something that's been really bothering me about the discourse around dumbing of age is the idea that joe doesn't "deserve this" or that, after building up narrative steam, it's "out of character" that joyce would drop joe.
as much as we love these characters, they're not real people, they don't "deserve" things, they don't have core traits that mean they do and don't do certain things--i mean. i dunno how much i believe this about real people, but that's besides the point.
characters don't exist in a vacuum, they're gears (and pulleys!) in a larger narrative machine, one that is trying to communicate thoughts and ideas. interestingly, as much hay as is made about whether or not this comic is teaching a moral lesson, i believe it is, one that's loud and clear and perhaps unpalatable--
there is nothing you can do that means you "deserve" another person.
it's easy to buy this in big, abstract ways that only indict jerks. "save" a woman? you didn't "earn" her. be a performative "nice guy"? tough luck, buddy! why not try changing and be selfless and genuine and open, and accept this woman is her own person with her own feelings and desires?
well. you still don't "deserve" her. tough luck.
joe has gone above and beyond. he's been self-sacrificing, he's been patient, he's been sweet. he's taken a long hard look at himself and torn up the foundations and started from scratch. and he needed to do this, to become this new guy, because the person he was before was genuinely just an awful piece of shit. and none of it means joyce is interested in building a life with him.
and it's not just joe. or even just walky! sarah bared her soul to jacob and he chose lucy. or, hell, look at billie--she's refused growth and change, again and again, and alice chose her anyway, despite knowing how dangerous billie's affection can be.
because what this comic is showing us is love isn't rational. there's no perfect set of winning moves. there's no moral calculous so great, no sacrifice so tremendous, that it means the people we love will love us. all we can do is try, and fail, again and again, until we find the people who are our kinda irrational.
i think dorothy/joyce/joe could be a fun dynamic. i feel for joe over his heartbreak. but at a certain point you gotta do actual, base-ass textual analysis and figure out why this is happening, what it means, and what you're supposed to take away from it, at least if you want to have meaningful conversations about art.
if you don't wanna have meaningful conversations about art, that's cool too, i guess. you do you