel Oil, but that’s probably not what you meant (although hey, maybe you did; I obviously don’t know enough about your views on chemical compounds to outright dispute that option).” Like, you have my blessing to hate whatever obscure fandom pairing or super niche kink group you want, but just know I am embracing ignorance on this one and will not be looking that shit up. Peace.

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

#op i know you’re joking about the convention of scottish local authorities fandom#however when four of the councils bounced in 2015 i did hear the irl equivalent of ‘dni if you’re a cosla apologist’#from a lot of the glasgow labour and labour-adjacent crowd & it was very much a Thing for a couple years

The BEST addition to this post, hands down. I am absolutely cackling, thank you.

[duskargentum]

The concept of a “favorite color” is so funny

[duskargentum]

[funeral-clown]

i might just be autistic but data entry fucking rules dudes you just. enter the data. you take the data and you plug it in. then what? who knows! who cares. the data. has been entered. what next? buddy you’re not gonna believe this it’s more fucking data. excel used to be my enemy but now she is my best friend

[funeral-clown]

Of course the autism pattern sorting post takes off on the autism website

[pro-gay]

anyway q*eer is a slur and privileged liberals made everyone believe its OK to call everyone that cause they watched a Ted talk in 2017. and if you don't know why at this point that's a you problem. look it up. or better yet, go the fuck out and talk to a LGBT person older than 30. unacceptable.

[baixueagain]

Hi, I'm a queer person over 30. Queer was fully reclaimed before I even hit puberty. Most non-radfem folks in the community will tell you the exact same thing. Making queer back into a slur is a radfem psyop and completely ahistorical.

[eroticcannibal]

Litterally every older queer i know is fine with the word or at least has no issue with it being used just not aimed at them. The only people I ever met complaining are kids and radfems

[pro-gay]

oh is that fucking so.

cause I live in Central Manchester. one of the gayest cities in the UK.

you know how many times I've been called a queer out of a moving car.

call me a q*eer and I'll show you kids and radfems, fucking entitled shits, the lot of u

[eroticcannibal]

Being called queer out of a moving care does nothing to negate anything ive said, sorry ❤

[pro-gay]

if you think me being attacked by violent homophobes with a slur, which is a slur, used today as a slur, while perpetuating violence, doesn't negate anything you said you genuinely are a fucked up person, needless to say stupid, and part of the problem I'm talking about. ty for being an example. now never speak to me again u disgusting waste of air.

[fandomsandfeminism]

Hi. As a 30+ year old queer woman...you asked for anecdotes and personal responses. You specifically said to talk to US. And now you seem...upset that a lot of 30+ queer folks have come in here and shared their stories with you.

Yes, some bigots still use queer as a slur. You know what the bigots at my high school called me when they threw rocks at my and my friends at the bus loop? Gay. Lesbian. I grew up with the chorus of "that's so gay" and "ugh is she some hairy man hating lesbian?" And "I don't want that predatory lesbian hanging around here." (That last one came from my closeted high school girlfriends dad..... yay)

All our words can and have been used as insults at some time. To pathologize us or mock us or criminalize us. And all of us deal with that in different ways.

Queer is interesting because it's the word that got moved into activist and academic spaces - WITHOUT it coming into broad mainstream use. Aside from Queer Eye and Queer as Folk, you really don't see it showing up in mainstream use. But Queer Nation and Queer Studies have been around longer than me!

The thing with labels is that only you can chose which ones fit. So if queer doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. That doesn't make the people who DO use those words wrong or evil or ignorant or privileged or whatever you want to try to say.

But mostly? Don't tell people to go talk to 30+ year Olds, and then throw a FIT when 30+ year Olds talk back.