War Bonds and Simple Songs @warbondsandsimplesongs - Tumblr Blog

Ive told this story before and I'll tell it again amd again until the world changes. When I was 18, freshly orphaned, at my first ever job, trying to go to college I met my first serious boyfriend. He was 24, we ended up moving in together and he was so controlling and emotionally abusing that I had a genuine epiphany.

After 2 years of this I asked myself "How could I have let this happen? How did I not see the red flags? How did it get this far?" And it hit me. He treated exactly the same way my adults treated me when I was a child. I didn't see any red flags because I'd never been treated any differently. I'd be screamed at for being lazy, if I wanted anything then I was selfish. I was physically intimidated to make me behave. My emotions were "dramatic", and if I complained at all I heard the "everything I do for you" speech. He treated me exactly the way id always been treated and I didn't even recognize it as abuse until I wanted to kill myself about it.

That realization changed my life. Its a big part of why I work with children now. Parents sometimes hate when I say this but you need to treat your children how you would want their future partners to treat them. They are going to use their relationship with you as the blueprint for every other relationship in their life.

And it keeps them safe *now* as well. People who groom children are able to do so easily because many children havent experienced an adult be kind to them before. All the predators need to do is treat them like a person for a bit and of course they seem safe and friendly. If you treat your children with respect and kindness then their uncle or babysitter or whoever is gonna have a harder time gaining their trust and getting close to them because their tactics don't work if the child already expects to be treated like a person. Plus if your child feels safe and respected most of the time the moment someone makes them feel unsafe they can immediately know this isnt right and they will trust you to fix it.

Keeping children, and the adults they will become, safe isn't about tracking or the games they play, or if they get to go to a friend's house or not. Its about you treating them so well that they are able to recognize and seek help the moment a red flag appears.

sapphireh3arts

i know folks are gonna call me a pedo for this one, but i grew up seeing my mom and grandma naked. they had health issues and at times needed care and help showering. and i truly think more kids need to be shown the nonsexual reality of naked women at a young age. there is nothing sexual about my grandmothers breasts, they were simply body parts. more women die of heart attacks because people are too afraid of breasts to do real chest compressions, because they are scared to touch their breasts. the sexualization of our bodies literally kills us. i need people to be more normal about naked bodies and i'm 100% serious.

depsidase

itsblosseybitch

Made a new poster! :)

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reblog and put in the tags the real reason you joined tumblr no matter how horrible or embarrassing it is

#ex recommended it

thesadtadpole

Me when the obviously doomed character doesn't get a happy ending

dunmertitty

warbondsandsimplesongs

#Hadestown

bodyfeeling

op turned off reblogs but i want this post on my blog

zzoupz

I know basically nothing about tarot cards but I absolutely need to make this a reality

alaskanskald

Ah. The Capricorn card.

no-resolution

Happy 29th anniversary to the show of all time!!!

(Premiered March 10th 1997)

capinejghafa

Josh Johnson: So much of the of the culture, so much of what people like about a culture that they're willing to take in, they try to do as best as possible to the exclusion of the people that the culture is actually from. Right? So, you'll see how people of Latin descent have been treated in this country the entire time while we fall in love with more and more and more and more of their stuff. You know what I mean? And it's something that obviously happens to black people. It's something that's happened to Asian-Americans and everything, but it's something that doesn't always get addressed is that if you loved what we make, then just love us. We made it.

SINNERS (2025) dir. RYAN COOGLER // JOSH JOHNSON (10.7.25)